By Annie Wright, LMFT · Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (#95719)

Clinically reviewed June 2026

The Empath and the Narcissist: Why You Were Chosen and How to Break the Pattern

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery • March 19, 2026

Last reviewed: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT

In short: Highly sensitive people are disproportionately selected by narcissistic partners because their empathy, responsiveness, and capacity for deep emotional investment make them ideal sources of narcissistic supply.

She Could Feel Everyone in the Room. Except the Danger

In my clinical work with driven women over fifteen years, I’ve watched a specific pattern surface so consistently that I now anticipate it: the women who describe themselves as deeply empathic, unusually attuned, someone who “just knows” how people feel, are almost always the same women sitting across from me rebuilding after a relationship that methodically dismantled their sense of reality. In roughly eight out of ten cases, the partner they are describing had significant narcissistic traits. And in every single case, they arrived wondering the same thing. Not about him. About themselves.

Monique had wanted to be a pediatrician since she was nine. She became one. The kind who remembered her patients’ birthdays, who tracked down families who missed follow-ups, who cried in her car after delivering bad news and then walked back in and did it again the next morning. Her colleagues called her the most empathic doctor on the floor. Her ex-husband called her exhausting.

She came to see me eight months after her divorce was finalized. Forty-one years old, accomplished in every measurable way, completely baffled by the wreckage of her personal life. She had been married six years to a man who had seemed, in the early days, to be exactly what she needed: assured where she was uncertain, decisive where she agonized. He didn’t need her to manage his feelings, or so she’d believed. What she later understood was that he didn’t have feelings in the ordinary sense. What he had were needs. She had become extraordinarily efficient at meeting them.

“I kept thinking I was finally in a relationship where I could rest,” she told me, turning a signet ring around her finger. “Everyone in my life needed something from me emotionally. My patients, my staff, my mother. Marcus seemed so self-contained. But looking back, I was working just as hard. I was just working hard at not bothering him.”

The marriage ended with what she described as a slow erasure. Her preferences became inconveniences. Her opinions became provocations. Her feelings became evidence of her oversensitivity. His word, deployed with precision whenever she tried to name what was happening. By the end she was questioning whether her perceptions were accurate, whether her needs were reasonable, whether the clinical training that made her so good at reading other people had somehow failed in her own home.

What Monique kept circling wasn’t a question about him. She’d been a physician for fifteen years. She knew what narcissistic personality looked like. She had missed it happening in her own bedroom. “How is that possible?” she asked. The answer has everything to do with what being a highly sensitive person actually is, where it comes from, and the very specific developmental logic that makes this dynamic feel, at first, like coming home.

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What Is Sensory Processing Sensitivity, and Why Does It Matter Here?

Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) is a measurable, neurobiologically grounded trait characterized by deeper processing of sensory and social information, greater emotional reactivity, and heightened awareness of subtle environmental cues. It is not a disorder. It is not a pathology. It is a temperament trait.

The clinical term “empath” is popular shorthand, but it obscures more than it reveals. The underlying construct with actual research support is Sensory Processing Sensitivity, identified and studied extensively by Elaine Aron, PhD, psychologist and researcher at Stony Brook University, who coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) in 1996. Aron’s research, and the two decades of follow-up research it generated, documents that SPS appears in roughly 15 to 20 percent of humans (and a similar percentage across 100+ animal species), suggesting it’s an adaptive strategy maintained by natural selection, not a deficit (Aron & Aron, 1997).

Alongside SPS, two other clinical constructs are central here: anxious attachment and deep cognitive empathy. Anxious attachment, described by John Bowlby, MD, psychiatrist and originator of attachment theory, is an insecure attachment style characterized by fear of abandonment, hypervigilance to relational signals, and difficulty trusting that a partner will remain available. Cognitive empathy is the capacity to accurately model another person’s inner state, separate from the emotional resonance of affective empathy. Together, these three traits, SPS, anxious attachment, and high cognitive empathy, don’t simply co-occur. They form a profile. And that profile is what narcissistic individuals are, consciously or not, selecting for.

I want to be careful about something here. Calling this a “profile” is not victim-blaming. It is clinical description. The profile describes a person with extraordinary relational gifts: someone who feels deeply, tracks others accurately, and cares intensely about connection. What makes this a vulnerability is not the traits themselves. It’s the specific developmental history that, for many HSPs, amplified these traits past healthy expression into compulsive self-erasure.

Why Are Highly Sensitive People Selected by Narcissistic Partners?

Narcissistic personality structure is organized around a fragile, shame-driven sense of self that requires continuous external validation, what clinicians call narcissistic supply, to function. People with significant narcissistic traits are pattern-recognizers, whether consciously or not. They seek people who will provide that supply reliably and with minimal friction. The highly sensitive person, particularly one with anxious attachment, fits this profile almost precisely.

Consider what SPS actually looks like from a partner’s perspective: you notice when someone seems off before they say anything. You feel a pull toward people who appear to be in pain. You read intention generously and give the benefit of the doubt. You feel the weight of someone’s disappointment in your body, not just as an abstract fact. For someone who needs constant emotional tending and has little capacity to reciprocate, these qualities aren’t just appealing. They’re functionally ideal.

Research on narcissistic relationship dynamics by Darlene Lancer, LMFT, author of Conquering Shame and Codependency, and others has consistently documented that individuals with high empathy and anxious attachment are more likely to: remain in relationships longer despite mistreatment, attribute harmful behavior to their partner’s unmet pain rather than intention, reframe manipulation as a cry for help, and exhaust their resources trying to fix a dynamic they didn’t create (Lancer, 2014).

There’s also what psychologists call complementarity, the way opposing trait profiles create an initial sense of completion. You feel deeply and struggle to hold your own needs as primary. A narcissistic partner seems certain of their own importance and unmoved by others’ feelings. Early in the relationship, that certainty can feel like stability. Their absence of self-doubt reads as groundedness. The specific distress you feel about your sensitivity can register as confirmation that their apparent immunity to it is somehow the answer. You’re experiencing the mirror image of your wound. The reflection feels, for a time, like relief.

The love bombing phase that opens most of these relationships is particularly potent for someone with high SPS and anxious attachment. For perhaps the first time, someone is attending to you with the same intensity you’ve always given others. The focus is consistent, specific, fast-moving. You feel seen in a way you rarely feel seen. That experience is neurologically real: intermittent intense reward activates the same dopaminergic pathways as variable-ratio reinforcement, building attachment disproportionate to the actual relational history. You’ve spent your life attending. Being attended to can feel like finally arriving somewhere you’ve always been heading.

Monique described the early months with Marcus almost the way you’d describe a diagnosis you were relieved to finally receive. “He remembered everything,” she told me, still turning that signet ring. “The name of my residency attending who’d been cruel to me. My coffee order. The exact thing I’d said I wanted and never gotten.” What she couldn’t see at the time, and what took us months to name, was that the attention had a function. She was fuel. Her radar for other people’s needs, the very thing that made her the doctor who tracked down missing families, made her an extraordinarily reliable source of the supply his shame-driven self required. She wasn’t chosen despite her sensitivity. She was chosen for it.

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What Developmental Wounds Create Vulnerability to This Dynamic?

High Sensory Processing Sensitivity is present at birth. But the highly sensitive person who ends up in repeated narcissistic dynamics almost always has something more than a trait. They have a developmental history that amplified that trait in a very specific direction: toward compulsive attunement to others at the cost of their own internal experience.

The clinical term for this is emotional parentification. And it describes something I see, with remarkable consistency, in driven women healing from narcissistic relationships.

The clinical literature on parentification consistently documents its long-term effects: difficulty asserting one’s own needs, chronic self-monitoring, heightened empathic attunement, and a deep-seated belief that one’s worth is contingent on how well one takes care of others (Jurkovic, 1997; Hooper, 2007). These aren’t character flaws. They’re the predictable results of a developmental experience that required self-erasure as a condition of connection.

Alongside parentification is a related nervous-system pattern that Pete Walker, MFT, psychotherapist and author of Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, named the fawn response: the fourth primary trauma response (alongside fight, flight, and freeze), in which the nervous system learns that appeasing, accommodating, and prioritizing the threatening person’s needs is the most reliable strategy for staying safe. The fawn response doesn’t present as dramatic fear. From the inside, it feels like helpfulness, sensitivity, and care. It is those things. It also operates as a compulsion rather than a choice.

A client of mine, Reyna, a therapist in Pasadena, described it precisely. We were sitting in a November afternoon, the sky white outside the window. She’d been in her own therapy for almost two years and had reached the moment of understanding I see so often: the moment when the pattern becomes visible as a pattern, not just as a series of unfortunate choices. “I used to think my empathy was just who I was,” she said. “And then I realized it was also what I learned to do. I learned to feel other people’s feelings because I had to. My mother was unpredictable and I needed to know what was coming.” She paused, looking at her hands. “I’d been doing the same thing in my marriage. Tracking his feelings so I could prepare myself. The whole time I thought I was being loving.”

What Reyna articulated is what Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist and professor at Harvard Medical School, author of Trauma and Recovery, documented in her foundational 1992 research on complex trauma: chronic exposure to a person who alternates unpredictably between warmth and contempt, closeness and withdrawal, creates a trauma response similar to prolonged abuse. The nervous system becomes hypervigilant. Leaving feels impossible not because you lack intelligence or strength, but because your threat-detection system has been recalibrated by the relationship itself.

The complex PTSD that develops in the context of narcissistic abuse is real, documented, and consistently underrecognized, particularly in women who present as composed and competent even as their internal world is in crisis. There is also something specifically wounding about the way highly sensitive people experience gaslighting: because your identity is organized around accurately reading others, being systematically told that your perceptions are wrong strikes at something foundational. The self-doubt that follows isn’t weakness. It’s the predictable result of sustained relational invalidation applied to your most central capacity.

How Does the Pattern Actually Play Out in Real Relationships?

The pattern almost always begins with what feels, genuinely, like relief. You meet someone who seems extraordinarily interested in you. Your story, your mind, your work. For someone who has spent most of their life oriented outward, that inward focus from another person can feel intoxicating. The attention is consistent, intense, fast-moving. You feel seen in a way you rarely feel seen.

Then something shifts. A comment that stings, a withdrawal that comes from nowhere, a moment where you feel suddenly judged rather than adored. The natural response is to repair: to explain yourself more clearly, to be more understanding, to give more. This is where the highly sensitive person’s wiring becomes the relationship’s organizing dynamic. The narcissistic partner has discovered, whether deliberately or through unconscious pattern-recognition, that whenever they withdraw warmth or introduce tension, you work harder. The intermittent reinforcement cycle, warmth then withdrawal then warmth again, trains you the way variable-ratio reinforcement trains any organism: into a state of high vigilance and persistent trying. Dutton and Painter documented this mechanism in their foundational 1981 research on traumatic bonding, showing that this kind of reinforcement pattern creates stronger neurological attachment than consistent warmth does.

What this looks like inside the relationship: you analyze every communication for tone. You rehearse conversations before having them. You edit your emotional responses to avoid triggering displeasure. You become expert at reading their moods, and you use that expertise not to protect yourself, but to manage them. You experience their occasional warmth as evidence that the connection is real, and you invest the next round of effort on the basis of that evidence. This is trauma bonding. Not a character flaw. Not stupidity. Not weakness. It is a biochemical process that has been, deliberately or not, engineered.

Meanwhile, a specific erosion is happening at the level of identity. Your opinions become provocations. Your needs become requests that require extensive justification. Your feelings become evidence of your oversensitivity. You notice that you no longer say certain things, have certain conversations, make certain choices, not because they’re wrong, but because they’re inconvenient to him. The gaslighting isn’t just interpersonal. It’s applied specifically to the capacity you most rely on: your ability to accurately read and name what is happening around you.

Monique came back to this exact mechanism one afternoon, about four months into our work, describing the night the marriage tipped from confusing to unmistakable. She had brought Marcus a clear, careful account of something he’d done that had hurt her, the way she’d bring a differential to a colleague. He responded not with any engagement but with a list of her historical failures, so specific and so calmly delivered that she left the conversation believing she’d caused the original problem. She was quiet telling me this. “I’ve read ten thousand charts,” she said, with a flatness that was harder to hear than anger. “I diagnose for a living. And I sat there and accepted that.”

What Monique was describing is what Stephen W. Porges, PhD, neuroscientist and professor at Indiana University, calls dorsal vagal shutdown. His polyvagal theory, developed through decades of research on the autonomic nervous system, explains how chronic relational threat can move a person’s nervous system from social engagement (the responsive, connected state) through sympathetic activation (fight or flight) and eventually into a kind of collapse. That collapse isn’t passivity or weakness. It’s biology. It’s what happens when the nervous system has run the threat-response cycle too many times with no resolution (Porges, 2011).

By the time the women I work with arrive in my office, they’re exhausted in a way that goes past physical. They’ve been managing another person’s emotional world, second-guessing their own perceptions, and shrinking their needs for so long that they’ve lost the thread of who they were before the relationship. That experience of doubting your own reality is one of the most consistent features of this pattern, and one of the most important to name clearly before healing can begin.

Both/And: Your Sensitivity Kept You Safe and It Is Now Costing You

Something important gets lost in most writing about this dynamic, and I want to name it directly: the framework can become a new prison if applied without care.

When we explain that highly sensitive, anxiously attached people are selected by narcissistic partners, we’re offering something genuinely useful. An explanation that removes self-blame at the level of character and locates the pattern in experience rather than essence. That matters. But it can tip into something less useful: a story in which the sensitive person is entirely passive, entirely a victim, and in which the narcissistic partner is purely a monster to be escaped. Neither is fully true. Treating them as though they are actually gets in the way of recovery.

Your high sensitivity and your attunement were brilliant adaptations. In childhood environments where a parent’s mood determined your safety, your access to connection, your sense of worth, developing exquisite emotional radar was the intelligent response. Wise. Protective. The sensitivity that now makes you vulnerable in relationships with exploitative people was once the thing that kept you functioning in a home that didn’t always feel safe. That truth deserves acknowledgment before anything else.

And it is now costing you. Not because sensitivity is the problem, but because the survival function it was trained to serve, constant vigilance to another person’s emotional state, operates as a compulsion in adult relationships where it’s no longer necessary. The same attunement that protected you as a child now keeps you exquisitely responsive to a partner’s mood shifts, which narcissistic partners rely on and reinforce. Skilled sensitivity without a secure internal ground becomes an available resource for anyone who needs one.

The second truth in this both/and: understanding your own contribution to the dynamic is ultimately freeing, not blaming. The attachment patterns you brought into this relationship shaped what felt familiar, what felt like safety, what felt like love. That’s not your fault. It is the information that, once examined, changes what’s available to you going forward. Because those patterns were shaped in relationship. They change in relationship. Usually in the reparative relational experience of good therapeutic work.

And finally: you are not the narcissist. One of the more insidious effects of sustained narcissistic abuse is the erosion of this certainty. You’ve been told, directly and indirectly, that you’re too much, too sensitive, too demanding. You’ve adapted in ways that may have involved behaviors you’re not proud of. This is documented in the trauma literature. It is not evidence of narcissistic personality structure. It’s evidence of what happens to a person’s nervous system under sustained relational invalidation. You deserve to know the difference.

Monique found this both/and slowly, and one moment stands out. She came in one week and sat down and said, before she’d taken her coat off, “I keep waiting for you to tell me I was too sensitive. That if I’d just needed less, it would’ve worked.” I told her that her sensitivity was the reason her patients trusted her, and also the reason Marcus never had to grow. Both true. She sat with that. “So the thing that makes me good at my job,” she said slowly, “is the same thing he used.” Yes. And naming it wasn’t an indictment of her. It was the first thing she’d owned that could actually change.

The Systemic Lens: Why This Dynamic Stays Hidden

The empath-narcissist dynamic doesn’t develop in a vacuum. It develops inside cultural and structural conditions that make it both more likely to occur and harder to name when it does.

We live in a system that glorifies individual achievement, rewards self-promotion, and treats emotional sensitivity as a liability in professional life. Ambition and emotional attunement are implicitly positioned as opposites: the driven woman is supposed to be strategic, boundaried, self-sufficient. These are the exact conditions under which narcissistic behavior flourishes, because the psychological profile that makes narcissistic personality functional, self-certainty, disregard for others’ emotional experience, competitive orientation, looks, from the outside, like competence.

For driven women specifically, the systemic trap is layered. You were raised in a culture that rewarded your capability and treated your sensitivity as something to manage or overcome. You entered workplaces that compensated your productivity and were largely indifferent to your interior life. And then you encountered a partner who exploited your strength as though it were unlimited. When you struggled, the cultural question was “why didn’t you just leave?” That question lands as a second injury, because it assumes that leaving is a rational decision made in the absence of biochemical trauma bonding, nervous system shutdown, and the specific isolation that narcissistic abuse creates.

The cultural narrative about “empaths and narcissists” also causes harm in a different way: it romanticizes a dynamic that’s actually about exploitation. The framing of sensitive people as special, spiritually gifted, uniquely evolved, doesn’t come from clinical research. It comes from popular psychology that has conflated a measurable, well-documented temperament trait with something closer to a spiritual identity. That conflation makes it harder to see the dynamic for what it is, which is a relational structure in which one person’s developmental gifts are being consumed to regulate another person’s psychological fragility.

What actually helps: naming the structural forces, yes, but also bringing them back to the Tuesday afternoon in your own life. The way the cultural devaluation of sensitivity lives in the moment when you apologize for having a need. The way the workplace reward for self-sufficiency shows up in your inability to tell your closest friend how bad things actually got. The way “driven women should be able to handle this” becomes the voice that keeps you isolated in the very shame the narcissistic partner cultivated. Of course you’re exhausted. You’ve been doing work that your culture calls strength and your nervous system calls survival. That’s not personal weakness. That’s a structural impossibility being performed daily.

How Do You Actually Break the Pattern Without Closing Your Heart?

Breaking this pattern doesn’t mean becoming less sensitive. That prescription asks you to excise the thing that is most essentially you. And it wouldn’t work anyway, because Sensory Processing Sensitivity is a heritable neurobiological trait. You can’t will it away. What you can build is the internal ground that lets your sensitivity be a choice rather than a compulsion.

Here’s what that looks like in practice, concretely. Not as platitudes. As specific capacities that are genuinely learnable through deliberate therapeutic work.

Learning to distinguish your feelings from your responsibility for others’ feelings. High cognitive empathy means you feel what someone else is experiencing almost as if it were happening to you. That’s the gift. The wound is what gets added to it developmentally: the belief that you’re responsible for doing something about what you feel. Feeling someone’s distress doesn’t obligate you to fix it. Sensing someone’s unmet need doesn’t mean you’re required to fill it. These sound like simple distinctions. They are genuinely difficult to implement when your nervous system has been running the opposite program since childhood. The work is in the body, not in the understanding.

Tracking your nervous system before your narrative. Your body knows before your mind does. That subtle contraction when someone speaks. The way your energy drops after certain conversations. The sense of relief, not love, when someone cancels plans. These are signals. Not interpretations. Somatic awareness, the capacity to notice your own physical responses before you explain them away, is the foundation of this work. It can’t be shortcut by more reading about narcissism.

Practicing having needs that are inconvenient. Not as a test. Just as practice. Notice what happens in your body when you express a preference that requires something of another person. Notice the immediate pull to soften it, apologize for it, or take it back entirely. That pull is the pattern. You don’t have to eliminate it. You have to learn to let a need stand even while the discomfort is present. Gradually. In low-stakes situations first. And then in higher-stakes ones as your nervous system develops tolerance for the experience.

Investigating what “safe” actually feels like. Most people who’ve been in narcissistic relationships report that genuinely kind, reciprocal partners feel, at first, almost boring. The absence of familiar tension, the push-pull, the intensity of having to earn love, can register as flatness rather than safety. Part of what rebuilding after narcissistic abuse requires is literally learning to reinterpret calm as safe rather than as threatening or insufficient. Your nervous system has been calibrated to a certain level of arousal. Recalibrating it takes time and it takes relationship.

Monique described the moment something shifted about eight months into her work. “I went on a date with someone,” she said. “He was kind. Genuinely kind. He asked about my work and actually listened. He didn’t say anything that needed to be interpreted. And I drove home feeling nothing. Completely flat.” She looked at me. “And then I realized: I wasn’t feeling nothing. I was feeling safe. I just didn’t recognize it.”

That recognition, that the sensation of safety had been so absent from her relational life that she’d lost the vocabulary for it, is one of the most important things I see in this work. And it’s one of the most recoverable. Your capacity for it didn’t disappear. It went dormant. It can come back.

What Does Good Therapeutic Help Actually Look Like?

Good therapeutic help for this pattern addresses two things that are distinct but deeply connected: the relational history that created the vulnerability, and the nervous-system patterns that keep it active. Insight alone, however accurate, doesn’t reliably change either one. Understanding why you were selected doesn’t update the attachment templates that make familiar feel safe. That update happens through corrective relational experience, which is almost always therapeutic work done in relationship.

The modalities with the strongest clinical support for this presentation are trauma-informed approaches that work directly with early attachment and nervous system regulation. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is particularly useful here: it works directly with the parts of you that learned to put others first, not by eliminating those parts, but by helping them understand they no longer have to work so hard to keep you safe. The fawn response isn’t an enemy to be defeated. It was a protector. IFS gives it somewhere to put down the weight.

EMDR, developed by Francine Shapiro, PhD, psychologist and researcher, addresses specific traumatic memories and the early experiences that built your relational template. Somatic approaches, including those developed from the work of Bessel van der Kolk, MD, psychiatrist and trauma researcher and author of The Body Keeps the Score, work with the body’s habitual responses in real time. Because the patterns at the center of this dynamic live in the body, in the reflexive softening, the automatic accommodation, the fawn response that activates before the conscious mind has weighed in, approaches that work at the nervous-system level tend to be more effective than those that work primarily with insight and understanding.

What you should look for in a therapist, specifically: someone trained in at least one trauma-informed modality, someone familiar with narcissistic abuse syndrome and its specific presentation in competent, functional women, and someone who will not require you to “see both sides” of a dynamic that was not symmetrical. You can also look for a therapist who can hold the both/and: that this person caused real harm, and that understanding your own contribution to the pattern is ultimately freeing rather than blaming. Good therapy won’t choose between those truths. It’ll hold both.

For women working through this independently between sessions, Fixing the Foundations^™ is Annie’s flagship course for relational trauma recovery, addressing the developmental wounds at the root of these patterns through structured, self-paced work.

Monique, the pediatrician from the opening of this post, ended our work together with something I think about often. “I spent my whole career trusting my clinical judgment about other people’s children,” she said. She had her coat on, keys in her hand, ready to leave. “The work I’ve done here is learning to apply that same trust to myself.” She paused at the door. “Turns out I’m a much more reliable witness than I thought. I just needed to learn to listen.”

Your sensitivity is not the problem. Your nervous system has been running a program written a long time ago, in a context very different from the one you’re in now. That program can be updated. Your attunement, held differently, sourced from a more grounded place, held within a proverbial house of life^™ built on a genuine foundation rather than a childhood template of self-erasure, remains one of your most extraordinary capacities. The goal of this work is not to protect the world from your empathy. It’s to protect your empathy from being consumed by people who can’t value it.

Of course you’re tired. You’ve been working this hard for this long. And the work ahead is different from the work you’ve been doing. It’s not managing someone else’s emotional world anymore. It’s finally building your own.

Warmly,
Annie

If you recognize yourself in this post and want structured support for recovery, consider reaching out. Individual therapy with Annie serves driven women healing from narcissistic and relational trauma, licensed in 11 jurisdictions. You can also schedule a free consultation to explore what would help most.

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Annie Wright, LMFT

LMFT · Relational Trauma Specialist · W.W. Norton Author

Helping driven women finally feel as good as their résumé looks.

Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven women, including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs, in repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. She is currently writing her first book, The Everything Years, with W.W. Norton.

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Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist with 15,000+ clinical hours since 2013, EMDRIA-certified, and trained in IFS, EMDR, and somatic modalities. She works with ambitious and driven women recovering from relational and developmental trauma, including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, attorneys, and entrepreneurs. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she successfully exited. She is currently writing her first book, The Everything Years: Navigating the Pressure and Promise of Your Thirties, with W.W. Norton (2027).

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