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Therapy

What type of therapy do you provide?

I specialize in individual therapy for high-achieving women whose impressive lives don’t feel as good as they look. My approach combines evidence-based methods like EMDR, attachment-based therapy, and somatic work—all delivered in a way that honors both your clinical healing needs and your achievement orientation. Here’s what makes this different: instead of traditional therapy that focuses on symptoms or pathology, we address the specific intersection of relational trauma and high achievement. Think of it as building the psychological foundation that can actually support the life you’ve worked so hard to create.

How is therapy different from coaching?

Therapy is like foundation work—we’re addressing the underlying patterns and emotional responses that were shaped by your early experiences. It’s designed to help you process past experiences, understand your nervous system responses, and develop new emotional regulation skills. This is healthcare-level work that can address mental health concerns. Coaching, on the other hand, is more like building on an already-solid foundation. It’s forward-focused and helps you optimize your performance and achieve specific goals using your existing psychological resources. Think of it this way: if you’re experiencing patterns that feel out of your control—like that familiar anxiety spiral before big meetings, or difficulty setting boundaries without guilt—therapy is likely your best starting point.

Do you accept insurance?

I operate as a private-pay practice, which means I don’t directly bill insurance. However, I can provide you with detailed receipts that many clients successfully submit for out-of-network reimbursement. Here’s why this approach serves you better: it allows me to focus entirely on your healing and growth without insurance company restrictions on how long we work together or which methods we use. No external entity gets to decide what’s best for your healing process.

How long does therapy typically take?

Here’s the honest answer: it varies significantly based on your goals, your trauma history, and how your system responds to the work. Some women notice meaningful shifts within a few months, while others engage in deeper work spanning a year or more. What I can tell you is this—the women I work with are typically looking for sustainable transformation, not just symptom management. This kind of foundation-level change takes time, but it’s also the work that creates lasting shifts across all areas of your life.

What can I expect in our first session?

Our first session is about understanding your story—both where you’ve been and where you want to go. I’ll ask about your relationships, your family background, and the patterns you’ve noticed in your life. But this isn’t just clinical intake; it’s about understanding how your early experiences might be showing up in your current success and struggles. My goal is for you to leave that first session feeling deeply understood and hopeful about what’s possible. You should have a clear sense of how we’ll work together and why this approach makes sense for your specific situation.

Do you offer online therapy sessions?

Absolutely. I offer secure video sessions, which work particularly well for busy professionals who value convenience and flexibility. The research shows online therapy is just as effective as in-person work for many concerns, and frankly, it’s often easier for high-achieving women to fit into their demanding schedules.

What is relational trauma, and how do I know if I have it?

Relational trauma happens when our earliest relationships—usually with caregivers—teach us that connection isn’t safe, predictable, or nurturing. This doesn’t require obvious abuse or neglect. It can result from well-meaning parents who were emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, overwhelmed, or critical. Here’s how it often shows up: difficulty trusting others despite your success in professional settings, perfectionism that never feels satisfied, people-pleasing that leaves you exhausted, feeling like you’re “too much” or “not enough,” or finding that personal relationships feel infinitely harder to navigate than your career. If you’re thinking “that sounds like me,” you’re probably right. And you’re definitely not alone.

What makes your approach different from other therapists?

Most therapists either understand trauma but not achievement, or they understand professional success but miss the trauma patterns underneath. I specialize in the specific intersection where these two worlds meet. I get how early relational experiences can teach you that achievement feels safer than vulnerability, or that your worth is tied to your performance. And I understand how to address these patterns in a way that honors your drive while building genuine psychological stability underneath your success.

Can I do both therapy and coaching with you?

We typically focus on one approach at a time. If you’re dealing with trauma patterns or mental health concerns, therapy is usually the right starting point. Once you’ve built that solid psychological foundation, coaching can help you optimize your professional performance. We’ll discuss which approach makes most sense for where you are right now during our consultation.

What if I’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t help?

I hear this frequently from clients. Most therapy isn’t designed for the specific challenges that arise when you’ve built impressive external success while carrying relational trauma. Generic approaches often miss the unique patterns that develop when early difficult experiences meet high capability and ambition. What we do here specifically addresses that intersection. If previous therapy felt too focused on pathology without understanding your achievement orientation, or too surface-level to address the deep patterns, you’ll likely find this approach more effective.

Executive Coaching

What is executive coaching, and who is it for?

Executive coaching is designed for high-achieving women who want to optimize their leadership effectiveness and professional performance while honoring their psychological wellbeing. It’s for ambitious women who recognize that the same patterns that helped them succeed might also be creating limitations. This isn’t generic executive coaching. It’s specifically informed by my understanding of how relational trauma shows up in professional contexts.

How is your coaching different from traditional executive coaching?

Traditional executive coaching typically focuses on skills and strategies. I help you understand how your early relational experiences might be influencing your leadership style, decision-making, or professional relationships. For example, that tendency to over-prepare for presentations might stem from early experiences where being “perfect” felt necessary for safety. Understanding this allows for more sustainable professional growth.

What types of professional challenges do you help with?

I work with women on leadership development, navigating difficult workplace relationships, imposter syndrome, perfectionism that’s actually hindering performance, work-life integration, career transitions, boundary setting, public speaking anxiety, negotiation skills, and building authentic confidence. The key difference is that we address both the practical skills and the underlying patterns that might be creating these challenges.

How long is a typical coaching engagement?

Coaching engagements typically range from 3-12 months, depending on your goals. Some women work with me for focused engagements around specific challenges like preparing for a promotion, while others engage in longer-term development work. We’ll discuss the appropriate timeline based on what you’re trying to achieve.

What’s included in your coaching packages?

Coaching includes regular one-on-one sessions (usually bi-weekly or monthly), email support between sessions for urgent questions, relevant assessments, and customized resources based on your specific challenges. I also provide accountability and follow-up to ensure you’re implementing what we develop together.

Do you work with teams or only individuals?

I primarily work with individuals, as this allows for the deep, personalized work that addresses both professional goals and underlying patterns. Occasionally, I work with small leadership teams when there’s a specific need that aligns with my expertise in relational dynamics.

What if my workplace challenges stem from trauma responses?

This is exactly where my background becomes valuable. Many workplace challenges—like difficulty with authority figures, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or conflict avoidance—can stem from early relational experiences. My coaching helps you understand these patterns and develop new responses that serve you better professionally while addressing the underlying causes.

How do you measure success in coaching?

Success is measured by your achievement of the specific goals we set together. This might include improved leadership effectiveness, successful career transitions, better work-life integration, increased confidence, or enhanced professional relationships. We establish clear metrics at the beginning and regularly assess progress throughout our work together.

Can coaching help with work-life balance?

Absolutely. Many high-achieving women struggle with work-life integration because the same patterns that drive professional success can create challenges in personal relationships and self-care. My coaching helps you understand these patterns and develop strategies for sustainable success that honors both your ambitions and your wellbeing.

What’s the difference between coaching and consulting?

Coaching focuses on developing your own capabilities and decision-making skills. I don’t tell you what to do; instead, I help you discover your own answers and develop the skills to navigate future challenges independently. My approach empowers you to become more effective in your own right, rather than being dependent on external expertise.

Online Courses

What online courses do you offer?

My signature course is “Fixing the Foundations”—a comprehensive program for anyone whose early relational experiences created patterns that no longer serve them. It provides evidence-based tools and frameworks to repair foundational patterns and build lives of authentic connection and emotional stability. Think of it as the psychological foundation work that supports everything else you’re building in your life.

Who is “Fixing the Foundations” designed for?

Originally designed for high-achieving women, the course has been expanded to serve anyone dealing with relational trauma patterns. It’s for people who recognize that their early experiences created specific patterns and are ready to do foundation-level healing work.

How is the course different from therapy?

The course is educational rather than therapeutic. While therapy provides personalized treatment for your specific history, the course offers comprehensive education about relational trauma recovery that you can work through at your own pace. It’s designed to complement therapy, not replace it. Many clients find it helpful for understanding concepts we explore in therapy or for continued learning after therapy concludes.

What’s included in the course?

“Fixing the Foundations” includes 49 comprehensive lessons covering every aspect of trauma recovery, detailed exercises for real-world application, evidence-based frameworks grounded in current neuroscience and trauma research, and lifetime access so you can revisit content as you grow. The course combines clinical sophistication with practical implementation.

How long does it take to complete the course?

The course is self-paced, so completion time varies. Most participants take 3-6 months to work through all the content, but you have lifetime access. Many people find value in revisiting sections as they grow and encounter new life challenges.

Do I need to be in therapy to take the course?

No, but if you’re dealing with significant trauma symptoms or feel overwhelmed by the content, I recommend working with a qualified therapist alongside the course. The course is educational and empowering, but it’s not a substitute for personalized therapeutic support when that’s what you need.

Is there ongoing support or community with the course?

I periodically offer live Q&A sessions for course participants and maintain a private community space where participants can connect with others on similar journeys. I’ll communicate any updates about community features to course participants.

What if I’m not sure the course is right for me?

Start with my quiz to better understand your current foundation stability and patterns. You can also explore my newsletter content to get a sense of my approach. The course comes with a satisfaction guarantee, so you can try it risk-free.

How is this different from other trauma recovery programs?

“Fixing the Foundations” combines clinical sophistication (based on 15,000+ clinical hours), comprehensive scope (49 lessons), evidence-based approach (grounded in current neuroscience), and practical application (detailed exercises). It specifically addresses the intersection of relational trauma and high achievement that most programs miss.

Can I access the course materials on mobile devices?

Yes, the course is accessible on all devices—smartphones, tablets, and computers. This allows you to engage with the content whenever and wherever it’s convenient, which is particularly important for busy professionals.

The Newsletter

What is your newsletter about?

My newsletter provides bi-monthly essays exploring the intersection of relational trauma and high achievement. I share insights from my clinical work (with confidentiality protected), research findings, and practical strategies for building psychological foundations that support both personal wellbeing and professional success. It’s designed for ambitious women who want to understand themselves more deeply and build more sustainable, fulfilling lives.

How is the newsletter different from your other content?

The newsletter is where I dive deepest into complex psychological concepts with comprehensive frameworks and longer case studies. It’s my most intimate and detailed content offering—think of it as the place where kitchen table wisdom meets clinical sophistication.

Is the newsletter free or paid?

I offer both free and paid subscription tiers. Free subscribers receive select essays and updates, while paid subscribers get access to all content, including my most in-depth pieces, subscriber-only discussions, and early access to new offerings. The paid subscription supports my ability to continue creating high-quality, research-based content.

How often do you publish?

I publish bi-monthly essays—substantial, thoughtful content twice per month. This schedule allows me to maintain the depth and quality that readers value while respecting your time and inbox.

What topics do you typically cover?

Topics include understanding relational trauma patterns, navigating relationships as a high-achiever, building emotional regulation skills, addressing perfectionism and people-pleasing, creating healthy boundaries, integrating achievement with wellbeing, trauma-informed parenting, and translating therapy insights into daily life. Each essay combines clinical insights with practical application.

Can I share newsletter content with others?

Free newsletter content can be shared, but paid subscriber content is for subscribers only. I appreciate when readers share insights or quotes with attribution, as it helps more people discover these resources. Please respect the subscription model by not sharing full paid articles.

How does the newsletter connect to your other offerings?

The newsletter is the hub of my content ecosystem—where I share my deepest insights and most comprehensive frameworks. Many people discover my therapy and coaching services through the newsletter, and course participants often subscribe to continue their learning journey.

What makes your newsletter different from other mental health content?

My newsletter uniquely addresses the intersection of relational trauma and high achievement, drawing from 15,000+ clinical hours with ambitious women. Unlike generic mental health content, I specifically understand how trauma shows up in high-functioning individuals and provide strategies that honor both healing and achievement.

Can I pause or cancel my subscription anytime?

Yes, you have complete control over your subscription through the Substack platform. You can pause, cancel, or change your subscription level anytime with no long-term commitments or cancellation fees.

How do I know if the newsletter is right for me?

The newsletter is ideal if you’re a driven, ambitious woman who suspects that early experiences might be influencing your current relationships and life satisfaction. If you’re curious about the intersection of trauma and achievement, want to understand yourself more deeply, or are looking for sophisticated yet accessible content about psychological healing, the newsletter will likely resonate. You can start with the free tier to experience my approach.

Miscellaneous

How do I know which service is right for me?

If you’re dealing with trauma symptoms, mental health concerns, or feel stuck in patterns you can’t change on your own, therapy is likely the best starting point. If you want to optimize professional performance and have a relatively stable psychological foundation, coaching might be appropriate. The course is ideal for comprehensive education about trauma recovery at your own pace. During a consultation, we can discuss which approach would be most beneficial for your current situation.

Do you offer consultations?

Yes, I offer brief consultations to help determine fit and which service would be most appropriate. This allows us both to assess whether my approach aligns with what you’re seeking and ensures you’re investing your resources in the most helpful direction.

What are your rates?

Rates vary by service and are discussed during consultation calls. I believe in transparency about investment and provide clear information upfront so you can make an informed decision. Payment plans are available for some services.

How do I get started?

Take my quiz first—it helps you understand your current foundation stability and provides personalized insights about your patterns. From there, explore my newsletter to experience my approach, or reach out directly to schedule a consultation for therapy or coaching services.

Do you have a waiting list?

Availability varies depending on the service and time of year. I’ll let you know current availability during our consultation and discuss options if there’s a waiting period. I maintain a limited caseload to ensure quality attention for each client.

What if I’m not sure I have relational trauma?

Many people aren’t sure if their experiences “count” as trauma, especially without obvious abuse or neglect. Relational trauma can be subtle—it’s about what was missing (emotional attunement, consistent safety, unconditional love) as much as what was present. If you struggle with relationship patterns, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or feeling like your inner experience doesn’t match your outer success, it’s worth exploring whether early relational experiences might be playing a role.

I’m successful in my career but struggling personally. Can you help?

This is exactly the intersection where I specialize. Many high-achieving women find that strategies that created professional success don’t translate to personal relationships or inner fulfillment. I understand how early experiences can teach us that achievement feels safer than vulnerability, and I can help you build the psychological foundation that supports both professional success and personal satisfaction.

Do you work with men or only women?

While my expertise and content primarily focus on ambitious women with relational trauma backgrounds, I do work with men who resonate with my approach and are dealing with similar patterns. My methods are effective regardless of gender, though my examples and content primarily speak to the female experience.

How do I know if I’m ready for this work?

You’re likely ready if you recognize that your current patterns aren’t serving you and you’re willing to explore how your past might be influencing your present. This work requires courage and commitment, but it doesn’t require you to be in crisis. Many of my most successful clients start from wanting their inner experience to match their outer success, rather than from desperation.

What if I live outside your geographic area?

I offer online services for therapy, coaching, and consultations, so geographic location typically isn’t a barrier. The course and newsletter are accessible worldwide. For therapy specifically, I need to ensure I’m licensed to practice in your state or country, which we can discuss during consultation. Many clients find online sessions just as effective as in-person meetings.

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