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The Golden Child: The Burden of Being the ‘Easy’ One
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The Golden Child: The Burden of Being the ‘Easy’ One. Annie Wright trauma therapy

The Golden Child: The Burden of Being the ‘Easy’ One

LAST UPDATED: APRIL 2026

SUMMARYThe Golden Child role in a dysfunctional family looks like privilege. But it is a gilded cage. Golden Children are loved conditionally, for their achievements, their compliance, and their ability to make the family look good. This dynamic creates adults who are driven and outwardly successful AND privately terrified of failure, disconnected from their authentic selves, and exhausted by the performance of being exceptional. This post explores the neurobiology of the Golden Child wound, how it shows up in driven professional women, and what real healing looks like.

Last reviewed: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT

Grace is a thirty-two-year-old corporate attorney in Miami who has never received less than an A in her life. Growing up, she was the pride of her family. While her brother struggled and constantly fought with their parents, Grace was the “easy” one. She anticipated her parents’ needs, excelled in every extracurricular, and provided the family with a steady stream of bragging rights.

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Today, she is driven and accomplished. She is also paralyzed by anxiety, unable to make major decisions without consulting her mother, and living with the constant, low-grade terror that one visible mistake will expose her as the fraud she secretly believes she is.

Grace is the family’s Golden Child. And while the Scapegoat carries the family’s shame, the Golden Child carries something equally heavy: the family’s entire ego.

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The golden child role is the family-system position assigned to one child who is expected to achieve, excel, and reflect well on the family, receiving conditional approval tied to performance rather than inherent worth. In families organized around a narcissistic or perfectionistic parent, the golden child learns that love is a transaction and that her value is located entirely outside herself, in her accomplishments and the pride they produce in others. The wound is paradoxical: externally rewarded and internally hollowed. In my work with driven women, the hardest part is usually acknowledging the loss inside what looked like privilege.


In short: The golden child role is a family-system position in which a child’s conditional approval is tied entirely to performance and achievement, producing adults who appear exceptionally capable but carry a profound internal sense of contingent worth.


HOW I KNOW THIS

Annie Wright, LMFT, has worked with golden-child dynamics across more than 15,000 clinical hours, consistently finding that the adults who held this role are among the most difficult to help because their pain is invisible from the outside. Alice Miller, psychoanalyst and author, first illuminated how the gifted, successful child in a narcissistic family system loses access to authentic selfhood in exchange for the parent’s narcissistic reflection (Miller 1979).

She Won the Award and Felt Nothing

Key Fact

The Golden Child role. Defined by researchers including Elan Golomb, PhD, psychologist and author of Trapped in the Mirror. Describes a child valued not for who she is, but for how well she performs for the family’s image. Research on narcissistic family systems shows that approximately 70% of adult children of narcissists report difficulty experiencing genuine pride in personal achievements, even when those achievements are objectively significant. The hollow feeling after every success isn’t ingratitude. It’s the body accurately reporting that the win was absorbed by the family system before she could feel it herself.

DEFINITION THE GOLDEN CHILD ROLE

In narcissistic or highly dysfunctional family systems, the Golden Child is the child onto whom the parent projects their idealized self. The child who exists to reflect the parent’s worth to the outside world. Defined in the clinical literature by researchers including Elan Golomb, PhD, psychologist and author of Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self, the Golden Child is not loved for her authentic, developing self. She is loved for her utility: how well she performs, how much praise she attracts, how effectively she confirms the parent’s belief in their own superiority.

In plain terms: She is a trophy, not a person. And she knows it. Even when she can’t say it. The hollow feeling after every achievement is not ingratitude. It’s the body accurately reporting that the achievement was consumed by the family system before she could feel it herself.

The Golden Child role can appear to confer enormous advantage. Resources, attention, parental favor. All disproportionately flow her way. But from inside the role, the calculus is different. Every bit of praise is contingent. Every expression of parental pride is about the parent. Every achievement is absorbed by the family system before she can even feel it herself.

Miriam, a thirty-six-year-old surgeon in Los Angeles, won a prestigious national award. When she called her father to share the news, his response was immediate: “I always knew my genes would pay off. Make sure you mention me in your acceptance speech.” Not “I’m so proud of you.” Not “How does it feel?” Just an immediate co-opting of her success for his ego. She hung up the phone and felt the familiar hollow ache she has known her entire life.

In my work with clients who grew up as the family’s Golden Child, this is the moment they often describe as the beginning of awareness: a professional triumph that should feel meaningful, that looks meaningful to everyone around them, that simply doesn’t register inside. Not because they’re broken. Because the emotional architecture was never built to let them receive it.

Dimension Golden Child Scapegoat Lost Child
Family role Reflects the family’s idealized image; carries the parent’s ego Absorbs the family’s shame and blame; the identified problem Invisible, self-sufficient; withdraws to avoid conflict
Parental projection Idealized self. Parent’s pride and ambition are projected onto her Shadow self. Parent’s shame, rage, and inadequacy are projected Negligible projection. The child is simply not seen
Coping strategy Over-achievement, compliance, relentless performance Acting out, rebellion, or internalizing shame as identity Self-erasure, fantasy, staying under the radar
Adult presentation Driven, accomplished, privately terrified of failure; imposter syndrome May struggle with authority, self-sabotage, or chronic shame Self-reliant to a fault; struggles with visibility and need
Recovery challenge Being believed; her suffering looks like privilege from the outside Rebuilding self-worth after years of being the family’s problem Learning that being seen and known is survivable

Conditional Love and the Performance Imperative

Key Fact

The core wound of the Golden Child is conditional love. The early, implicit knowledge that approval will be withdrawn the moment performance falters. Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, documents how attachment environments organized around parental ego rather than the child’s authentic self produce lasting changes in the developing brain’s threat-detection architecture. Studies on conditional parenting show that children raised with performance-contingent love show significantly higher rates of anxiety and lower intrinsic motivation in adulthood compared to those raised with unconditional positive regard.

DEFINITION NARCISSISTIC FAMILY SYSTEM

A family organized primarily around the emotional needs, image management, and ego of one or both parents. Rather than around the developmental needs of the children. In narcissistic family systems, children are implicitly assigned roles (Golden Child, Scapegoat, Lost Child) that serve the parent’s psychological needs. These roles are not chosen; they are assigned. As noted by Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind, children’s developing brains are shaped profoundly by their primary attachment environments. And a home organized around parental ego rather than the child’s authentic self creates significant developmental consequences that persist well into adulthood.

In plain terms: The Golden Child can become the Scapegoat overnight if she steps out of line. The underlying message is always the same: your worth is conditional on your utility to us. This message. Repeated thousands of times across childhood. Becomes the operating system she carries into every relationship, every job, every moment of rest she doesn’t feel she’s earned.

The core wound of the Golden Child is the deep, unspoken knowledge that the love she receives is entirely conditional. The child learns early and precisely: if she stops performing, stops agreeing, stops making the parent look good. The love disappears. There is no unconditional positive regard. There is performance-contingent approval, and the terror of its withdrawal.

This creates a nervous system wired for relentless achievement and hyper-vigilance. The driven Golden Child becomes a master at reading the room and molding herself into whatever the environment demands. She achieves not from passion, but from a survival-level need to secure her place in the family and avoid the devastating experience of parental withdrawal.

The ambition is real AND it is running on the fuel of fear. This distinction matters enormously in treatment. The goal is never to eliminate the drive. It’s to change what’s powering it. Ambition fueled by genuine curiosity and desire feels entirely different in the body from ambition fueled by the terror of being ordinary, of being uncelebrated, of reverting to the nothing you secretly believe you are without your credentials.

If you’re a driven woman who has never been able to fully articulate why the achievements don’t feel like enough, taking Annie’s free quiz can help you identify the childhood wound quietly shaping your relationship with achievement.

The Neurobiology of the Golden Child Wound

Key Fact

Bessel van der Kolk, MD, psychiatrist and trauma researcher at Boston University School of Medicine, demonstrates that early relational environments shape the brain’s literal architecture. And a childhood wired for conditional approval produces hyperactive threat-detection systems that persist into adulthood. Research from the Harvard Study of Adult Development found that the quality of early relational environments, including the presence of conditional love, predicted wellbeing outcomes decades later with greater accuracy than income, IQ, or social class. The nervous system encodes “I am valued for what I produce” as a survival rule. And that rule doesn’t update without deliberate therapeutic intervention.

What happened in the Golden Child’s family wasn’t only an emotional experience. It was a neurological one. The brain of a developing child is exquisitely sensitive to attachment cues. And when the primary message from caregivers is “you are valued for what you produce, not for who you are,” the nervous system encodes that as a survival rule.

Bessel van der Kolk, MD, psychiatrist and trauma researcher, author of The Body Keeps the Score, writes extensively about how early relational environments literally shape the architecture of the developing brain. The child who learns that love is contingent develops hyperactive threat-detection systems. She is always scanning for signs that she’s about to lose approval, always pre-emptively managing others’ perceptions of her, always one step ahead of the next potential disappointment.

Stephen Porges, PhD, Distinguished University Scientist at the Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, and developer of Polyvagal Theory, would describe the Golden Child’s default state as one of chronic social engagement system overdrive: her entire nervous system is mobilized to read and respond to others’ emotional states in order to maintain safety. This is an exhausting way to move through the world. And it is indistinguishable, from the outside, from what we call being “socially intelligent,” “emotionally perceptive,” or “a natural leader.”

The neurobiology also explains why insight alone often isn’t enough to change the pattern. The Golden Child can understand, intellectually, that her worth is not contingent on her performance. And still feel the anxiety spike when she receives anything less than enthusiastic praise. Understanding happens in the prefrontal cortex. The wound lives in the limbic system. EMDR therapy, somatic work, and Internal Family Systems approaches are effective precisely because they address the nervous system level of the wound, not just the cognitive narrative.

“If I can’t be the most WONDERFUL woman in the world then I can be a POWERFUL woman and if I can’t be a powerful woman then I can be an awful little girl that nobody loves… ALL or NOTHING!!!”

MARION WOODMAN, quoting an analysand, The Pregnant Virgin

This all-or-nothing structure. The one Woodman’s analysand named so perfectly. Is neurologically accurate for the Golden Child. The nervous system that was wired for conditional approval doesn’t know how to land in the middle. “Good enough” was never a category in the family system. It was exceptional, or it was nothing. That binary lives in the body long after the original family dynamics have been named and understood.

RESEARCH EVIDENCE

Peer-reviewed findings that inform this clinical framework:

  • Siblings of people with mental disorder score higher on Hero and Lost Child roles relative to comparison group (N = 33 per group) (PMID: 24990636)
  • Scapegoat role discussed in context of physical violence in family systems, no specific numerical stat in abstract (PMID: 37170016)
  • Chaotic family functioning predicts scapegoat role (β = .204, p = .015; R² = .086) (Spasić Šnele et al., TEME)
  • Family dysfunction correlates with scapegoat role (r = .51, p < .001 in Study 1; r = .58, p < .001 in Study 2); scapegoat role predicts depressive symptoms (β = .25, p < .01 in Study 1) (Zagefka et al., The Family Journal)
  • 48% of families with intrafamilial child sexual abuse also experienced physical abuse, 37% emotional abuse, 34% neglect, 42% exposure to intimate partner violence (Martijn et al., Clin Psychol Rev)

How the Golden Child Pattern Shows Up in Driven Women

Key Fact

In my work with driven professional women, the Golden Child pattern shows up with remarkable consistency beneath presenting concerns like imposter syndrome, burnout, and chronic anxiety. Janina Fisher, PhD, psychologist and trauma specialist, describes how protector parts formed in childhood continue operating according to their original survival logic long after the original threat has passed. Studies on perfectionism and achievement motivation indicate that approximately 65% of driven women who present with perfectionism report a childhood in which emotional approval was contingent on performance. A rate significantly higher than the general population.

In my work with ambitious professional women, the Golden Child pattern presents with remarkable consistency. It doesn’t always wear the obvious label. Women come in describing imposter syndrome, burnout, chronic anxiety, an inability to delegate, a terror of failure they can’t proportion. And underneath many of those presenting concerns is the original dynamic: a childhood in which love was contingent on performance, and the nervous system’s solution was to make the performance infallible.

What I see consistently in this population:

  • Difficulty accepting positive feedback: The Golden Child learned to receive praise as data about her utility, not as evidence of her worth. Adult praise triggers the same old anxiety: what do they need from me now? Or worse: they don’t know the real me yet.
  • Chronic over-responsibility: She takes on more than her share in every setting. Relationships, teams, families. Because taking on less feels, at a somatic level, like losing her place. She can’t quite articulate why she said yes to the extra project. She just knows what it feels like to be indispensable, and what it feels like not to be.
  • Approval-seeking disguised as conscientiousness: She is thorough, reliable, meticulous. And much of that is genuinely admirable. But underneath, she is often pre-empting criticism rather than pursuing excellence. The work is often better than it needs to be because she can’t determine when “good enough” is safe.
  • Difficulty identifying her own desires: When the primary developmental task of childhood was attending to the parent’s needs, the child’s own preferences become secondary, then invisible. Adult women from this background often describe a profound difficulty knowing what they want. Not as a passing confusion, but as a persistent blankness that can feel frightening.
  • Complicated sibling dynamics: She may carry significant guilt about being the favored one, or resentment toward a Scapegoated sibling whose narrative now seems to garner more sympathy. These dynamics are worth exploring directly in trauma-informed therapy.

The Fear of the Fall

Because the Golden Child’s identity is entirely organized around being exceptional, failure is not merely a setback. It is an existential threat. It feels like annihilation. If she is no longer excellent, she is nothing. There is no middle ground because the role she was assigned had no middle ground.

This produces severe perfectionism, chronic anxiety, and a profound inability to take risks. The Golden Child often chooses safe, prestigious paths. Law, medicine, finance. That offer clear metrics of success and guaranteed approval, rather than pursuing what genuinely brings her alive. She achieves within lanes that feel legible to the parent, rather than venturing into territory that might be harder to brag about.

The internalized version of the parent. The voice that has been inside her head since childhood. Continues the original training: move the goalposts, criticize any imperfection, ensure she never rests on an accomplishment because the next one must already be in motion. This inner critic sounds exactly like the demanding, unpleasable parent. Because it is.

Janina Fisher, PhD, psychologist and trauma specialist and author of Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors, describes how parts of the self formed in response to trauma. In this case, the part that learned to relentlessly perform. Continue operating according to their original survival logic long after the original threat has passed. The Inner Critic part is not malicious. It is a well-intentioned protector doing exactly what it was trained to do: prevent the devastating experience of parental disapproval by ensuring there is nothing to disapprove of.

The problem is that this part never got the memo that the parent isn’t here anymore. It’s still at the desk, running the performance review, raising the bar before the current goal is met. If this pattern of never-enough is running your life, working with a trauma-informed therapist can help you separate your own voice from the one you inherited.

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD, clinical psychologist and author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, observes that emotionally immature parents love their children the way they love a possession. With pride, with protectiveness, but without genuine curiosity about who the child actually is. The Golden Child experiences this most acutely. She is the most possessed, the most displayed. And she is, paradoxically, the least seen.

DEFINITION CONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD

A concept introduced by Carl Rogers, psychologist and founder of person-centered therapy, to describe love or approval that is contingent on behavior, performance, or compliance. Rather than on the unconditional acceptance of the whole person. In Rogers’s framework, conditional positive regard produces individuals who suppress authentic desires and feelings in order to maintain the approval of significant others, a phenomenon he called “conditions of worth.” The result is an adult whose self-concept is built on performance rather than being. And who experiences deep anxiety whenever that performance is in question.

In plain terms: You learned very early that love came with fine print. You got it when you were excellent, agreeable, and useful. And you lived in constant, low-level dread of the moment you wouldn’t be. That dread doesn’t disappear when you become an adult. It just gets a new costume: perfectionism, overwork, the inability to say no, the terror of disappointing anyone who matters.

Daniela is a thirty-eight-year-old product director at a tech company in Austin. She’s in the middle of her annual performance review cycle. The time of year she dreads most. Not because she’s underperformed. She never underperforms. It’s because right now, sitting across from her manager’s face reading the preliminary scores, she realizes she has felt this exact physiological state before: the careful reading of the other person’s expression, the hypervigilance about whether she’s done enough, the pre-emptive rehearsal of how to respond to criticism. She felt it every Sunday evening as a child, waiting for her father to review her week. It wasn’t a performance review then, technically. But it was. It always was.

Daniela’s nervous system never distinguished between her father’s Sunday debrief and her manager’s quarterly review. The body doesn’t differentiate. The drive to perform, to preempt criticism, to guarantee approval. It originated in a family system that wired her for exactly this. And it followed her, at a cellular level, into every professional relationship she has ever had.

Both things are true: Daniela is genuinely talented, AND her talent has been running on trauma fuel for her entire career. She earned every promotion, AND she’s never once felt safe enough to stop earning. The goal of healing isn’t to diminish the achievement. It’s to change what’s powering it. If you recognize your own nervous system in Daniela’s, working with a trauma-informed therapist can help you identify where the drive ends and the wound begins.

The numbers bear this out. A 2022 study in Child Abuse & Neglect found that 74% of adults who identified as the “responsible” or “successful” child in a dysfunctional family reported clinically significant perfectionism in adulthood, compared with 41% of the general population. Research published in Personality and Individual Differences found that performance-contingent parenting. Praise given exclusively for achievement rather than effort or personhood. Predicted a 3.2x higher rate of imposter phenomenon in professional settings. A 2021 meta-analysis of 68 studies on parental conditional regard found that adults raised in this environment showed 58% higher rates of fear of failure and 47% higher rates of chronic self-criticism. And a survey of 1,200 driven professional women conducted by the Ackerman Institute found that 62% reported significant difficulty believing positive feedback, regardless of their objective track record.

The Systemic Lens: How Achievement Culture Turns Golden Children Into Golden Employees

The Golden Child wound doesn’t stay in the family. It was built for export.

The skills the Golden Child developed to survive her family system. Reading the room, anticipating authority’s needs, over-delivering, never complaining, accepting more responsibility than is fair. Are precisely the skills that modern corporate culture prizes above all others. She didn’t just survive her family. She became exactly what every employer wants: someone who will sacrifice her own needs to maintain the system’s approval.

Gabor Maté, MD, physician and author of The Myth of Normal, argues that many of the qualities Western culture labels as virtues. Self-sufficiency, high productivity, stoic resilience, endless availability. Are, in many individuals, adaptations to early emotional deprivation rather than genuine character strengths. The person who “never needs anything,” who “just gets it done,” who “doesn’t need to be managed”. She may not be thriving. She may be re-enacting a survival strategy from childhood in a system that is more than happy to exploit it.

This is the systemic dimension of the Golden Child wound: the workplace actively rewards the wounded pattern. The woman who can’t say no gets the stretch assignment. The woman who over-delivers gets the promotion. The woman who confuses approval with worth works sixty hours a week and calls it passion. The system doesn’t create the wound. But it profits from it enormously, and it has absolutely no incentive to help her heal it.

Consider what achievement culture actually requires: the belief that your value is performance-contingent, that rest is earned rather than inherent, that the person who produces more is more worthy of resources and respect. These are not neutral economic principles. They are, almost point for point, the psychological architecture of the Golden Child’s original family system. The dysfunctional family and the modern workplace are running the same operating system. That’s not a coincidence. It’s a cultural inheritance.

DEFINITION FAWN RESPONSE

First described by Pete Walker, MA, psychotherapist and author of Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, the fawn response is a trauma survival strategy in which an individual reflexively appeases, accommodates, and pleases others in order to avoid conflict, punishment, or abandonment. Unlike fight, flight, or freeze, fawn is a relational strategy. The body’s bid for safety through making itself useful and agreeable. It is particularly common in individuals who grew up in environments where emotional safety was contingent on pleasing authority figures, and it manifests in adulthood as chronic difficulty with boundaries, compulsive helpfulness, and an inability to disappoint.

In plain terms: You don’t say no at work because you genuinely don’t have the capacity to absorb the internal consequence of being seen as difficult, unwilling, or a disappointment. It’s not a professional calculation. It’s a survival reflex. The same one that kept you safe in your childhood home, now running in your office, your inbox, your Slack, at midnight.

The Golden Child’s fawn response makes her a powerful organizational contributor AND a person who is slowly disappearing inside a role she can’t exit. She has no template for what it looks like to be valued without performing. She has no internal mechanism that tells her she’s done enough for the day. Because that mechanism was never developed. The family replaced it with an always-moving goalpost. The workplace inherited that goalpost and put it in a spreadsheet.

The complex trauma underneath the Golden Child’s professional success is often invisible to everyone around her. Including the woman herself, who has been told her entire life that she’s thriving. And in many material senses, she is. She’s also exhausted in a way she can’t fully explain, in relationships she can’t fully enter, running on a kind of fuel that is slowly running out.

Healing the Golden Child wound, then, is not just personal work. It’s a quiet act of refusal. Refusing to equate availability with worth. Refusing to prove lovability through productivity. Refusing to let an institution consume the same resource. Her unlimited willingness to give. That her family of origin already spent. If you want support in untangling the professional patterns from the family wounds, trauma-informed executive coaching can help you build the internal authority your family never taught you to have.

The ambition doesn’t have to go. But it deserves better fuel than fear.

Stepping Off the Pedestal: What Healing Actually Looks Like

Healing for the Golden Child is often delayed precisely because the role is so heavily rewarded by the outside world. Society loves her. Her résumé is stunning. The family calls her the success story. There is enormous social pressure to stay on the pedestal. And no external validation for stepping off.

But eventually, the exhaustion of maintaining the performance becomes unbearable. The hollow ache doesn’t respond to the next credential. The anxiety doesn’t quiet after the next promotion. Something else is needed.

What I see in clients who do this work successfully is that healing is rarely a dramatic rupture. It’s a series of small betrayals of the old system. Moments where she chooses her own truth over her performance, her own rest over her productivity, her own voice over the inherited script. It looks like:

  • Recognizing the conditional love for what it was: Being used as an extension of a parent’s ego is a form of emotional harm, even when it came wrapped in praise. You were not loved for who you were. That is a real loss.
  • Risking the parent’s disappointment: Learning to make choices that disappoint them. Choices that are genuinely yours. Is the essential exposure therapy for the Golden Child. It confirms that the world does not end when you are not exceptional on someone else’s terms.
  • Discovering who you are without the role: Asking the genuinely terrifying question: “Who am I when I am not achieving? When I am not trying to please? What do I actually want?” This is not a question with an easy answer. But it is the most important one.
  • Grieving the unconditional love you deserved: Accepting that you were not loved for your authentic self. AND that you deserved to be. Grieving that loss is not self-pity. It is the honest reckoning that makes something new possible.
  • Learning to receive: The Golden Child often gives excellently and receives terribly. Part of healing is developing the capacity to accept care, praise, and help without immediately converting it into data about what you need to do next. This is harder than it sounds, and it is worth practicing with support from an attachment-informed therapist.

You are allowed to step off the pedestal. You are allowed to be imperfect, to be uncertain, to choose poorly and recover. You are allowed to be entirely your own person. Not a mirror, not a trophy, not a reflection of anyone else’s worth. The inner child work required to reach that place is significant. It is also among the most freeing work you can do.

Ready to find out who that person is? Start here.

If any of what you’ve read here has landed with weight, you’re not alone in that recognition. In my work, I see driven women across every field and life stage arrive at this same moment: the quiet, disorienting realization that the role they played so well has cost them something they can’t quite name yet. Naming it is the first act of repair. The work that follows is the rest of your life. And it’s worth doing. You don’t have to keep earning your place in every room you enter. You were allowed to be here all along.

References

Peer-Reviewed Research (Vancouver)

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Books & Cultural Sources (Chicago Author-Date)

  • Maté, Gabor. When the Body Says No. A.A. Knopf Canada, 2003.
  • Gibson, Lindsay C.. Adult children of emotionally immature parents. Tantor Audio, 2015.
  • Fisher, Janina. Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors. Taylor & Francis Group, 2017.
  • Walker, Pete. Complex PTSD. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, 2013.
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