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Dissociation: A Trauma Therapist’s Complete Guide for Trauma Survivors

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Dissociation: A Trauma Therapist’s Complete Guide for Trauma Survivors

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Dissociation: A Trauma Therapist’s Complete Guide for Trauma Survivors

LAST UPDATED: APRIL 2026

SUMMARY

If you’ve ever felt like you’re watching your own life from outside your body — going through the motions at work, sitting at dinner with people you love but feeling like you’re somewhere else entirely — that’s dissociation, and it’s not a character flaw. It’s your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do to protect you. This guide explains what’s actually happening in your brain and body, AND what it looks like to come home to yourself.

The Systemic Lens: Why This Isn’t Just a Personal Problem

There’s a cultural narrative that says the struggles you’re experiencing around dissociation and nervous system dysregulation are personal — a reflection of individual weakness, poor choices, or inadequate coping. I want to push back on that narrative directly, because it’s not only inaccurate, it’s harmful.

The truth is that the conditions that shape psychological pain are often systemic. Women, particularly driven and ambitious women, are raised inside systems that reward emotional suppression, self-sacrifice, and relentless productivity — while simultaneously punishing them for taking up space, expressing needs, or moving slowly enough to heal. The mental health impacts of these contradictory demands aren’t personal failures. They’re predictable outcomes of unjust structures.

Research by Nadine Burke Harris, MD, pediatrician and former Surgeon General of California, demonstrated through her ACE study work that the prevalence of adverse childhood experiences is not random — it clusters in communities facing economic hardship, systemic racism, housing instability, and limited access to support. Jordan, a 36-year-old executive who came to work with me, said something I’ve never forgotten: “I kept asking myself why I was struggling when I had everything. It took me years to understand that ‘having everything’ doesn’t erase what I grew up with — and that the systems that celebrated my achievements were also the ones that made it impossible to stop long enough to heal.”

Acknowledging the systemic lens isn’t about removing personal agency. It’s about accurate attribution — understanding that your struggles exist in a context, that they make sense given that context, and that healing doesn’t require you to have been stronger, smarter, or more resilient than the systems arrayed against you. You deserve support that acknowledges this complexity. Real healing includes both the personal and the political, the individual and the systemic, the inner world and the outer one.

Dara Was Mid-Sentence When Her Mind Went Somewhere Else Entirely

Dara, a 37-year-old financial analyst based in San Francisco, sat at the head of the glossy conference table, her laptop open and presentation slides glowing on the large screen behind her. This meeting was crucial — her quarterly analysis could make or break the firm’s latest investment strategy. She had rehearsed her lines countless times, her graphs were flawless, and yet, as she began to speak, a strange fog crept in. Her voice faltered, her words slowed, and suddenly, the world around her blurred like an old film reel skipping frames.

Minutes slipped by, but Dara wasn’t really present. She was somewhere else entirely — a place where the hum of air conditioning, the tapping of a colleague’s pen, even her own heartbeat felt distant and unreal. It was as if her mind had quietly pulled the emergency brake, halting the freight train of her thoughts and feelings. When she finally blinked and looked up, the room felt alien. The faces of her team members were frozen in mid-expectation, their eyes waiting for her to continue. But Dara had no memory of the last five minutes of her presentation. A cold wave of disorientation and panic washed over her, accompanied by a hollow ache in her chest.

“What just happened?” she thought, her inner voice shaky and unfamiliar. She tried to piece together the fragments — the words she’d spoken, the slides she’d clicked, the nods or frowns from her audience — but it was like trying to assemble a puzzle with half the pieces missing. The room felt too bright, too loud, and yet oddly muted. Her body was there, upright and professional, but her mind felt like it had slipped through a crack in time.

Dara’s chest tightened, and a familiar dread settled in. She’d experienced these blackouts before — moments where her consciousness seemed to disconnect, leaving her a spectator to her own life. But never in a room full of colleagues, never during such a high-stakes moment. She felt exposed, fragile, and deeply ashamed. The survival mechanism that had once kept her safe in childhood now felt like a trap, undermining the very success she’d fought so hard to achieve.

As she sat back down, physically present but mentally adrift, Dara’s mind raced. Was she losing control? Was she broken? This wasn’t just forgetfulness or distraction — it was something deeper, something raw and primal. It was dissociation, the brain’s way of protecting itself when the metaphorical house of life has cracks too deep to bear. The foundation laid in childhood trauma fractured again under the weight of adult pressures.

Yet, beneath the fear, there was a faint glimmer of understanding. This dissociation was both a betrayal and a gift — a brilliant survival strategy she had unknowingly relied on since childhood, now interfering with her professional and personal life. Dara’s journey to reclaim her presence, piece together her fractured self, and rebuild her house from the ground up was just beginning.

So What Actually Is Dissociation?

DEFINITION
DISSOCIATION

Dissociation is a mental process where a person disconnects from their thoughts, feelings, memories, or sense of identity, often as a response to trauma or overwhelming stress. It acts like a psychological escape hatch, allowing the mind to temporarily detach from reality to protect itself.

Kitchen table version: You’re there — physically present, eyes open — but part of you has quietly left the building. You might feel like you’re watching yourself from the ceiling, or like the past hour just vanished. That’s dissociation. It’s not weakness or “spacing out.” It’s your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do when things got to be too much.

DEFINITION
DEPERSONALIZATION / DEREALIZATION

Depersonalization is the experience of feeling detached from your own body, thoughts, or identity — as if you’re an outside observer watching yourself. Derealization is the sense that your surroundings feel unreal, dreamlike, or visually distorted. Both are common forms of dissociation, particularly among trauma survivors.

Kitchen table version: Depersonalization is “I’m watching myself from the outside.” Derealization is “the world looks fake right now — like a movie set, or like I’m behind glass.” They often happen together, and they can be terrifying if you don’t know what they are. What they actually are: your brain’s way of creating distance from something that felt too overwhelming to fully experience.

Dissociation is tricky because it’s both incredibly adaptive and deeply disruptive. Imagine your brain as a bustling city; dissociation is like a sudden blackout in one neighborhood meant to prevent the entire grid from crashing. It disconnects certain mental processes to protect the whole system from overload. When faced with unbearable stress or trauma, dissociation allows a person’s mind to “check out” — not consciously, but as an automatic survival response.

Clinically, dissociation can range from mild daydreaming or “spacing out” to severe fragmentation of identity, memory, and perception seen in dissociative disorders. It’s important to clarify that dissociation is not the same as simple forgetfulness or distraction. It’s a complex neuropsychological phenomenon where the integration of experience — thoughts, emotions, physical sensations — breaks down. This can result in feeling detached from oneself (depersonalization), from reality (derealization), or even experiencing gaps in memory (amnesia).

For trauma survivors, dissociation is often the brain’s best attempt to protect itself from unbearable pain. It’s a survival strategy grown from early relational trauma — the cracks in your proverbial house of life. When a child doesn’t have safe adults to help process overwhelming experiences, the mind learns to compartmentalize or disconnect to keep going. This worked brilliantly then, but in adulthood, it’s a double-edged sword. It shields you from emotional pain but also fragments your sense of self and safety.

People often describe dissociation as feeling “not real,” like watching life through a foggy window or floating above their body. Others experience it as a blank space where memories should be, or as if time has jumped ahead without their awareness. These symptoms can be confusing and frightening, making it hard to trust yourself or stay grounded in everyday life. Yet, beneath all this disruption is a brain trying desperately to protect you from re-experiencing the unbearable.

In therapy, recognizing dissociation is the first step toward healing. It’s not about “snapping out of it” or simply paying more attention. It’s about understanding how your nervous system has learned to cope and gently working to rebuild the connections that trauma fractured. Dissociation signals that your brain and body are out of sync — the amygdala’s alarm bells are ringing while your prefrontal cortex can’t yet calm the storm. Healing means re-establishing safety so your whole self can come home.

What’s remarkable is that dissociation is not a sign of weakness or failure. It’s an adaptive response to overwhelming circumstances. The survival skill that once kept you safe is now asking for your compassionate attention. Treating dissociation with curiosity and care — rather than judgment — is crucial. Your brain is teaching you something important about the cracks in your foundation. The question becomes: how do you repair, rebuild, and reclaim the house of your life?

What’s Happening in Your Brain and Body When You Disconnect

DEFINITION
AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM (ANS)

The autonomic nervous system regulates involuntary bodily functions like heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It has two main branches: the sympathetic nervous system (activates fight or flight) and the parasympathetic nervous system (promotes rest and digestion). Dysregulation here is central to dissociative responses.

Kitchen table version: Think of it as your body’s background operating system — the one running constantly without you touching the controls. When you sense danger, it fires up the alarm (fight or flight). When it decides there’s absolutely no escape, it hits the emergency shutdown (freeze). That shutdown is what dissociation often feels like from the inside: a sudden flatness, a going-far-away, a lights-out quality that isn’t a choice.

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Understanding dissociation requires peeling back the layers of the nervous system — that ancient, complex network wired to keep you alive. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory revolutionized how we think about this by mapping the nuances of the autonomic nervous system (ANS) and how it responds to danger. According to Porges, the ANS has a hierarchical response system: the social engagement system, the fight-or-flight response, and the freeze or shutdown response. Dissociation often aligns with this last stage, where the body essentially “shuts down” to survive. (PMID: 7652107) (PMID: 7652107)

When trauma is experienced, especially in childhood, the nervous system learns to anticipate danger constantly. Bessel van der Kolk, a pioneer in trauma studies, emphasizes that trauma is stored not just in the brain but also in the body. The amygdala — your brain’s alarm center — can become hyperactive, triggering states of hypervigilance or dissociation. Meanwhile, the prefrontal cortex, responsible for rational thought and emotional regulation, can be overridden, leaving you stuck in a primitive survival mode. (PMID: 9384857) (PMID: 9384857)

Onno van der Hart and Ellert Nijenhuis, leaders in dissociation research, describe how traumatic memories can become “compartmentalized” within the brain. This compartmentalization means that parts of your experience are kept separate from conscious awareness — a protective measure to avoid reliving unbearable emotions. This split in consciousness is the neurological undercurrent of dissociation. Your brain is trying to hold together a house built on shaky ground by isolating the most painful rooms.

From a neurobiological perspective, dissociation involves a shutdown response mediated by the parasympathetic branch of the ANS, specifically the dorsal vagal complex. This is the part of your nervous system that slows your heart rate and metabolism to conserve energy when escape isn’t possible. It’s a “freeze” or “collapse” response — your body’s last line of defense when fight or flight won’t work. You might feel numb, spaced out, or as if you’re watching yourself from the outside.

This shutdown isn’t a conscious choice. It’s the body and brain’s way of reducing the unbearable emotional and physical pain linked to traumatic events. The neurobiology of dissociation reveals that these responses are wired deep into survival circuits, often outside of voluntary control. This is why telling someone to “just stay present” or “snap out of it” doesn’t work — the nervous system is literally overwhelmed and has flipped the survival switch.

Healing dissociation means re-regulating the nervous system, helping it move out of freeze states into safety and engagement. Techniques that stimulate the social engagement system — eye contact, soothing voices, gentle movement — can help rewire these patterns over time. But it’s not simple or quick. The nervous system needs consistent, compassionate care to learn that it no longer needs to dissociate to survive.

Understanding this neurobiological dance offers profound validation: dissociation is a deeply embedded survival mechanism, not a personal flaw. It’s a signal that your nervous system has been through more than it could handle. The task in therapy and self-care is to create new, safe ways to experience your body and emotions so that the fractured parts of your self can begin to reconnect and integrate. As Bessel van der Kolk wisely notes, “The body keeps the score” — and healing is about reclaiming your body as home.

“I felt a Cleaving in my Mind— As if my Brain had split — I tried to match it — Seam by Seam — But could not make them fit.”

— Marion Woodman, Jungian analyst and author

EMILY DICKINSON, quoted in Marion Woodman, Addiction to Perfection

RESEARCH EVIDENCE

Peer-reviewed findings that inform this clinical framework:

  • Indirect effect of trauma exposure on PTSD symptoms via dissociation: β = 0.15 (95% CI [0.13, 0.17]) (PMID: 40185415)
  • 14.4% of trauma-exposed adolescents in dissociative subtype/high PTSD class (depersonalization prob=0.40, derealization=0.59) (PMID: 29173740)
  • Dissociation mediates developmental trauma and hallucinations (Cohen's d = 0.35, 95% CI [0.25, 0.45]) (PMID: 33417425)
  • 12% of individuals with current PTSD diagnosis in distinctly dissociative subgroup (PMID: 22752235)
  • Pre-treatment dissociation unrelated to PTSD psychotherapy outcome (r = 0.04, 95% CI [-0.04, 0.13]), 21 trials n=1714 (PMID: 32423501)

How Dissociation Shows Up in Driven, Ambitious Women

Dara is a 37-year-old senior financial analyst at a private equity firm in San Francisco. (Name and details have been changed for confidentiality.) To the outside world, she’s the embodiment of success: sharp, impeccably dressed, and unflappable in high-stakes boardrooms. But beneath her polished exterior, Dara’s experience with dissociation is a silent current pulling at her attention and emotional presence. She first started noticing something was “off” about her focus and feelings in her late twenties, but it took years for her to connect those dots to her childhood trauma.

“I used to think I was just forgetful or stressed out,” Dara told me during our first session. “Like when I’m in meetings, my mind just blanks. Sometimes I don’t even remember parts of the day. It’s like I’m watching myself from outside my body, and I can’t snap out of it.” Her voice was steady, but there was an edge of frustration and confusion that cut through the clinical calm she projected. This isn’t uncommon among driven women whose external competence masks internal distress.

It wasn’t until Dara shared a story from her childhood that the pieces started to fit together. She recalled how her father’s unpredictable anger and emotional withdrawal created an atmosphere she had to navigate carefully. “I learned early on to shut down parts of myself when things got intense,” she said. “It was like my brain hit the pause button to avoid feeling overwhelmed or unsafe.” This shutdown is a classic dissociative response — a way the mind protects itself when the proverbial house of life’s foundation is cracked.

In the months that followed, Dara and I worked closely to map out how dissociation showed up in her day-to-day life. During a particularly stressful quarter at work, she described an incident that crystallized her experience: “I was in a client call and suddenly realized I had no idea what anyone was saying. My head felt foggy, and I just started nodding along without processing anything. Later, I couldn’t remember key parts of the conversation. I was terrified that someone would realize I wasn’t really there.”

Dara’s fear of being “found out” is a common thread for many survivors of early relational trauma. The survival strategy of dissociation — living from the neck up, emotionally and sometimes physically absent — was brilliant for keeping her safe as a child. It’s the brain’s alarm system, the amygdala, hijacking sensory input before the thinking brain can catch up. But the cost now is high: missing out on the rich texture of her adult life and doubting her own competence despite her achievements.

One day, Dara shared a breakthrough moment. “I was walking home after work, and I felt this sudden wave of disconnect. I realized I’d been so caught up in deadlines and expectations that I hadn’t checked in with myself all day. It was like I was a ghost in my own life.” We talked about how dissociation often feels like an invisible fog that dulls the edges of reality, a protective mechanism that now interferes with living fully. Our work became about gently reclaiming the parts of herself she’d been forced to set aside.

In therapy, Dara learned to recognize the early signs of dissociation: zoning out, emotional numbness, and fragmented memory. We practiced grounding techniques that brought her back into her body and the present moment, like focusing on physical sensations or mindful breathing. These moments of coming “back to self” felt unfamiliar but crucial. “It’s like learning a new language,” she said, “the language of feeling safe in my own skin.”

Her journey also involved unpacking the societal pressures that kept her locked in dissociation. Being a driven woman in finance meant she had to perform constantly, suppress vulnerability, and keep emotions tightly controlled. The superwoman myth loomed large. “Admitting I wasn’t okay felt like failure,” Dara confessed. “But I’m learning that vulnerability is strength, not weakness.” This is the both/and nature of survival strategies — they keep us alive AND they can keep us stuck.

By the end of one year, Dara began to experience moments of integration—times when her emotional and cognitive selves felt aligned rather than fragmented. She described these as “tiny acts of bravery,” like setting a boundary with a demanding colleague or allowing herself to cry during a personal loss. These moments were the foundation of rebuilding her proverbial house on firmer ground, healing the cracks left by early trauma.

Dara’s story highlights how dissociation can masquerade as mere distraction or stress in high-functioning women. It’s a survival mechanism that was once adaptive but now disrupts her ability to fully engage with life. Recognizing dissociation as a trauma response opens the door to compassion and healing, allowing the parts of self that were exiled to come home.

RESOURCES & REFERENCES

  1. van der Kolk, Bessel. The Body Keeps the Score. Viking, 2014.
  2. Porges, Stephen W. The Polyvagal Theory. W.W. Norton, 2011.
  3. van der Hart, Onno, Nijenhuis, Ellert R.S., and Steele, Kathy. The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization. W.W. Norton, 2006.
  4. Herman, Judith. Trauma and Recovery. Basic Books, 1992.
  5. Siegel, Daniel J. The Developing Mind. Guilford Press, 2012.
  6. Schwartz, Richard C. No Bad Parts. Sounds True, 2021.

The Path to Coming Home to Yourself

Healing from dissociation isn’t a linear process, and it’s not about forcing yourself to feel everything at once. In my work with clients, I’ve found that the most sustainable recovery happens in phases — and that rushing any phase usually creates more disconnection, not less.

The first phase is stabilization: learning to recognize when you’re dissociating, building a repertoire of grounding techniques, and creating enough safety in your day-to-day life that your nervous system has room to start relaxing its defenses. This might include somatic work — learning to track body sensations, to orient to your environment, to feel your feet on the floor. It sounds simple. For many trauma survivors, it’s actually profound work.

Kira, a 38-year-old software engineer who came to work with me, described her early stabilization phase this way: “I used to think mindfulness was useless because I couldn’t feel anything when I tried it. My therapist helped me understand that the numbness itself was important information — my body’s way of staying safe. Once I stopped fighting the dissociation and started getting curious about it, something started to shift.”

The second phase is trauma processing — the careful, paced work of metabolizing the experiences that originally required dissociation to survive. This isn’t about reliving trauma; it’s about processing it differently, in the presence of a regulated nervous system and a trusted therapeutic relationship. EMDR, developed by Francine Shapiro, PhD, psychologist and EMDR Institute founder, is one of the most well-researched approaches for this phase, with extensive evidence for its effectiveness in treating trauma-related dissociation. (PMID: 11748594) (PMID: 11748594)

The third phase is integration — weaving the processed experiences into a coherent life narrative, building new relational patterns, and cultivating the kind of regulated, embodied presence that makes genuine connection possible. This is where clients often describe a new quality of being present in their lives — a felt sense of being here, in their body, in their relationships, in the moment, that they didn’t know was possible.

If dissociation is something you’re living with, I want you to know: you don’t have to manage this alone, and you don’t have to stay disconnected from your own life. The same nervous system that learned to protect you through dissociation can learn something new. It takes time, it takes support, and it takes a therapeutic relationship where you feel genuinely safe. But it’s possible — and you deserve it.

If you’re in California, I offer trauma-informed therapy specifically for driven women navigating dissociation and complex trauma. If you’re elsewhere, the resources in this guide and the free quiz can help you understand your nervous system patterns as a starting point.

If what you’ve read here resonates, I want you to know that individual therapy and executive coaching are available for driven women ready to do this work. You can also explore my self-paced recovery courses or schedule a complimentary consultation to find the right fit.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Q: What is dissociation and why does it happen?

A: Dissociation is a natural psychological defense — your nervous system’s way of creating distance from overwhelming experiences. When something is too intense to process in real time, the brain disconnects from full awareness of the experience. For driven women with trauma histories, dissociation often starts as a survival strategy in childhood and continues operating automatically in adulthood — even when the original threat is long gone. It’s not a sign of weakness or mental illness. It’s evidence your nervous system learned to protect you.

Q: Can high-functioning women have dissociation?

A: Absolutely — and this is one of the most common surprises for the women I work with. Many of my clients are deeply accomplished: they run companies, lead teams, manage complex lives. And they’ve also been managing varying degrees of dissociation for years. High-functioning doesn’t mean healed. In fact, for some driven women, dissociation is part of what makes the high functioning possible — compartmentalizing distress allows them to keep performing. But it has real costs: difficulty being present in relationships, emotional numbness, exhaustion that doesn’t resolve, and a persistent sense of watching their own lives through glass.

Q: Is dissociation the same as zoning out or daydreaming?

A: Not quite — though they exist on a spectrum. Everyone zones out occasionally, and mild dissociation is completely normal. Pathological dissociation is more disruptive: it happens frequently, it’s involuntary, it interferes with functioning, and it’s typically linked to a trauma history. The key distinction is whether the disconnection feels like a choice or like something that just happens to you. If you find yourself regularly losing chunks of time, feeling detached from your body, or experiencing your emotions as distant and muffled — especially under stress — that warrants attention from a trauma-informed clinician.

Q: How does trauma cause dissociation?

A: When a threat is too overwhelming for the nervous system to process and integrate, the brain’s threat-detection systems trigger a dissociative response as a way of managing the overload. This is mediated by the dorsal vagal branch of the autonomic nervous system — what Stephen Porges, PhD, neuroscientist and developer of Polyvagal Theory, describes as the shutdown response. The brain essentially compartmentalizes the experience: emotions, memories, and bodily sensations are stored in fragmented form rather than integrated into a coherent narrative. This explains why trauma memories often surface as body sensations, flashbacks, or emotional states rather than clear verbal memories.

Q: Can dissociation be healed?

A: Yes — with the right support, it absolutely can. Recovery from dissociation involves creating enough safety in the therapeutic relationship that the nervous system gradually learns it doesn’t need the protective disconnection anymore. Evidence-based approaches including EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, and IFS (Internal Family Systems) are particularly effective because they work with the body and the implicit memory system — rather than relying purely on cognitive insight. Healing isn’t about eliminating dissociation forever but about building enough internal safety and regulation that it no longer runs your life. This is absolutely possible, and I see it happen with clients regularly.

Q: What is the difference between dissociation and anxiety?

A: Anxiety is the nervous system’s mobilized response to threat — characterized by heightened arousal, racing thoughts, and physical activation. Dissociation is often the opposite: it’s the nervous system’s shutdown or disconnection response. Both can occur in the context of trauma, and they often alternate. You might experience anxiety when a trigger activates, followed by dissociation when the nervous system becomes overwhelmed by that activation. Many people with complex trauma histories cycle between these states — anxious and hypervigilant, then suddenly numb and disconnected. Understanding which state you’re in is a key part of trauma-informed treatment.

Both/And: Holding the Complexity of Your Experience

In my work with driven, ambitious women navigating dissociation, one of the most important reframes I offer is the Both/And perspective. This is the antidote to all-or-nothing thinking — the belief that if something is partly true, its opposite can’t also be true at the same time.

You can recognize that your nervous system was shaped by real harm — And still take responsibility for your healing now. You can feel the weight of what happened — And know you’re not defined by it. You can grieve what you deserved and didn’t get — And still build something beautiful from where you are.

Priya, a 41-year-old attorney I work with, put it this way: “For years I thought I had to choose. Either my parents did their best and I had no right to be hurt — or they failed me and I had every right to be devastated. But that’s not how it works. Both things are true.” That’s the Both/And. It doesn’t erase the harm. It holds all of it — the grief and the gratitude, the pain and the possibility.

The research supports this kind of dialectical thinking. Marsha Linehan, PhD, psychologist and developer of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, found that the ability to hold apparent contradictions — to see truth on multiple sides simultaneously — is one of the most powerful predictors of emotional resilience and recovery. It’s not a philosophical exercise. It’s a neurological skill your brain can learn. (PMID: 1845222) (PMID: 1845222)

If you’ve been carrying a binary story about your life — one that forces you to choose between being a victim or being fine — the Both/And invites you out of that trap. Your experience was real. Your pain makes sense. And you’re not stuck there. Both things are true.

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LMFT #95719  ·  Relational Trauma Specialist  ·  W.W. Norton Author

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As a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719), trauma-informed executive coach, and relational trauma specialist with over 15,000 clinical hours, she guides ambitious women — including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs — in repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in Forbes, Business Insider, Inc., NBC, and The Information. She is currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.

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