Money Trauma in Driven Women: Why the Spreadsheet Isn’t the Problem
For driven women, money rarely behaves like a math problem. A clean spreadsheet still spikes the heart rate. A reimbursement letter sits unopened for weeks. This post explains what’s actually happening underneath: nervous-system cues, inherited family money rules, shame spirals, and the survival logic of avoidance, plus what real, embodied healing looks like when insight alone hasn’t been enough.
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- The Spreadsheet Is Clean. Your Body Isn’t.
- What Is Money Trauma?
- Why Does a Bill Read as a Threat?
- How Does Money Trauma Show Up in Driven Women?
- Where Do Inherited Money Rules and the Shame Spiral Come From?
- Both/And: Can You Be Financially Capable and Still Be Financially Triggered?
- The Systemic Lens: Are Money Patterns Learned in Relationships, Not Just Budgets?
- How Do You Actually Heal Money Trauma?
- Who I Am and Why I Know This
- Frequently Asked Questions
Money trauma is the cluster of anxiety, avoidance, shame, or compulsive behaviors around finances that originates not in poor financial literacy but in early relational experiences of scarcity, instability, or emotional messaging about worth and resources. The spreadsheet can’t fix it because the problem isn’t informational. It’s nervous-system level. For many driven women, financial achievement coexists with deep financial anxiety, because earning more doesn’t update the encoding of scarcity that predates the income. In my work with driven women, the moment they realize money anxiety isn’t a math problem is usually the first real opening toward change.
In short: Money trauma is financial anxiety, avoidance, or compulsion rooted in early relational experiences of scarcity or instability, not in a lack of financial knowledge.
The Spreadsheet Is Clean. Your Body Isn’t.
It’s 12:17 a.m. Leisha is alone in her home office, and the only light in the room comes off the laptop screen, which is showing an immaculate Q3 forecast. Every cell filled. Every formula clean. Every variance accounted for. She’s 44, she runs a logistics company she built from a single warehouse lease to a seven-figure operation, and by any external measure she’s in complete control tonight. She has a CFO on retainer, an investor-ready cap table, and, on the desk beside the laptop, a mostly-empty can of the sparkling water she orders by the case.
And yet there’s a knot under her sternum that’s been tightening for the last forty minutes. Her breath is shallow. Her jaw is locked so tight she’ll notice the ache in her molars the next morning. When she tries to scroll to the cash position tab, her cursor hovers and stalls, hovers and stalls, like her hand belongs to someone more cautious than she is. Some part of her body is reading this spreadsheet the way another body might read a footstep on a dark stair.
In my work with driven women, after more than fifteen thousand clinical hours, what I see over and over is this: money is almost never just about the money. For women whose external lives look enviable, money becomes a screen onto which old wounds, family legacies, and nervous-system alarms get projected. The spreadsheet, the bill, the reimbursement letter. None of these are the problem. They’re the trigger that reveals the problem underneath, and that underneath is what I mean by money trauma.
Of course a clean spreadsheet shouldn’t cost you sleep. Of course a woman running a seven-figure company shouldn’t feel her jaw lock at midnight over a document she built herself, correctly, with no errors in it. You’re not imagining how strange that contradiction feels. It’s real, it’s common, and it has a nervous-system explanation that has nothing to do with your competence.
What Is Money Trauma?
Money trauma is one of those terms that sounds either obvious or overblown, depending on where you sit. In my office, it’s neither. It’s specific, research-backed, and startlingly common in the population I work with: women who, on paper, “shouldn’t” be struggling with money at all.
Money trauma describes the persistent emotional and physiological responses to financial stimuli, including bills, statements, financial decisions, and conversations about money, that originate in adverse early experiences with financial insecurity, family money dynamics, or chronic economic stress. It draws on the trauma literature established by Bessel van der Kolk, MD, psychiatrist and trauma researcher, author of The Body Keeps the Score, who describes how traumatic experiences are encoded in the body and reactivated by present-day cues (PMID 38198456). The Adverse Childhood Experiences study by Vincent Felitti, MD, and colleagues at Kaiser Permanente, published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine in 1998, established the dose-response link between early adversity, including economic adversity, and adult outcomes (PMID 9635069). Cynthia Harter, PhD, and John Harter, PhD, economists, extended this in 2022 by demonstrating in the Journal of Family and Economic Issues that adult financial stress is significantly related to remembered adverse childhood experiences at every income level, meaning income alone doesn’t erase the imprint (PMID 34522076).
In plain terms: Money trauma is when your body has a stress reaction to money that’s bigger than the actual situation calls for. Fear, dread, shame, numbness, panic, or the urge to avoid. It comes from old experiences with money or money-related conflict that your nervous system never fully processed. Your bank balance can be perfectly healthy. Your body can still be bracing.
Here’s the part that confuses driven women most. Money trauma is rarely loud. It’s not the obvious story of “I grew up poor, so I’m anxious about money.” That’s part of it, sometimes, but it’s usually more layered. Money trauma can sit underneath competence, and it usually does.
Think of it like a smoke alarm that got wired during a specific fire years ago and never got recalibrated for the kitchen you live in now. It can hide behind a Bloomberg Terminal subscription and a Roth conversion plan you built yourself over a weekend. It’s often invisible until you slow down enough to feel what your body is actually doing while you “do your finances,” which is exactly the phrase I hear most often in the first session.
And it doesn’t go away because you got the promotion, the equity event, or the CFO title. If anything, in my clinical work with driven women, I see the opposite. Financial success can deepen the dissonance, because now you “should” feel safe, and you still don’t.
Why Does a Bill Read as a Threat?
To understand why a tidy spreadsheet can hijack a brilliant woman’s nervous system at midnight, we have to talk about the body’s threat-detection apparatus, and how it doesn’t actually distinguish between “real danger” and “old danger.” Both produce the same biology.
A nervous-system cue is any stimulus, internal or external, that activates the autonomic nervous system’s threat or safety pathways, producing physiological changes such as accelerated heart rate, shallow breathing, muscle bracing, freeze, or hypervigilance. Stephen Porges, PhD, neuroscientist and developer of polyvagal theory, describes this process in his 2022 paper “Polyvagal Theory: A Science of Safety” in Frontiers in Integrative Neuroscience (PMID 35645742). Porges’ core argument, one I return to constantly in my own nervous-system regulation work with clients, is that “felt safety” is a biological state, not a cognitive judgment. Your body decides whether something is safe before your prefrontal cortex gets a vote.
In plain terms: Your body is scanning for danger and safety constantly, below the level of conscious thought. A spreadsheet is a neutral object. To another body, it could be wallpaper. To a body that learned, decades ago, that money meant fighting parents or whispered phone calls or the lights getting cut off, that spreadsheet isn’t neutral. It’s a smoke alarm.
The mechanics matter here. The amygdala, the brain’s threat-detection hub, is faster than the prefrontal cortex, the part of you that makes spreadsheets and reads research papers. When the amygdala flags a financial stimulus as a threat cue, it triggers a sympathetic activation (fight or flight) or a dorsal vagal shutdown (freeze, collapse, numbness) before your thinking brain intervenes.
Robin Aupperle, PhD, psychologist and trauma researcher, and her colleagues showed in their 2012 paper in Neuropharmacology that PTSD specifically impairs the executive functions that would normally help someone disengage from threat cues and re-orient to the present (PMID 21349277). Translation: when your nervous system has tagged money as dangerous, your capacity to “just look at the bill rationally” is, neurobiologically, partially offline. That’s not a character problem. It’s a wiring problem, and wiring can be worked with.
This is why telling a financially traumatized woman to “just open the mail” lands the way telling a panicking person to “just calm down” lands. It’s a body problem with a thinking veneer on top. And the body, as van der Kolk reminds us, keeps the score whether the conscious mind is keeping it or not.
“I felt a Cleaving in my Mind. / As if my Brain had split. / I tried to match it, Seam by Seam, / But could not make them fit.”
Emily Dickinson, poet, from “I felt a Cleaving in my Mind,” (Fr 867)
How Does Money Trauma Show Up in Driven Women?
The presentation in this population is often counterintuitive. Money trauma in a woman who waits tables looks different from money trauma in a woman who runs a forty-million-dollar P&L. The biology is identical. The wrapping isn’t.
In driven women, money trauma tends to wear a costume of competence. It looks like:
- Hyper-organized finances paired with chronic dread when actually looking at them
- Earning aggressively while feeling vaguely guilty about earning at all
- Delegating money tasks to a partner, accountant, or assistant, then not reading anything they send
- Working harder when financial anxiety spikes, even when the situation calls for rest
- Sudden numbness, dissociation, or “fog” the moment a financial conversation starts
- Outsized shame after small financial “mistakes” that wouldn’t faze a peer
- Difficulty enjoying money even when there’s, objectively, plenty of it, a pattern I see frequently in affluent marriages where money has come to replace intimacy
Take Latoya, a senior tech executive in her early forties. By any external metric she’s winning. Equity in two successful exits, a paid-off house, a financial advisor she trusts completely. Her budgeting app is color-coded, her tax planning two years ahead. She keeps a framed photo of her grandmother’s beauty shop on her desk, the one her grandmother ran for thirty years out of a converted garage.
And yet Latoya describes a constant low-grade hum of financial dread. A sense that “the floor could fall out at any moment,” even though she has the financial buffer to survive almost any scenario for several years. “I know the math,” she told me in our third session, turning her coffee cup a quarter turn on the table between us. “I know the math says I’m fine. My chest doesn’t know the math. My chest thinks we’re one bad month from the garage again.”
When we slowed down together and asked her body what it remembered, what surfaced wasn’t Latoya the executive. It was Latoya at nine, sitting on the stairs, listening to her parents argue about a credit card bill through the wall. Sitting with her in that session, I felt the particular quiet that shows up when a client realizes the fear in her chest is older than the company she built to outrun it.
This is one of the patterns I see most often in driven women: the present-day adult earning power is real, and the underlying nine-year-old is also real, and both are running the spreadsheet at the same time. This connects to broader patterns of relational trauma in driven women, where competence becomes both armor and a way of staying loyal to the family system that hurt you.
It also intersects with another pattern I write about often, workaholism as a trauma response. When the nervous system reads money as threat, the most reflexive solution is to earn more, to outwork the fear. This works, briefly, until it doesn’t. The fear isn’t about the bank balance. It’s about an unprocessed memory of not being safe, and no amount of income has ever resolved a memory.
Where Do Inherited Money Rules and the Shame Spiral Come From?
Behind almost every money-triggered nervous system is a set of unspoken family rules. Nobody printed these rules out, but everyone obeyed them. Decades later, they still organize how a successful adult woman feels in her own body when she opens her brokerage app.
Inherited money rules are the implicit and explicit beliefs about money, what it means, who deserves it, what it requires, what it threatens, passed down through family systems across generations. Tricia Neppl, PhD, developmental psychologist at Iowa State University, and colleagues demonstrated in their 2016 paper in the Journal of Family Psychology how economic pressure in one generation transmits through couple conflict and parenting behaviors into the next, shaping children’s emotional and behavioral regulation (PMID 26551658). The result is a set of internalized rules, often contradictory, that govern adult financial emotion long after the original economic conditions have changed.
In plain terms: These are the unspoken laws about money you absorbed at the dinner table. “We don’t talk about money.” “Rich people are greedy.” “Money is the root of all stress.” “Wanting more is shameful.” “If you have it, you’ll be alone.” They run quietly underneath your adult financial life, pulling on you whenever you try to do something the rules forbid.
For Leisha, the inherited rule was this: money is what adults fight about behind closed doors. Her nervous system didn’t need a current threat to react at midnight over the Q3 forecast. The spreadsheet substituted perfectly well for the sound of her parents arguing through the wall when she was small.
For Latoya, the rule ran differently: women in this family don’t discuss money out loud. Talking about it’s undignified, somehow, and a little dirty. The way she’d angle her laptop screen away from her partner whenever her brokerage app was open wasn’t privacy. It was loyalty to a family code she’d never consciously agreed to but had absorbed completely by middle school.
When these rules get violated by present-day life, when a driven woman earns more than the family ever did, charges a fee her family wouldn’t have dared name out loud, or simply looks at money directly, the nervous system reads it as a threat. Sometimes the threat stays internal: shame, dread, numbness. Sometimes it externalizes as the shame spiral.
A shame spiral is a self-reinforcing loop in which an initial moment of shame triggers withdrawal, avoidance, and self-criticism, which deepens the original shame and intensifies emotional isolation. Teresa López-Castro, PhD, clinical psychologist, and colleagues established in their 2019 meta-analysis in the Journal of Traumatic Stress that shame is moderately and significantly associated with posttraumatic stress symptoms across studies (PMC7500058). In money contexts, the spiral typically runs: missed task, shame, avoidance, consequence, deeper shame.
In plain terms: You miss a bill. You feel like an idiot. You feel too stupid to look at the next one. You miss that one too. Now you really feel like an idiot. The longer it goes on, the worse it feels, the more you avoid, the worse it gets. It isn’t a character flaw. It’s a closed loop.
The shame spiral is one of the most demoralizing patterns I see in this work, partly because the women living it are usually the last to know they’re in it. They’re too busy berating themselves to notice they’re caught in a recognizable, treatable loop. Once we name it out loud, something shifts almost immediately.
The shame becomes smaller because the loop becomes visible. This pattern is often the same one operating beneath financial anxiety after narcissistic abuse, where shame about money got fused with relational shame until the two were impossible to tell apart.
Both/And: Can You Be Financially Capable and Still Be Financially Triggered?
This is the place clients most often need to be brought to gently, because their nervous systems have been pushing one of these truths to the front and exiling the other for years.
You can be a brilliant operator with money and have a body that flinches when you open the bank app.
You can run a P&L for a public company and not be able to look at your own household budget without a pit in your stomach.
You can have read every personal finance book on the market and still feel ten years old when your father asks how the business is going.
None of these are contradictions. They’re coexisting realities that live in different parts of you, and trauma therapy doesn’t ask you to pick one and disown the other.
Take Leisha again, six weeks into our work together. She’d built a five-year financial model in her sleep, more than once, for board decks that got funded. The week we dug into her freeze response, she had three unopened envelopes from her own accountant sitting on the kitchen counter, right beside the mail she opened without a second thought. Her competence and her freeze were both real, at the same time, in the same body. Neither one was a fraud.
The Both/And is the doorway out of self-blame. It says nothing has gone wrong with you. You’re not broken. You’re a complex adult carrying a complex history, and your competence and your wound are both authentic. Neither one is the lie.
This is the same Both/And I see in clients exploring inherited trauma alongside inherited wealth, where the same family that handed down the money also handed down the wound. You don’t have to choose which legacy is real. They both are.
The Systemic Lens: Are Money Patterns Learned in Relationships, Not Just Budgets?
It would be incomplete, and clinically inaccurate, to talk about money trauma as if it lives only inside the individual. It doesn’t. It’s shaped by, and reinforced by, systems much larger than the woman sitting across from me in my office.
The Family Stress Model, developed and tested by Tricia Neppl, PhD, and colleagues, shows clearly how economic pressure in a family system creates emotional distress and couple conflict that ripples through parenting and into the developing nervous systems of the children in that household (PMID 26551658).
Children don’t internalize “money is hard” as an abstract sentence. They internalize my mother goes silent and my father gets angry when the bills come. They internalize the felt sense of a family system under economic strain, stored in the body long before it has language.
That’s the relational layer. There’s also a wider systemic layer that I’d be doing every driven woman a disservice to ignore. Women in the United States are still earning less, on average, than men in equivalent roles. Women are still doing the majority of unpaid caregiving labor. Women of color are carrying compounded structural disadvantages on top of every dynamic already named in this piece.
Here’s how that inheritance lives in a Tuesday afternoon. It’s the extra hour of unpaid labor before the workday starts. It’s the salary negotiation you rehearsed four times and still undershot. It’s the mental math of what a maternity leave costs in a system built around a person who doesn’t take one.
Many of the women in my practice are first-generation wealth creators, doing financial work for which their families had no map, and which their families sometimes actively, if unconsciously, discourage. The body’s threat response to financial autonomy isn’t paranoia. It’s pattern recognition, built the same way any survival skill gets built.
So when a driven woman shows up panicked at her own success, I’m not interested in convincing her she “should” feel safe. I’m interested in helping her understand that her body’s response is intelligent. It formed in response to real conditions, and healing means updating the response now that conditions have, in many cases, changed. Or, where they haven’t, building real resources to move through them with more freedom than the last generation had.
This is also why I rarely send clients to “just budget better.” Budgeting better is fine. It isn’t the layer where the wound lives. The wound lives in the relationship: to family, to body, to system. That’s the layer that has to be addressed, often with support like childhood relational trauma work or structured relational trauma recovery.
How Do You Actually Heal Money Trauma?
Healing money trauma isn’t a five-step plan, and any blog post claiming it’s should make you suspicious. What I can offer here’s the architecture of healing I actually see work for driven women, the parts of the work that, in combination, produce real change.
Begin with curiosity, not judgment. When money triggers you, the first move isn’t to fix it. It’s to notice it. Where in the body is the activation? What’s the texture: heat, contraction, numbness, urgency? Naming the sensation activates the prefrontal cortex and creates a small but meaningful gap between trigger and reaction. Curiosity is itself a regulating intervention.
Treat avoidance as data, not a character flaw. Hilbert and colleagues’ 2024 study in Psychological Research demonstrated experimentally that financial scarcity increases behavioral avoidance, meaning your body’s pull-away reflex around money is well-documented in the literature, not a personal failing (PMID 39158712). When you find yourself avoiding the bill, the bank app, the conversation, that’s information about what your nervous system is registering as too much. Honor the signal first. Address the task second.
Map your inherited money rules. Sit with a journal and finish these sentences without editing: In my family, money meant. My mother’s relationship with money was. My father’s relationship with money was. The rule about talking about money in our house was. If I have too much money, what happens? The rules will surface. Once they’re visible, they lose some of their grip.
Build embodied safety practices. This is where insight has to give way to physiology. Grounding, feet on the floor, hand on heart, slow exhale-extended breathing that engages the vagal brake, gentle movement, and somatic modalities like Somatic Experiencing aren’t optional add-ons to cognitive understanding. For nervous-system-rooted issues, they’re the work itself.
Heal in relationship. Money trauma was almost always learned relationally, and it heals relationally, through a trauma-informed therapist, a coaching container, a peer group, or a partner who can hold the conversation without flinching. These aren’t luxuries. They’re the corrective experience your nervous system has been waiting for since the original wound was installed.
This is the heart of what we work on in individual therapy, and it’s structured into Fixing the Foundations™, my signature relational trauma recovery course.
Practice incremental exposure. Rewiring takes reps. Open one bill at a time. Look at the bank balance once a day for thirty seconds. Schedule a fifteen-minute “money check-in” with yourself on a Sunday. The goal isn’t heroism. The goal is teaching the nervous system, through small repeated experiences, that financial information can be approached without catastrophe.
Pair financial coaching with emotional healing. This is what programs like Money Without the Mayhem are built for, not because driven women need more spreadsheet education, but because they need the rare integration of financial scaffolding with nervous-system and family-of-origin work. The combination is what creates change that holds.
Say this out loud: be patient. The patterns you’re working with took decades to install. They won’t uninstall in a quarter. The clients who do this work most successfully show up consistently, hold the long view, and treat themselves with at least the same respect they extend to their direct reports.
What I want you to know is this. The heaviness you feel around money, even now, even with everything you’ve built, isn’t a sign that you’re failing at being a driven woman. It’s a sign that you’re a whole human carrying a real history. Of course it still catches you at midnight sometimes. That’s not regression. That’s a nervous system still, patiently, waiting to be met.
Healing means meeting that history. Not outrunning it, not outearning it, not outorganizing it. Meeting it. And in my experience, that meeting is where the actual financial peace begins.
Who I Am and Why I Know This
Over more than fifteen thousand direct clinical hours, I’ve worked with women earning significant incomes who lived in a constant state of financial dread they couldn’t logic their way out of. Research on adverse childhood experiences confirms that early financial instability and economic stress create lasting nervous system patterns that persist independently of adult financial status (PMID 9635069).
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and executive coach, licensed across 15 U.S. jurisdictions, and money trauma is one of the patterns I encounter most often in the driven, high-earning women who make up my caseload. Leisha and Latoya are composites, built from patterns across hundreds of clients, not individual case studies. I write about what I see in the room because the pattern is common enough, and quiet enough, that most women living it think they’re the only one.
Warmly,
Annie.
Warmly, Annie
Q: Why does money feel heavy even when I’m financially stable?
A: Because financial stability on paper doesn’t undo what your nervous system learned years ago. The body holds an embodied memory of scarcity, conflict, or shame around money, and that memory can be reactivated by present-day cues like bills, statements, or conversations, even when your conscious mind knows you’re safe. This pattern is well-documented in the trauma literature and in the ACE-and-finance research from Harter and Harter.
Q: How do I know if it’s money trauma versus regular financial stress?
A: Regular financial stress tends to be situational, proportionate, and to resolve when the situation does. Money trauma tends to be disproportionate to the actual stakes, persistent across changes in your financial reality, somatic in character (chest tightness, shutdown, dissociation, dread), and accompanied by shame that doesn’t quite track with what’s happening externally. If your finances are objectively fine and your body is still bracing, it’s worth investigating the trauma layer.
Q: Why do I avoid opening bills, statements, or financial mail?
A: Avoidance is a nervous-system response to perceived threat, not evidence that you’re irresponsible. When the body has tagged financial information as dangerous, the protective pull-away is automatic. Treating avoidance as data, as a signal that your system is overwhelmed, rather than as a moral failing, is the first step out of the shame spiral.
Q: Can therapy actually help with money trauma, or do I just need a financial planner?
A: A financial planner can help with the math. A trauma-informed therapist or coach helps with the body, the family-of-origin patterns, and the nervous-system responses underneath the math. Most driven women I work with need both, and find that the financial planning finally holds only after the underlying trauma layer has been addressed.
Q: Is being driven and ambitious part of the problem?
A: No. Ambition isn’t pathology. The complication is that ambition can mask the underlying trauma, and competence becomes a place to hide. The work isn’t to dial down your drive. The work is to make sure your drive is moving with you rather than carrying you somewhere your body never agreed to go.
Q: Why doesn’t insight alone fix this?
A: Because trauma is encoded in the body, not just the mind. You can fully understand the origin of a pattern and still have a nervous system that fires the same way it always has. Healing requires somatic engagement, breath, movement, relational safety, and repeated embodied experience, alongside the cognitive understanding. The understanding is necessary. It just isn’t sufficient on its own.
Q: What if I grew up with money and still feel financial trauma?
A: This is more common than people realize. Affluence doesn’t equal emotional safety. Many women raised with financial resources also grew up with significant relational instability, conditional love, family-of-origin enmeshment around money, or the felt sense that money was performance rather than care. The trauma is real even, sometimes especially, when the bank balance was healthy.
Q: Where do I start if I recognize myself in this article?
A: Start small and start somatically. Notice when money triggers you and what your body does in those moments, without trying to fix it yet. Then, if you want a structured path, look at Fixing the Foundations for the relational trauma layer or Money Without the Mayhem for the integration of nervous-system work and practical financial coaching.
Related Reading
- Felitti, Vincent J., Robert F. Anda, Dale Nordenberg, et al. “Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study.” American Journal of Preventive Medicine 14, no. 4 (1998): 245-258. PMID 9635069.
- Harter, Cynthia L., and John F. R. Harter. “The Link Between Adverse Childhood Experiences and Financial Security in Adulthood.” Journal of Family and Economic Issues 43, no. 4 (2022): 832-842. PMID 34522076.
- Neppl, Tricia K., Jennifer M. Senia, and M. Brent Donnellan. “Effects of Economic Hardship: Testing the Family Stress Model Over Time.” Journal of Family Psychology 30, no. 1 (2016): 12-21. PMID 26551658.
- Porges, Stephen W. “Polyvagal Theory: A Science of Safety.” Frontiers in Integrative Neuroscience 16 (2022): 871227. PMID 35645742.
- López-Castro, Teresa, Talia Saraiya, Rebecca Zumberg-Smith, and Denise Hien. “Association Between Shame and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Meta-Analysis.” Journal of Traumatic Stress 32, no. 4 (2019): 484-495. PMC7500058.
- Hilbert, L. P., M. K. Noordewier, L. Seck, et al. “Financial Scarcity and Financial Avoidance: An Eye-Tracking and Behavioral Experiment.” Psychological Research (2024). PMID 39158712.
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Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven women, including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs, in repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in USA Today, Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, and The Information. She’s currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.
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