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75 Words of Encouragement and Strength for When You Need Both
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75 Words of Encouragement and Strength for When You Need Both

SUMMARY

Some nights the clearest thing you can do is sit still and let a few true words reach you. This post collects 75 carefully chosen words of encouragement and strength, organized into five thematic buckets, alongside the clinical context that helps you understand why certain phrases land and others ring hollow. Whether you’re depleted, scared, or simply doing your best, something here is meant for you.

Last reviewed: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT

9:47 PM, Level P3

Nadia is 29. She’s a resident physician. It’s Monday, 9:47 in the evening, and she’s sitting in Level P3 of the hospital parking garage with the engine running. Two fluorescent lights flicker overhead. The concrete smells like exhaust and cold air. She still has her stethoscope around her neck. She hasn’t taken it off yet. The gas gauge says she’s running low. She hasn’t moved.

Her phone screen lights up. It’s a text from her mother: “Dinner?” Sent at 7pm. She hasn’t read it yet. She isn’t sure she can.

What she’s feeling isn’t despair, exactly. It’s closer to: I am doing something that matters and I am barely standing up. There’s a difference between those two things, and she knows it, and somehow that distinction is keeping her together. She doesn’t need someone to fix her. She needs someone to confirm that what she’s carrying is real, and that she’s real, and that it counts for something.

That’s what words of encouragement and strength are actually for. Not to convince you that everything is fine. Not to paste optimism over exhaustion. They’re for naming what’s true: the weight, the endurance, the private act of continuing, when you’re too tired to find the words yourself.

This collection is organized around five specific themes. If you’ve landed here, one of them is probably yours.

What Words of Encouragement and Strength Actually Are

Before the quotes, a grounding: what do we mean when we talk about words of encouragement and strength? Because there’s a version that doesn’t help, and a version that does, and they look almost identical from the outside.

STRENGTH (PSYCHOLOGICAL DEFINITION)

Distinguished from toughness by Kristin Neff, PhD, associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, who frames strength as the capacity to be present with difficulty without suppressing or denying it, while continuing to act. For Neff, whose foundational research appears in Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, this means that genuine strength is not the absence of vulnerability. It is the willingness to remain in contact with reality while still choosing the next right action.

In plain terms: Strength is not not feeling it. Strength is feeling it and doing the next thing anyway. The woman in the parking garage who is sitting with her stethoscope on and her gas gauge low. She is not weak. She is doing exactly what strength actually looks like.

The version that doesn’t help? Motivational phrases that treat hardship as a problem to be solved by attitude alone. “Good vibes only.” “Just believe in yourself.” These aren’t words of strength. They’re pressure dressed up as permission. They ask you to perform resilience rather than access it.

The version that does help? Words that see you clearly. That acknowledge the weight before they gesture toward the path. That confirm your experience rather than paper over it.

When Louisa May Alcott wrote, “I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship” in Little Women, she wasn’t pretending the storm was gone. She was acknowledging both the storm and the learning. That’s the difference. That’s what you’re looking for when you search for words of encouragement and strength at 9:47 on a Monday night.

If you’re in a season of sustained difficulty (not just a hard week but a genuinely hard period), you might also find the collection at uplifting quotes for hard times useful to sit with alongside this one.

Why Certain Words Land. And Others Don’t

In my work with clients, I notice a consistent phenomenon: a quote can reach someone in a way that ten therapy sessions haven’t quite managed yet. And a different quote (one that looks nearly identical on the surface) can land completely flat. The difference isn’t about the words themselves. It’s about what’s happening neurologically when language meets someone in a state of depletion.

LIMBIC RESONANCE

A concept developed by Thomas Lewis, MD, Fari Amini, MD, and Richard Lannon, MD (three psychiatrists at the University of California, San Francisco, and authors of A General Theory of Love), describing the brain’s capacity to synchronize with the emotional state of another through communication. Lewis and his colleagues demonstrate that meaningful language, particularly language that accurately names an internal state, activates the limbic system in a way that produces genuine physiological calm. That recognition (yes, that is what this is) is not just emotionally satisfying. It is neurologically regulating.

In plain terms: When a quote lands for you, something in your nervous system is actually settling. The words matched your reality precisely enough that your brain registered it as connection. And connection is regulating. That’s not sentimentality. That’s biology.

This is why hollow phrases don’t work. If the quote doesn’t reflect what’s actually true for you right now, your nervous system rejects it the way a body rejects a foreign substance. But when the match is right, when someone else’s words capture exactly what you’ve been unable to articulate yourself. The effect is real and physical.

Kristin Neff’s self-compassion research adds another layer. Her work consistently finds that self-critical self-talk produces cortisol spikes and threat activation in the brain, while compassionate self-acknowledgment reduces those stress markers. Words aren’t just metaphors. They are inputs to a biological system that is either calming or being further alarmed.

What that means practically: the best words of encouragement and strength for you right now are the ones that feel most true, not the ones that feel most inspiring. Truth first. Inspiration follows.

You might also want to explore therapy with Annie if you’re finding that you keep needing words of encouragement to get through daily life. That pattern is worth looking at with someone who can help you understand what’s underneath it.

How These Quotes Show Up in Driven Women’s Lives

What I see consistently in my work with driven, ambitious women is that the relationship with words of strength is more complicated than it looks. On the surface, they’re looking for inspiration. But underneath, they’re often looking for permission. Permission to be as exhausted as they actually are, permission to not perform okayness anymore, permission to receive something instead of always generating it.

Nadia, in the parking garage, isn’t looking for a quote that tells her she can do it. She already knows she can do it. She’s doing it, fourteen hours a day, sometimes more. What she needs is a quote that says: the fact that you’re doing it and it’s this hard, simultaneously. That is something. That is actually something.

Consider also Elena, 36, a senior partner at a consulting firm who told me she’d kept a note on her phone for two years. It was a single line from Georgia O’Keeffe: “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life. And I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.” Elena didn’t keep it because it made her feel powerful. She kept it because it was honest. O’Keeffe wasn’t claiming to have conquered fear. She was claiming to have kept going anyway, with the fear still present. That distinction mattered to Elena more than any triumphalist framing would have.

What both women are doing, in different ways, is using language to be witnessed. Because driven women often operate in environments where the cost of being seen as struggling is real. The professional consequences can be concrete. The private relationship with words of encouragement becomes the one place where the mask can come down, even briefly.

This theme is explored more in the words of encouragement for hard times collection, and in the broader quotes about resilience roundup that looks at what psychological resilience actually means versus how it gets performed.

On Encouragement Versus Toxic Positivity

There’s a distinction that matters here, and it’s worth naming directly before we get to the full collection. Not everything labeled “words of encouragement” actually is. A significant portion of what circulates online as encouragement is, functionally, a form of pressure. The message that if you just believe hard enough, think positive enough, manifest correctly enough, your circumstances will bend. That isn’t encouragement. That’s magical thinking dressed in motivational clothing.

“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I’ll rise.”

MAYA ANGELOU, Poet and Author, “Still I Rise”

Angelou isn’t pretending the cruelty doesn’t happen. She’s not saying the words don’t cut. She’s saying: and still. That conjunction is everything. The acknowledgment and the rising are held together, not sequenced. Not “first get over the pain, then rise.” Both at once. That’s what distinguishes genuine encouragement from toxic positivity: genuine encouragement doesn’t require you to bypass your reality in order to access hope.

Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, research professor at the University of Houston and author of Daring Greatly and Atlas of the Heart, has written extensively on this distinction. Her research on vulnerability and courage finds that people who demonstrate the most sustainable resilience are not the ones who push negative emotion away. They’re the ones who allow themselves to be fully seen in difficulty, including by themselves. “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do,” she writes. The bravest thing. Not performing strength. Owning the story.

That framing redefines what words of encouragement should do. They shouldn’t tell you to hide the hard parts. They should help you own them. To look at what’s true, acknowledge it fully, and then find the thread that leads forward from exactly where you are.

If you’re noticing that you reach for encouragement but it consistently doesn’t help: the words feel hollow, or they give you a brief lift that crashes fast. It may be worth exploring that pattern. The executive coaching work I do with driven women often begins exactly there: with the question of why external validation (including inspiring words) is not penetrating, and what that reveals about what’s actually needing attention.

Both/And: The Quotes Can Name It, But Something More Builds It

Here is what I want to say carefully, because it matters: the quotes in this collection are real and they have genuine value. Language that names your experience accurately is regulating. Being witnessed through someone else’s words from a century ago is genuinely nourishing. This is true.

And it is also true that the strength you need tonight will not ultimately be built by reading quotes. Words can name it. They can remind you it exists. They can help you locate something you’d temporarily lost contact with. But the deep, sustainable kind of strength that carries you through not just one hard night but a whole hard season. That requires something more substantial than beautiful sentences.

Consider Camille, 41, a nonprofit executive director who described going through a period where she had dozens of quotes saved. On her phone, on sticky notes, in a journal she carried everywhere. She found them genuinely helpful in the moment. But what she noticed was that she kept needing more of them, more frequently, with diminishing returns. The quotes were doing the job of something that needed to come from inside her, and they couldn’t do that job forever. What she needed wasn’t different words. She needed to understand why her internal reserves kept running empty.

Both things can be true at once: the quotes are a real resource AND they are not a substitute for the internal work. They can point toward strength the way a map points toward a destination. But you still have to make the trip. If you’re in a place where you’re relying heavily on external words to stay regulated, that’s not a character flaw. It’s a signal. It’s information about what needs tending.

You can explore what that tending might look like through Fixing the Foundations, the course I created specifically for women who want to do the underlying work, at their own pace, in a way that doesn’t require another person to hold them up every step of the way.

The Systemic Lens: Whose Strength Gets Witnessed?

I want to hold something here that often goes unexamined in conversations about strength and encouragement. Which is the question of whose strength gets witnessed, supported, and sustained, and whose is simply assumed.

Women are asked to be strong on behalf of everyone else. Nadia works fourteen-hour shifts in a system that depends on her endurance while offering her very little in return. Elena’s clients rely on her steadiness without much curiosity about what steadies her. The societal expectation directed at women in demanding roles (particularly women of color in those roles) is not just that they be capable. It’s that their capability be frictionless, invisible, inexhaustible.

When strength is assumed, it doesn’t get tended. You don’t water a plant you believe is artificial. The systemic cost of the “strong woman” narrative is that the women living inside it often don’t receive encouragement. Because their strength is treated as a given rather than as something that requires replenishment. They give encouragement to others constantly, as part of the role. They receive it rarely, because receiving it would make the need visible, and visible need feels threatening.

Words of strength that are genuinely useful must reckon with this. The quote that says “she was fragile like a bomb” (attributed widely to the poet Nayyirah Waheed) captures something about the kind of strength that builds under pressure without being witnessed or released. And what that can eventually produce. The question underneath all of this is not just: do you have strength? It’s: who sees it? Who tends it? Who holds you while you’re holding everyone else?

The quotes about strength in hard times collection explores the harder edge of this question. And if systemic issues are actively affecting your mental health at work, therapy can be a place to work through not just the individual experience but the structural conditions producing it.

How to Let These Words Actually Work in You

Before the full collection: a brief word on how to use it. Not all 75 quotes will be for you. Most people find five or six that genuinely land and wonder why the rest feel flat. That’s the right response. Trust the ones that make you exhale. Those are doing the biological work of matching your internal state. The ones that leave you cold are probably not for your current season. And that’s fine.

Here is the complete collection, organized into the five buckets from the spec. Read slowly. Pause when something catches.


Bucket 1: On Carrying More Than You Should Have To

Strength that comes not from muscle but from endurance. The kind built not in the gym but in the parking garage, the oncology ward, the 4am email inbox.

  1. “I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.”. Louisa May Alcott, Little Women
  2. “You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”. Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
  3. “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.”. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Death: The Final Stage of Growth
  4. “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
  5. “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life. And I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.”. Georgia O’Keeffe
  6. “The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are strong at the broken places.”. Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms
  7. “I am deliberate and afraid of nothing.”. Audre Lorde
  8. “Promise me you’ll always remember: you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”. A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
  9. “The human capacity for burden is like bamboo. Far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance.”. Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
  10. “Whatever is bringing you to your knees right now. Let it. Because you’ll emerge from it standing taller than you knew how to stand before.”. Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things
  11. “Be a first-rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of someone else.”. Judy Garland
  12. “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.”. Marie Curie
  13. “We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time.”. Eleanor Roosevelt
  14. “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”. Mahatma Gandhi
  15. “The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”. Robert Jordan, The Fires of Heaven

Bucket 2: On the Courage Before Anyone Is Watching

The private act of continuing when there is no audience, no applause, no performance review. Just you and what you know you have to do next.

  1. “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”. Eleanor Roosevelt
  2. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”. Ralph Waldo Emerson
  3. “Courage is not the absence of despair; it is, rather, the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair.”. Rollo May, The Courage to Create
  4. “Bravery is not the absence of fear but the forging ahead despite being afraid.”. Nelson Mandela
  5. “I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”. Maya Angelou
  6. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”. Mark Twain
  7. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”. Theodore Roosevelt
  8. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”. Confucius
  9. “One step at a time is all it takes to get you there.”. Emily Dickinson (attributed)
  10. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”. Confucius
  11. “I would rather die of passion than of boredom.”. Vincent van Gogh
  12. “Always do what you are afraid to do.”. Ralph Waldo Emerson
  13. “Do not wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect.”. Zoey Sayward
  14. “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”. C.S. Lewis
  15. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”. William James

Bucket 3: On Falling Down Correctly

Quotes about failure, recovery, and the dignity in both. Because the way you fall is also worth honoring.

  1. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all.”. J.K. Rowling, Harvard Commencement Address, 2008
  2. “I have not failed. I’ve just found ten thousand ways that won’t work.”. Thomas Edison
  3. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”. Winston Churchill
  4. “Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”. David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships
  5. “Fall seven times, stand up eight.”. Japanese Proverb
  6. “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”. J.K. Rowling
  7. “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”. Albert Einstein
  8. “I think it’s important to have good hard failure when you’re young. Because it makes you kind of aware of what can happen to you.”. Walt Disney
  9. “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are.”. Maya Angelou
  10. “The great glory of human beings lies not in having fallen but in rising every time they fall.”. Nelson Mandela
  11. “Hardship often prepares an ordinary person for an extraordinary destiny.”. C.S. Lewis
  12. “It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.”. Edmund Hillary
  13. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”. Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings
  14. “Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”. Victor Hugo, Les Misérables
  15. “The most common form of despair is not being who you are.”. Søren Kierkegaard

Bucket 4: On Being Built for This

Not toxic positivity. But honest recognition of capacity. The kind of strength that doesn’t deny the weight, but confirms that you were designed to carry it, and have been doing so all along.

  1. “She was not fragile like a flower; she was fragile like a bomb.”. Nayyirah Waheed
  2. “I am not lucky. You know what I am? I am smart, I am talented, I take advantage of the opportunities that come my way and I work really, really hard.”. Shonda Rhimes
  3. “I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves.”. Mary Wollstonecraft, A Vindication of the Rights of Woman
  4. “The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”. Coco Chanel
  5. “Well-behaved women seldom make history.”. Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
  6. “I am not afraid; I was born to do this.”. Joan of Arc (attributed)
  7. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”. Nora Ephron, Wellesley Commencement Address, 1996
  8. “A woman with a voice is, by definition, a strong woman.”. Melinda Gates
  9. “You were wild once. Don’t let them tame you.”. Isadora Duncan
  10. “I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.”. Rosa Parks
  11. “I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change. I am changing the things I cannot accept.”. Angela Davis
  12. “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.”. Oprah Winfrey
  13. “You don’t have to be fearless. Just don’t let fear stop you.”. Mellody Hobson
  14. “Forget about being a superwoman. Be a real woman.”. Sheryl Sandberg
  15. “Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.”. Paulo Coelho

Bucket 5: On Receiving Strength From Others

Encouragement as something that enters you from outside, not only from within. The acknowledgment that strength is not always generated alone, and that receiving is its own kind of courage.

  1. “Tell me, what is it you plan to do / with your one wild and precious life?”. Mary Oliver, “The Summer Day”
  2. “In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.”. Albert Schweitzer
  3. “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law.”. Galatians 6:2
  4. “No man is an island, entire of itself.”. John Donne, Devotions upon Emergent Occasions
  5. “We are stronger together than we are alone.”. Walter Payton
  6. “Each person you meet is an aspect of yourself, clamoring for love.”. Eric Micha’el Leventhal
  7. “We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust.”. E.e. cummings
  8. “You are enough. A thousand times enough.”. Atticus, Love Her Wild
  9. “Help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who ask for it.”. J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
  10. “Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness.”. Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
  11. “I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”. Audre Lorde, A Burst of Light
  12. “We are most alive when we’re in love.”. John Updike
  13. “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow. This is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”. Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed
  14. “People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”. Joseph F. Newton
  15. “The most important thing in the world is to learn to give out love, and to let it come in.”. Morrie Schwartz, as quoted in Mitch Albom’s Tuesdays with Morrie

If certain quotes from Bucket 5 felt particularly charged for you (either longed for or quietly threatening), that’s worth paying attention to. Receiving is hard for women who’ve learned to function on their own reserves. You can explore that more in the Strong & Stable newsletter, which covers this exact terrain every week.

For more collections organized by mood and season, the quotes about strength in hard times roundup focuses specifically on the harder edge of resilience, and the quotes about resilience collection takes a wider angle on what recovery actually looks like over time.

Sitting With What You’ve Read

Nadia is still in Level P3. She’s been sitting there for eleven minutes. The engine is still running. The fluorescent lights are still flickering. And something has shifted. Not because anything external changed, but because she let herself stay in the moment instead of driving away from it. She finally reads her mother’s text. She types back: “Tomorrow?” And then she drives home.

That moment of “tomorrow” is what strength actually looks like in the life of a driven woman. Not the Instagram quote on white background. Not the blazing declaration. The quiet decision, made in a parking garage, to keep going at exactly the pace you can actually manage.

If words from this collection stay with you, if you find yourself returning to one or two when you’re in your own version of Level P3. That’s real. Let them do their work. And when you’re ready to go deeper than words can reach, the connect page is where we start a different kind of conversation.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Q: What’s the difference between genuine encouragement and manipulation?

A: Genuine encouragement acknowledges reality (including the difficult parts) before pointing toward possibility. Manipulation uses hopeful language to override your accurate assessment of your own situation. If encouraging words make you feel pressured to push through something your instincts are telling you to stop and examine, that’s coercion dressed in inspiration clothing. Real encouragement leaves your agency intact. You still get to choose what to do with it.

Q: Is it possible to be “too strong”. To keep functioning when I should actually be falling apart?

A: Yes, and this is more common than it sounds in driven, ambitious women. Continuing to function at a high level when you’re genuinely in crisis can be a trauma response. Specifically, the over-functioning that often develops when falling apart wasn’t safe or permitted in your history. If you’re consistently keeping it together in ways that astonish even you, the question worth asking isn’t “how do I keep doing this” but “what does the functioning cost me, and what is it keeping me from feeling?” That question is worth sitting with, ideally with support.

Q: How do I find words of strength when I’m too depleted to feel them?

A: Start with the ones that feel most accurate, not the ones that feel most inspiring. When you’re depleted, inspiration can feel actively alienating. Because it requires a gap between where you are and where the quote is, and your nervous system doesn’t have resources to cross that gap. Look instead for words that match your present reality with precision. Even a sentence that simply confirms: this is as hard as you think it is can do genuine work when inspiring language can’t.

Q: What does it mean when strength quotes feel hollow rather than energizing?

A: It usually means one of two things: either the quote doesn’t match your current experience closely enough to register as true (in which case, keep looking until one does), or you’re in a place where external words simply can’t reach what needs to be tended internally. If the second, the hollowness isn’t a failure of the quotes. It’s information. It may be pointing toward work that goes deeper than language: somatic work, relational repair, or a therapeutic container where the real story can be told without performance.

Q: Can I build genuine strength from external words, or does it have to come from inside?

A: Both. External words from researchers, poets, and people who’ve survived something can name and activate strength that is genuinely yours but temporarily inaccessible. That’s not fake. Limbic resonance is real: when language accurately matches your internal state, something in your nervous system settles, and from that more settled place you can access more of your actual capacity. But external words work best when they’re catalysts. Sparks that ignite something already present in you, not substitutes for the internal fire. If you’re relying on them as the primary source rather than as a reminder, that’s worth exploring.

Related Reading

  • Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York: Gotham Books, 2012.
  • Lewis, Thomas, Fari Amini, and Richard Lannon. A General Theory of Love. New York: Random House, 2000.
  • Neff, Kristin. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. New York: William Morrow, 2011.
  • Lorde, Audre. A Burst of Light: And Other Essays. Ithaca, NY: Firebrand Books, 1988.
  • Strayed, Cheryl. Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar. New York: Vintage Books, 2012.

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