70 Quotes About Choosing Yourself (After Years of Choosing Everyone Else)
If you’ve spent years being the person everyone else counted on (at work, at home, in relationships) — the idea of choosing yourself can feel equal parts terrifying and entirely foreign. This collection of 70 quotes about choosing yourself is organized into five thematic groups to meet you where you are: giving yourself permission, understanding what was asked of you, seeing what the practice actually looks like, building self-respect as a foundation, and imagining the life that becomes possible when you do.
- Nadia’s Forty-Five Minutes
- What Self-Abandonment Actually Is
- The Psychology Behind Why This Is Hard
- Quotes for Driven Women Who’ve Earned Everything Except Their Own Attention
- Quotes on the Long Practice of Putting Others First
- Both/And: Choosing Yourself Won’t Feel Clean — And It’s Still Worth Doing
- The Systemic Lens: Who Wasn’t Permitted to Choose Themselves in the First Place?
- Quotes for the Life That’s Possible When You Do
- Frequently Asked Questions
Nadia’s Forty-Five Minutes
It’s 10:33 on a Sunday morning. Nadia, 31, a pediatric resident, is sitting at a small table near the window of the coffee shop two blocks from her apartment. The light is flat and good. The music is low — something instrumental she doesn’t recognize. In front of her: a journal she bought herself three months ago as a gift, then felt vaguely guilty about for a week afterward, as if the money should have gone to something useful.
She opens it. At the top of the page she writes the date. Then she stops. The page is blank. She doesn’t know what comes next.
Her phone is face-down. She set a timer before she sat down — forty-five minutes, no exceptions, no chart reviews, no texts. It reads: 44:12 remaining. She looks at the blank page. She thinks: I don’t know what I want. I’m not sure I’ve ever been asked.
That sentence, “I’m not sure I’ve ever been asked,” is one of the most common things I hear from driven, ambitious women in my practice — not said with self-pity. Not from women who haven’t accomplished things. From women who have accomplished extraordinary things, and who, somewhere in the middle of all of it, stopped being a person with interior preferences and became a very efficient machine for meeting other people’s needs.
If that sentence landed somewhere in your chest, this collection is for you. These 70 quotes about choosing yourself aren’t motivational filler. They’re organized by where you might actually be: waiting for permission, still naming what was asked of you, trying to understand what choosing yourself even looks like in a Tuesday, rebuilding self-respect as structural foundation, and imagining forward when you’re ready. Take what fits. Leave what doesn’t. The blank page is still there. So is the 44 minutes.
What Self-Abandonment Actually Is
Before we get to the quotes, it helps to name the pattern that many driven women recognize in themselves before they can name it clinically. The experience of reading “quotes about choosing yourself” and feeling a complicated mix of inspiration and grief — that gap is worth understanding.
A concept described by psychologists informed by John Bradshaw’s framework of inner child work, in which a person habitually suppresses their own needs, desires, and emotional signals to maintain relationships, avoid conflict, or fulfill an internalized role. The pattern typically develops in childhood when a child learns (explicitly or implicitly) that having needs creates problems, that emotions are burdensome to others, or that love is conditional on being useful, compliant, or impressive.
In plain terms: If choosing yourself feels radical, if it feels selfish, dangerous, or like something other people get to do but not you — that’s not a character flaw. That’s a pattern that was learned in a specific relational context. And because it was learned, it can be unlearned. The quotes that follow aren’t instructions. They’re mirrors.
Self-abandonment isn’t always dramatic. For many of the women I work with, it looks like volunteering for one more committee, agreeing to a dinner they didn’t want to attend, or answering a work email at 11pm because saying no felt more costly than the sleep they lost. It looks like Nadia buying herself a journal and feeling guilty about it for a week.
The first group of quotes is for that: the moment before the moment. The place where permission lives — or doesn’t.
Group 1: On the Permission You’re Waiting For
You don’t need anyone to sign off on this. But sometimes you need to hear it said out loud, by someone you respect, in language that bypasses the defenses. These quotes are for that.
“As you become more clear about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you — the first time around.” — Oprah Winfrey
“I am learning every day to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me and not terrify me.” — Tracee Ellis Ross
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” — Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
“You are enough. A thousand times enough.” — widely attributed, origin unclear
“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.” — Coco Chanel
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.” — Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” — Oscar Wilde, An Ideal Husband
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” — Jack Kornfield, A Path with Heart
“You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.” — Sophia Bush
“You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try to make everyone happy. For now, take time for you.” — attributed to various sources; origin unclear
“No one can give you permission to be yourself. Not your mother, not your partner, not your therapist. The permission slip is internal.” — In my work with clients, this is often the first hard truth and the most liberating one.
In my clinical experience, the women who come to individual therapy specifically around self-prioritization often describe waiting for a crisis, or for a relationship to end, or for some external permission structure to fall away — before they allowed themselves to consider their own wants. The permission was always available. The ability to receive it wasn’t yet.
The Psychology Behind Why This Is Hard
Choosing yourself isn’t a problem of motivation. If it were, every inspirational quote would work on the first read, and you wouldn’t be here. The difficulty is structural — it’s rooted in how the nervous system learned to organize itself around approval, safety, and belonging.
Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, research professor at the University of Houston and author of Daring Greatly, has spent over two decades studying shame and the courage it takes to prioritize yourself when you’ve been conditioned to earn belonging through service to others. Her research is consistent: the belief that worthiness is contingent on usefulness is one of the most common and most corrosive patterns in driven women. It isn’t vanity or selfishness that makes self-prioritization hard. It’s shame — the learned equation that “having needs = being a burden.”
A term used in shame research and attachment theory to describe the internalized belief that one’s value as a person depends on performance, productivity, helpfulness, or other conditional factors — rather than being inherent. Researchers including Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, and Kristin Neff, PhD, associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and founding faculty of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, have documented how conditional worthiness underlies both perfectionism and the compulsion to prioritize others over oneself.
In plain terms: If you’ve spent years feeling like your worth was tied to how useful you are to other people (if rest feels lazy, limits feel selfish, and having a preference feels like a luxury) — that’s conditional worthiness doing its work. The good news is that worthiness isn’t actually conditional. It just feels that way until the underlying pattern is examined.
Kristin Neff, PhD, whose research on self-compassion has been replicated across dozens of studies, finds that treating yourself with the same warmth you’d extend to a friend (especially when you’re struggling) is not self-indulgent. It’s one of the most reliable predictors of emotional resilience, healthy relationships, and sustained performance over time. The irony is that women who struggle most with self-prioritization are often the ones whose capacity and output everyone else depends on. Choosing yourself isn’t a retreat from responsibility. It’s what makes the responsibility sustainable.
If you find yourself intellectually agreeing with the quotes in this article but feeling nothing shift, that’s worth paying attention to. Understanding a pattern and releasing a pattern are two different things. Executive coaching or therapy can help bridge that gap — not because you’re broken, but because some patterns need more than language to move.
Quotes for Driven Women Who’ve Earned Everything Except Their Own Attention
Dani is 38, a VP of product at a mid-size tech company, and has been in therapy for about eight months. She came in after a close friend told her, gently but directly, “I don’t think I actually know you anymore.” Dani didn’t argue. She realized, sitting in her car after that conversation, that she didn’t know herself either. She knew her performance review. She didn’t know what she wanted for dinner. She’d optimized herself into a stranger.
These quotes are for Dani, and for everyone like her.
Group 2: On What Choosing Yourself Actually Looks Like
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” — Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” — widely attributed; origin unclear, but the clinical truth holds regardless of source
“Self-care is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” — Audre Lorde
“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” — Charles Bukowski
“The relationship with oneself is the foundation of all other relationships.” — In my clinical work, I return to this framing again and again — not as a platitude but as a structural fact.
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” — Anne Lamott
“Radical self-love is not a destination. It’s a daily decision.” — Sonya Renee Taylor, The Body Is Not an Apology
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.” — André Gide, paraphrased
“Do not shrink. Do not puff up. Stand on your sacred ground.” — Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run with the Wolves
“You get to decide. That’s the whole thing, actually. You get to decide.” — widely attributed
What I notice in my work with clients is that choosing yourself often starts very small. Not with a dramatic boundary conversation or a life-changing pivot, but with something like: I’m going to eat lunch today. Or: I’m going to say I don’t know what I want for dinner, instead of deferring immediately to whoever asked. Small acts of self-attention accumulate. They’re how you practice being a person with preferences before you can be fluent at it. The Fixing the Foundations course works through exactly this kind of incremental reclamation.
Group 3: Quotes About Self-Respect as Structural Foundation
Self-respect isn’t the same as self-esteem. Self-esteem is often contingent on performance — it goes up when things go well and down when they don’t. Self-respect is more structural: it’s the baseline belief that you matter, that your experience counts, and that your needs deserve to be in the room. These quotes are about that deeper foundation.
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.” — Diane Von Furstenberg
“You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and caging and fearing yourself.” — Geneen Roth, Women Food and God
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” — widely attributed to Robert Tew
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” — Tony Gaskins Jr.
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” — widely attributed; origin unclear
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” — Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” — C.G. Jung
“I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.” — Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre
“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.” — Abraham Joshua Heschel
For more on the relational architecture of self-worth, the collection on uplifting quotes for hard times and the post on quotes on limits are good companion reads.
Quotes on the Long Practice of Putting Others First
Before we can fully embrace choosing ourselves, many of us need to grieve what was asked of us before we ever got to ask ourselves — or at least name it clearly. For driven women, the pattern of putting others first wasn’t random. It was trained. It was rewarded. It was, in many cases, a reasonable adaptation to a childhood environment where safety or love felt contingent on being useful, invisible, or impressive.
These quotes sit with that history. They’re not about blame. They’re about recognition.
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do / with your one wild and precious life?”
MARY OLIVER, “The Summer Day,” from New and Selected Poems
Mary Oliver’s question is so deceptively simple, so quietly devastating. It lands differently when you realize you don’t have an answer. Or when the only answer that comes is: whatever everyone else needs.
“You may need to walk away from people who don’t hear you, don’t see you, don’t value you.” — widely attributed; origin unclear, but the clinical truth is documented across relational trauma literature
“Every time you choose yourself, you are teaching yourself that you matter.” — In my practice, I say this often in different forms, because it’s not abstract — it’s how the internal working model changes.
“I had to stop being so available for everyone else and start being available to myself.” — widely attributed
“The hardest thing about being an overachiever is learning that rest isn’t a reward, it’s a requirement.” — widely attributed; origin unclear
“I’m not what happened to me. I’m what I choose to become.” — Carl Gustav Jung, paraphrased from Modern Man in Search of a Soul
“She remembered who she was and the game changed.” — Lalah Delia
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” — Wayne Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” — C.G. Jung, paraphrased
“If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down.” — attributed to Toni Morrison; similar sentiment in Song of Solomon
“Selfhood begins with a walking away, and love is proved in the letting go.” — C. Day Lewis, “Walking Away”
What I see in my work is that the women who struggle most with choosing themselves are often the ones who learned earliest that their needs were a burden. The message wasn’t always explicit. Sometimes it was structural: a parent who was ill, a family system where money was tight and needs felt like luxuries, a cultural context where a girl’s value was tied to her service and silence. Naming that context doesn’t excuse anyone. It makes the pattern make sense — and what makes sense can be changed. Trauma-informed therapy is one place to do that work.
Both/And: Choosing Yourself Won’t Feel Clean — And It’s Still Worth Doing
Here is what I want to say clearly, because most quote collections about choosing yourself leave this out: choosing yourself will sometimes feel exactly like abandoning others. And it will still be the right thing. Both of those things are true at the same time, and learning to hold them is part of what the work is for.
When Nadia sets that forty-five minute timer and turns her phone face-down, someone might text her. A co-resident might need a favor. Her mother might call. And when Nadia doesn’t answer, when she keeps her commitment to the blank page and the good light — she might feel guilty. That guilt is real. It doesn’t mean she did something wrong.
Choosing yourself does not mean abandoning the people you love. AND it will sometimes feel exactly like that — especially in the early days, especially when the people around you are accustomed to having full access to your time and attention. That feeling is data about the pattern you’re changing. It is not evidence that you should stop.
Priya, 44, an internist and mother of three, started working with a coach after she realized she hadn’t taken a full day off in four years. Not a vacation day. A day where she wasn’t monitoring her phone, her kids’ schedules, and her patients’ post-discharge questions simultaneously. When she finally took one: a single Saturday, deliberately, with her partner handling logistics. She spent the first three hours anxious and the last five reading a novel she’d wanted to read since 2019. She called it “the most guilt-ridden good day I’ve ever had.”
That’s the Both/And. Guilt and rightness, simultaneously. The discomfort is not a reason to stop. It’s evidence that the change is real.
“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically — to say ‘no’ to other things.” — Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
“The most loving thing you can do for others is to not disappear yourself in service of them.” — In my clinical work, I return to this reframe with nearly every client who struggles with guilt around self-prioritization.
“Setting limits is a form of self-respect. And self-respect is the foundation of every healthy relationship you will ever have.” — language informed by Brené Brown’s research on vulnerability and worthiness.
“If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.” — Greg McKeown, Essentialism
“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.” — widely attributed
For more on the relational dynamics of limits, the article on quotes on limits goes deeper into this territory. And the piece on self-love quotes for women addresses the emotional texture of what happens after the limits are set.
The Systemic Lens: Who Wasn’t Permitted to Choose Themselves in the First Place?
“Choose yourself” has become a cultural commodity. It’s on mugs, Instagram graphics, and the covers of books sold at airport bookstores. And that commodification is worth interrogating — not to dismiss the real psychological truth in the idea, but to ask: who wasn’t permitted to choose themselves to begin with? And what structural conditions made that the case?
The answer is gendered, racialized, and economic. Women, broadly, have been socialized in most cultures to be the people who subordinate their own needs to the care of others — as mothers, as partners, as daughters, as employees. That socialization is not subtle. It’s structural: it’s in how household labor is distributed, how emotional labor is assigned, how women’s professional ambition is punished in ways men’s isn’t, how the language of “selfishness” is disproportionately applied to women who take up space.
For women of color, the burden is compounded. The “Strong Black Woman” schema, documented by researchers including Cheryl Woods-Giscombé, PhD, RN, associate professor at the University of North Carolina and author of seminal research on Superwoman Schema, describes a culturally specific pattern in which Black women internalize expectations of strength, self-sacrifice, and emotional suppression as a survival mechanism in racist and misogynist environments. The injunction to “just choose yourself” fails to reckon with the structural costs that have historically made that choice unavailable or unsafe.
Working-class women and women in economic precarity face their own version of this: when choosing yourself requires time, money, childcare, or the kind of emotional bandwidth that poverty systematically depletes, it’s not a motivational problem. It’s a structural one.
Naming this isn’t an excuse to stay stuck. It’s the difference between treating “choosing yourself” as a personal failing you need to overcome, and recognizing it as a pattern that was installed by a specific set of conditions — conditions that are worth naming, resisting, and, where possible, changing. The quotes in this article are most powerful when they’re held alongside that systemic awareness, not instead of it.
“The question is not ‘Why am I this way?’ but ‘What were the conditions that made this the adaptive thing to be?'” — language consistent with the structural approach to trauma developed by researchers including Judith Herman, MD, Harvard Medical School clinical professor of psychiatry and author of Trauma and Recovery.
“I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.” — Audre Lorde, The Uses of Anger
“The personal is political.” — Carol Hanisch, widely reprinted in feminist theory literature
“The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house.” — Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider
The work of choosing yourself is both deeply personal and quietly political. When a driven woman who was socialized to erase herself decides, in a coffee shop on a Sunday morning, to keep her forty-five minutes for herself — she is doing something small and something significant at once. Individual acts of self-prioritization are meaningful. They’re also more difficult for some women than others, and that difficulty isn’t personal weakness. It’s structural inheritance.
For more on the intersection of personal psychology and systemic context, the quotes about reinventing yourself piece addresses the forward-facing side of this same territory.
Quotes for the Life That’s Possible When You Do
The last group of quotes isn’t prescriptive. It doesn’t promise that choosing yourself will make everything easier. What it offers is a forward-facing horizon: a sense of what becomes available when the pattern shifts.
Nadia is still at the coffee shop. The timer reads 12:44 remaining. She’s written three pages. She doesn’t know yet what they mean or what she’s going to do with them. But she knows this: for forty-five minutes on a Sunday, she existed for no one. And that felt, improbably, like the most responsible thing she’s done in months.
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits — anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.” — Kim McMillen, When I Loved Myself Enough
“One day I woke up and I realized I wasn’t afraid anymore, and I wasn’t going to stop doing what I needed to do, what I had to do, for my own wellbeing.” — widely attributed; origin unclear
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” — attributed to Anaïs Nin; commonly cited in psychological growth contexts
“You were wild once. Don’t let them tame you.” — Isadora Duncan
“The most common form of despair is not being who you are.” — Søren Kierkegaard, paraphrased from The Sickness Unto Death
“I belong deeply to myself.” — Warsan Shire, Teaching My Mother How to Give Birth
“Within you, there is a stillness and sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.” — Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 3
“She is water. Powerful enough to drown you, soft enough to cleanse you, deep enough to save you.” — Adrian Michael, widely attributed
“You don’t need permission to become the woman you were always meant to be.” — widely attributed
“The woman I was before is waiting for me. She’s been patient. I think she knew I’d find my way back.” — widely attributed
“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure.” — Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth
“When you follow your bliss, and by bliss I mean the deep sense of being in it, and doing what the push is out of your deepest center, doors will open where you would not have thought there were going to be doors, and where there wouldn’t be a door for anybody else.” — Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth
“Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect.” — Alan Cohen, widely attributed
“In the end these things matter most: how well did you love; how fully did you live; how deeply did you let go.” — attributed to Jack Kornfield, widely circulated
If you’re somewhere in the middle of this — not quite in the permission group, not yet in the “life that’s possible” group — that’s where most people are. The Strong & Stable newsletter is a weekly companion for that in-between place. And if you’re ready to do this work with real support, connecting for a consultation is a concrete next step.
The blank page is still there. You have exactly as much time as Nadia had this morning — forty-five minutes that belong entirely to you, if you decide to take them.
Q: What’s the difference between choosing yourself and being selfish?
A: Selfishness involves disregarding others’ needs for your own benefit. Choosing yourself means acknowledging that your needs, desires, and wellbeing are also real and legitimate, not instead of other people’s but alongside them. The women I work with who are most convinced they’re being selfish when they set a limit or take space are almost never selfish. They’re usually the most giving people in their families and organizations, which is precisely why the word “selfish” sticks — it’s been weaponized against people who were rewarded for disappearing themselves.
Q: Why does prioritizing myself feel like I’m betraying the people I love?
A: Because for many driven women, the relational contract they grew up with (implicit or explicit) was: “I will always put others first, and in return, I will be loved and safe.” Breaking that contract, even in small ways, activates a fear of loss. It can feel like betrayal because, in your internal relational model, it is one — you’re betraying the role you learned to play to keep connection intact. Recognizing this is the first step. The contract was never fair, and the love that depended on it wasn’t unconditional.
Q: How do I start choosing myself when I don’t even know what I want?
A: Start with small, low-stakes moments of preference. Not “what do I want for my career” but “do I want to eat lunch today?” or “would I rather read for twenty minutes or scroll?” Women who have spent years optimizing for others’ preferences often find their own preferences have gone quiet. Not disappeared, just suppressed. You’re not broken. You’re out of practice. The practice is noticing: what do I actually want right now, in this moment? And then, slowly and imperfectly, acting on it.
Q: What happens in relationships when one person starts setting limits for the first time?
A: It depends enormously on the relationship and the person. In healthy relationships, limits typically lead to a recalibration — some friction initially, then often a deepening of mutual respect. In relationships that were built on one person’s perpetual availability and self-erasure, the limits can destabilize the system significantly. Some relationships can’t survive the change. That’s painful, and it’s also important information. A relationship that only works when you disappear yourself isn’t the kind of relationship that actually loves you.
Q: Is therapy the right place to work on this, or is this more of a coaching conversation?
A: Both can be useful, and the right fit depends on what’s underneath the pattern. If the self-abandonment traces back to childhood relational dynamics, early attachment experiences, or a history of relational trauma, trauma-informed therapy is likely the more appropriate container, because the work needs to reach the emotional and somatic levels where the pattern actually lives, not just the cognitive level. If you have solid self-awareness and your primary challenge is strategic (limits in professional settings, capacity management, identity and role navigation) — executive coaching can be an excellent fit, alone or alongside therapy.
Related Reading
Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York: Gotham Books, 2012.
Neff, Kristin. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. New York: William Morrow, 2011.
Estés, Clarissa Pinkola. Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype. New York: Ballantine Books, 1992.
Herman, Judith. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence — From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. New York: Basic Books, 1992.
Taylor, Sonya Renee. The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love. Oakland: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018.
Woods-Giscombé, Cheryl L. “Superwoman Schema: African American Women’s Views on Stress, Strength, and Health.” Qualitative Health Research 20, no. 5 (2010): 668–683.
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Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven, ambitious women — including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs — in repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in Forbes, Business Insider, Inc., NBC, and The Information. She is currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.
