75 Self Love Quotes for Women (The Real Kind, Not the Face Mask Kind)
Self-love is not a product you buy or a mood you manufacture. For driven women who were raised to pour themselves outward, learning to direct genuine care toward yourself is a practice. Sometimes an uncomfortable one. That has real clinical backing. This collection of 75 quotes gathers voices that take that work seriously, organized by theme, with clinical context to make them more than decoration.
Last reviewed: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT
- The Waiting Room (A Scene)
- What Self-Love Actually Is. And Isn’t
- The Research That Gives These Words Weight
- How the Deficit Shows Up in Driven Women
- The Quotes: Six Buckets Worth Sitting With
- Both/And: Self-Love Is Important AND the Cultural Version Falls Short
- The Systemic Lens: Why This Is Harder for Women
- Making These Words Land: A Practice, Not a Poster
- Frequently Asked Questions
Self-love, as a clinical concept, is grounded in self-compassion, which Kristin Neff, PhD, defines as three interlocking capacities: self-kindness, recognition of common humanity, and mindful awareness of one’s pain without over-identification. It’s distinct from self-esteem, which is performance-contingent and comparative, and from self-worth, which is a person’s internal sense of their own value independent of achievement. For driven women raised to pour themselves outward, self-love is less a mood and more a practiced redirect of attention and care. In my work with driven women, the hardest part is that genuine self-love initially feels selfish because caretaking others was the original love language.
In short: Self-love isn’t a mood or a product but a practiced capacity, rooted in self-compassion, self-worth, and the ability to turn genuine care inward rather than only outward.
With more than 15,000 clinical hours working with driven women who excel at caring for others, I’ve seen self-directed care described as one of the most threatening skills to develop. Edward Deci and Richard Ryan’s self-determination theory identifies autonomous self-regard as a core psychological need, not a luxury (Deci and Ryan 2000).
The Waiting Room (A Scene)
It’s Friday afternoon, 1:47 p.m. Sarah. A 34-year-old dermatologist. Is sitting in the waiting room of a colleague’s practice, a consent form half-filled out on the clipboard in her lap. She has cancelled this appointment four times. Always a good reason: a patient running late, a quarterly report, her mother’s birthday dinner moved to that exact time slot. Today she didn’t cancel. She drove here, parked, and walked in.
On the side table there’s a glossy magazine with a headline she keeps not opening: “Love Yourself This Season.” It has a candle on the cover. She’s been staring at it for six minutes. On her phone, unread, is a text from her mother from this morning: “Do you really need that?” About the procedure. About this appointment she almost didn’t keep.
The receptionist is warm in a way that feels disorienting. Unhurried, genuinely welcoming. The diffuser in the corner smells like eucalyptus. Sarah is trying to remember the last time she did something just for herself. Eight months ago, maybe. She booked a spa day and cancelled it to cover a colleague’s shift. She sits with the clipboard and she says something to herself, quietly, inside: This is not indulgence. This is the first thing I have done just for me in eight months. I am going to do this.
That sentence. That small, declarative act of self-permission. Is what this entire collection is about. Not the magazine. Not the candle. The quiet, deliberate choice to treat yourself as someone whose needs are real.
What Self-Love Actually Is. And Isn’t
The word “self-love” has been so thoroughly co-opted by consumer culture that it’s worth reclaiming what it actually means before we go any further. The Instagram version involves aesthetics: the bath bomb, the latte, the journaling spread. That stuff isn’t bad. But it isn’t the thing. The thing is something harder and quieter, and it doesn’t photograph as well.
Genuine self-love is a relationship. Specifically, the relationship you have with yourself. It includes how you speak to yourself when you make a mistake, what you believe you deserve in your relationships, whether you treat your own needs as legitimate or as inconveniences to be managed around everyone else’s schedule. It’s the difference between getting a facial because you feel you “owe yourself a treat” (still conditional, still transactional) and getting a facial because you believe your body and your rest are simply worth caring for.
Defined by Kristin Neff, PhD, associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, as a three-part construct: self-kindness (treating yourself with care rather than harsh judgment when you suffer or fail), common humanity (recognizing that imperfection and difficulty are part of the shared human experience, not evidence of personal deficiency), and mindfulness (holding painful thoughts and feelings in balanced, non-reactive awareness rather than over-identifying with them or suppressing them). Neff’s research, published in peer-reviewed journals and detailed in her book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (2011), distinguishes self-compassion from self-esteem: self-esteem is contingent on performance and comparison; self-compassion is unconditional.
In plain terms: Self-love isn’t a feeling you manufacture by thinking positively. It’s a practice of treating yourself the way you’d treat a close friend who was going through exactly what you’re going through. With warmth, without the harsh internal scorekeeper running commentary in the background.
It’s also worth being clear about what self-love is not. It isn’t selfishness or indifference to other people. Research consistently shows that people with higher self-compassion are more empathic toward others, not less. For driven women who have spent years equating self-neglect with virtue, that reframe can feel genuinely disorienting. And that disorientation is often the beginning of real change.
The Research That Gives These Words Weight
Quotes from poets and writers are not just decorative. When the right words arrive at the right moment, they can interrupt a pattern that years of insight alone haven’t touched. It helps to understand why they work.
Kristin Neff, PhD, has spent over two decades studying self-compassion as a measurable psychological construct. Her research. Along with that of her collaborator Christopher Germer, PhD, clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School. Shows that self-compassion is associated with significantly lower rates of anxiety, depression, and shame, and higher rates of emotional resilience. The Mindful Self-Compassion program they co-developed has demonstrated effects in randomized controlled trials.
A person’s internal sense of their own value, distinct from self-esteem (which is performance-contingent and comparative) and self-efficacy (which is about capability). Low self-worth. What psychologists sometimes call “core shame”. Is associated with difficulty setting limits with others, tolerance of poor treatment in relationships, chronic over-giving, and a persistent internal sense of not being “enough.” Research by June Price Tangney, PhD, professor of psychology at George Mason University and a leading scholar on shame and guilt, demonstrates that chronic shame (not guilt, which is about behavior, but shame, which is about the self) correlates with relational difficulty, avoidance, and depression.
In plain terms: Self-worth is your baseline sense of whether you matter. Not because of what you’ve accomplished, but just because you exist. For many driven women, this baseline was never securely established, which is why external achievement never quite fixes the feeling.
The research also helps explain something that confuses many of the women I work with: why reading a quote or doing a self-care activity doesn’t fix the underlying feeling. Neff’s work is clear that self-compassion isn’t a cognitive trick. It involves genuinely shifting the internal relationship, which is a slower, more embodied process. It often requires working with a therapist who can help identify where the pattern originated. The quotes in this collection were chosen not for their aesthetic appeal but for their capacity to interrupt a familiar internal monologue and offer something more true in its place.
How the Deficit Shows Up in Driven Women
In my work with clients, the absence of genuine self-love doesn’t usually announce itself as such. It arrives as something more specific: the inability to rest without guilt, the automatic deflection of compliments, the sense that your needs are always slightly less urgent than everyone else’s. Driven women are often especially good at masking the deficit. Because from the outside, the life looks full. The career is intact. The relationships are managed. The to-do list is, if not conquered, at least aggressively attacked.
What’s missing is something more interior. It’s the voice that says “you’ve done enough for today” and actually means it. It’s the capacity to receive care as well as provide it. It’s the willingness to spend resources. Money, time, attention. On yourself without immediately calculating whether you’ve “earned” it.
Nadia, 40, works as a corporate attorney who had built an enviable reputation for being unflappable. She came to work with me because she was, in her words, “completely fine and deeply exhausted.” When we started talking about self-love, she dismissed it immediately: “I don’t need affirmations. I’m not that person.” What she was, it turned out, was someone who had never once paused to ask herself what she actually wanted. Not what she was capable of, but what she genuinely wanted for herself. That question, the first time I asked it, made her eyes fill. She’d never heard it. Not from anyone. Certainly not from herself.
That’s not unusual. For many driven women, the idea of genuinely prioritizing yourself. Not as a productivity strategy, not to “fill your cup so you can fill others,” but simply because you are worth caring for. Is genuinely novel. It can feel almost threatening. Exploring why that is often reveals something worth examining about the early messages you received about what you had to be in order to be loved.
The Quotes: Six Buckets Worth Sitting With
What follows is organized into six themes I’ve found genuinely useful in clinical work. Resist the urge to read through all 75 quickly. Pick one from each section that has some charge for you. Write it down. Sit with the discomfort, if there is any. That discomfort is usually information.
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
AUDRE LORDE, Poet, Essayist, and Civil Rights Activist, from A Burst of Light (1988)
Bucket 1: On the Difference Between Self-Love and Self-Indulgence
The cultural conflation of self-love with self-indulgence is one of the most effective ways to keep women small. If “loving yourself” just means buying things, there’s no transformation involved. But if it means genuinely believing you matter, that your needs are real, that you don’t owe your energy to everyone who wants it? That’s disruptive. These quotes take that seriously.
- “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”. Audre Lorde
- “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”. Widely attributed to the Buddha
- “Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.”. Deborah Day, author and educator
- “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do.”. Brené Brown, PhD, research professor, University of Houston, author of The Gifts of Imperfection
- “Self-care is never a selfish act. It is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others.”. Parker Palmer, educator and author of Let Your Life Speak
- “Love yourself enough to set limits. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it.”. Anna Taylor, writer
- “It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.”. Byron Katie, author of Loving What Is
- “Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”. Christopher Germer, PhD, clinical psychologist, Harvard Medical School
- “The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.”. Steve Maraboli, author
- “Be yourself. Not your idea of what you think somebody else’s idea of yourself should be.”. Henry David Thoreau
Bucket 2: On Meeting Yourself Where You Are
Conditional self-love. “I’ll respect myself when I’m thinner, calmer, more productive, more successful, less anxious”. Is one of the most common patterns I see in driven women. It keeps the actual experience of self-love perpetually in the future, a reward for a version of yourself you haven’t yet managed to produce. These quotes challenge that deferral directly.
- “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”. Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life
- “You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.”. Sophia Bush, actress and activist
- “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”. Carl Jung, psychiatrist and founder of analytical psychology
- “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”. M. Scott Peck, MD, psychiatrist and author of The Road Less Traveled
- “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”. Rumi, 13th-century poet and mystic
- “Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars.”. Max Ehrmann, attorney and poet, from Desiderata
Bucket 3: On Reclaiming Your Own Opinion of Yourself
If you’ve spent years running your life through the filter of what other people think. What your parents wanted, what your partner approves of, what your colleagues will judge. Then reclaiming your own opinion of yourself is not a small thing. It can feel disloyal. It can feel arrogant. These quotes are for the women who’ve needed permission to trust their own assessment. If you want to explore the patterns underneath this, these words are a starting point.
- “It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.”. Sally Field, actor
- “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”. Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen Buddhist monk and author of True Love
- “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”. Widely attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt
- “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”. Ralph Waldo Emerson, philosopher and essayist
- “Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions. Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.”. Tina Fey, actor and writer
- “When you stop living your life based on what others think of you, real life begins.”. Shannon L. Alder, author
- “My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.”. Shakti Gawain, author of Living in the Light
Bucket 4: Quotes by Women Who Built This in Themselves
These are first-person accounts from writers, poets, and thinkers who built self-regard under difficult conditions. They’re not instructions. They’re testimony. More voices in this vein are collected in quotes for hard times and among the quotes for driven women.
- “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”. Nora Ephron, screenwriter and author
- “I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”. Carl Jung, psychiatrist
- “You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I’ll rise.”. Maya Angelou, poet and memoirist
- “I am my best work. A series of road maps, reports, recipes, and instructions for the journey ahead.”. Audre Lorde
- “Tell me, what is it you plan to do / with your one wild and precious life?”. Mary Oliver, poet, from The Summer Day
- “I stand in the ring / in the dead city / and tie on the red shoes.”. Anne Sexton, poet, from The Truth the Dead Know
- “I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity.”. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, author and activist
- “I am learning every day to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me and not terrify me.”. Tracee Ellis Ross, actor
- “I am not a bird; and no net ensnares me.”. Charlotte Brontë, from Jane Eyre
Bucket 5: On the Body as Worthy
For many driven women, the body has been instrumentalized. A vehicle for performance rather than something with its own needs and worthiness. Sarah, in our opening scene, was receiving something for her body and it felt illicit. These quotes are specifically for that particular war.
- “My body is my business.”. Melissa McCarthy, actor and comedian
- “The body is not an apology.”. Sonya Renee Taylor, activist and author of The Body Is Not an Apology
- “Your body is worthy of care. Not because of what it does for you, but because it is yours.”. Roxane Gay, author and professor
- “Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.”. Katrina Mayer, author
- “Nourishment is not just about food; it’s about all the ways we fill ourselves up.”. Geneen Roth, author of Women Food and God
- “I finally realized that being grateful to my body was key to giving more love to myself.”. Oprah Winfrey
- “You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and caging and fearing your own feelings.”. Geneen Roth
- “Be kind to your body. It is a vehicle for your soul.”. Barbara De Angelis, PhD, relationship expert and author
- “My body is not an ornament. It is the vehicle of my life.”. Taryn Brumfitt, filmmaker and body-image activist
Bucket 6: On the Practice (Because It Is a Practice)
Self-love is not a destination you arrive at and then stay. It’s a daily practice. Sometimes a daily choice. That you make especially on the days you don’t feel like it. That’s not a motivational platitude; it’s what the research on self-compassion actually shows. Neff and Germer’s work demonstrates that the skills involved. Self-kindness, recognizing common humanity, mindful awareness. Are skills, and they’re built through repetition, not insight alone.
If you want structured support in building this practice, Fixing the Foundations™ addresses the relational and early-life roots of why this practice is so difficult to sustain. You can also explore working one-on-one if the individual work feels necessary.
- “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.”. Widely attributed to Lucille Ball
- “The most important day is the day you decide you’re good enough for yourself.”. Tina Turner, musician
- “Self-love is not a destination but a practice, a daily return to yourself.”. Unknown
- “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”. Jean Shinoda Bolen, MD, Jungian analyst and author of Goddesses in Everywoman
- “Let whatever you do today be enough.”. Daniell Koepke, author
- “This above all: to thine own self be true.”. William Shakespeare, from Hamlet
- “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”. Anne Lamott, author of Bird by Bird
- “Real love begins where nothing is expected in return.”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Both/And: Self-Love Is Important AND the Cultural Version Falls Short
Here’s something I want to hold carefully with you: self-love is genuinely important for your mental health. This is not a lifestyle trend or a self-help cliché. Kristin Neff’s research has demonstrated measurable reductions in anxiety and depression through self-compassion practices. June Price Tangney’s work on shame makes clear that the absence of self-worth causes real relational and psychological harm. This matters. You taking yourself seriously matters.
And: the cultural packaging of self-love. The bath bombs, the face masks, the “treat yourself” economy, the Instagram captions. Can function as a shallow substitute for the actual work, which is harder and quieter and takes considerably longer. The consumer version of self-love is frictionless, pleasant, and doesn’t require you to examine anything difficult. The real version often requires you to look at why you don’t believe you’re worth caring for in the first place, where that belief came from, and who installed it.
Camille, 37, a product design director, described this exactly: she had the bath bombs, the meditation app, the gratitude journal. She did all the things. She still felt fundamentally unworthy of love, still over-gave in every relationship, still couldn’t hear a compliment without immediately discounting it. “I had all the self-care rituals,” she said, “and none of the self-love.” What she was missing wasn’t another practice to add to the list. It was a deeper examination of the relational template she’d built her entire self-concept on. One that told her she had to earn her worth through giving, that needing things made her a burden, that the safest way to be loved was to need as little as possible.
That’s a therapeutic problem, not a face mask problem. Self-care rituals can be genuinely nourishing. They just can’t do the work that only deeper examination can do. If the rituals aren’t touching the actual deficit, therapy might be the more honest next step.
The Systemic Lens: Why This Is Harder for Women
Audre Lorde did not write “Caring for myself is self-preservation” as advice. She wrote it as a political statement. She was a Black woman with cancer, living in a culture that did not prioritize the survival, rest, or self-regard of women like her. What she was naming was not a personal failing but a structural condition: certain bodies, certain women, have been systematically socialized to give their care outward and to experience receiving it as transgressive.
This is not ancient history. Girls are still socialized toward relational caregiving in ways boys typically are not. Women are still disproportionately penalized for prioritizing themselves. In the workplace, in their families, in cultural judgment. “Selfish” is a word deployed against women taking up space in ways that would barely register as unremarkable in men. The woman who says “I need time to myself” is still more likely to field judgment than her partner saying the same thing.
The political dimension of a woman choosing self-love is not incidental to this quote collection. It is the collection. When Sarah sat in that waiting room and said to herself “I am going to do this,” she was not just making a personal decision. She was pushing against every message she had ever received that her needs were secondary. Her mother’s text, the culture’s general suspicion of women who take up resources, the professional conditioning that equates rest with weakness.
Understanding the systemic context doesn’t mean excusing yourself from the personal work. It means you can stop attributing your difficulty entirely to personal deficiency. If you’ve been swimming upstream against a current actively working against your self-regard, of course it’s hard. That’s not weakness. For more on how this kind of accumulated pressure shows up for driven women, the sister articles here offer additional framing.
Making These Words Land: A Practice, Not a Poster
Reading 75 quotes in one sitting is not a self-love practice. It’s information-gathering. Which is valuable, but it’s the beginning, not the end. Here’s how I’d suggest actually using this collection:
Pick one quote per week. Not the most comfortable one. The one that has some charge. The one that produces a small internal resistance, or that makes you feel something before your critical mind has time to dismiss it. Write it on an index card. Put it somewhere you’ll see it. Let it be an interruption of your usual internal weather.
Notice the objection. When you read something like “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” and your first impulse is to think “that sounds nice but it doesn’t really apply to me”. That objection is data. That objection is exactly where the work is. What part of you believes it doesn’t apply to you? Where did that belief come from?
Bring it into your body. Neff’s research and the broader somatic tradition both suggest that self-compassion isn’t purely a cognitive operation. You need to feel it somewhere, not just think it. Christopher Germer’s Mindful Self-Compassion practices involve placing a hand on your own heart and speaking to yourself with the kind of warmth you’d use with someone you love. That may feel absurd at first. That absurdity is also data.
Consider what the resistance is about. If you genuinely can’t access self-compassion. If every attempt is overridden by an internal critic with a louder voice. That’s not a motivation problem. It’s often a relational trauma history, and it responds well to targeted therapeutic work. The internal critic was learned. It can be unlearned, but usually not alone.
Sarah, at the end of her appointment that Friday, sat in her car for a few minutes before she started the engine. She didn’t feel transformed. She felt, she told me later, like herself. But a version of herself she recognized from before she’d learned to disappear. The parking lot was ordinary. The afternoon light was ordinary. But she’d done the thing. She’d treated herself as someone worth caring for, and the world had not ended. That, in its small and specific way, is what all of this is about.
These quotes don’t have to change your life. They just have to be true enough, and arrive often enough, to interrupt the story that says you’re the one exception. The one person to whom none of this applies. You can explore more collections of voices like these in the quotes for hard times archive, and specifically among the quotes about choosing yourself if that particular question is live for you right now. If you want to go deeper, the Strong & Stable newsletter is where I share the longer, more personal thinking. The stuff that doesn’t fit in a list.
Q: Why does self-love feel so uncomfortable or even selfish for many women?
A: Because for many women, it is in direct conflict with what they were taught love looks like. Girls are often socialized toward relational caregiving. Being attuned to others’ needs, deprioritizing their own, equating self-sacrifice with virtue. When you’ve internalized that template, directing care toward yourself triggers the learned association between self-regard and selfishness. The discomfort isn’t irrational. It’s a response to a real cultural message you absorbed early. Understanding where that message came from. Often in childhood, sometimes reinforced by important relationships. Is typically the first step in shifting it.
Q: Is there a clinical basis for self-love, or is it just pop psychology?
A: There’s substantial clinical research behind it, though “self-love” isn’t always the term researchers use. Kristin Neff, PhD, at UT Austin has spent over two decades building an evidence base for self-compassion as a measurable psychological construct associated with lower anxiety, lower depression, greater emotional resilience, and higher life satisfaction. Christopher Germer, PhD, at Harvard Medical School has co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion program, which has demonstrated effects in randomized controlled trials. June Price Tangney, PhD, at George Mason University has researched shame and self-worth extensively, with findings that link chronic shame to relational difficulty and depression. The pop-psychology version of self-love is real and is mostly surface-level. The clinical construct is well-researched and serious.
Q: How do I practice self-love when I’m in the middle of something genuinely hard?
A: This is actually when self-compassion matters most. And when Neff’s three-part model is most useful as a framework. First: self-kindness, not harsh judgment. Instead of criticizing yourself for being in a hard situation, try speaking to yourself the way you’d speak to a close friend going through the same thing. Second: common humanity. Difficulty isn’t evidence that you’re uniquely broken. Suffering is part of being human, and that experience is universally shared, even when it feels entirely isolating. Third: mindfulness. Holding the difficulty in awareness without dramatizing it or suppressing it. This isn’t a fix. But it can make the middle of something genuinely hard more survivable.
Q: What’s the difference between self-love and self-centeredness?
A: Self-centeredness is actually associated with low self-worth. It’s a compensatory pattern that involves demanding external validation because the internal supply is insufficient. Self-love, by contrast, is associated with genuine regard for others. Neff’s research consistently shows that people with higher self-compassion are more empathic, more generous, and more able to show up in their relationships. Because they’re not running on empty and constantly trying to extract reassurance from others. If you’re worried that practicing self-love will make you self-centered, that worry is usually itself a symptom of the deficit: you’re still running your own value through the measure of what you provide.
Q: Can therapy help me develop genuine self-compassion, or is that something I do on my own?
A: Both, ideally. There’s meaningful self-directed work available. Neff and Germer’s Mindful Self-Compassion curriculum is available as a book and online course, and there are genuine practices you can build on your own. But if the deficit is rooted in early relational experience. If you absorbed the message that you weren’t worth caring for from a parent, a formative relationship, or accumulated experiences of not having your needs met. Then self-directed practices often get overridden by the older, louder pattern. Therapy can address the origin of the pattern, not just its current symptoms. If you’ve been working at this for a while and the internal critic is still winning, that’s a signal that individual support might be the more effective next step. You can explore what that looks like at therapy with Annie or through an initial consultation.
Related Reading
Neff, Kristin. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. William Morrow, 2011.
Germer, Christopher K., and Kristin D. Neff. Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. Guilford Press, 2019.
Brown, Brené. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Hazelden Publishing, 2010.
Lorde, Audre. A Burst of Light: And Other Essays. Ixia Press, 1988.
Hay, Louise L. You Can Heal Your Life. Hay House, 1984.
Taylor, Sonya Renee. The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love. Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018.
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