By Annie Wright, LMFT · Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (#95719)Clinically reviewed May 2026

WOMEN IN TECH • May 23, 2026

Last reviewed: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT

Leila’s eyes flicker over the glowing screen of her laptop in the dim, open-plan YC office. It’s just past 6 a.m., but she’s been awake since 3 a.m., running through her pitch deck in her head, rehearsing lines, anticipating questions. The hum of other founders’ conversations fills the space, but their words sound distant, like a radio playing in another room. She glances at her phone: another text to her co-founder,“Pulse check?”,a ritual she’s repeated every hour since arriving. The office, which she imagined as a vibrant hub of collaboration and support, feels more like a spotlighted stage where she’s already stumbled before the show even began.

This is the paradox of being a woman founder inside a top-tier accelerator like Y Combinator, Techstars, or a16z’s startup programs. The acceptance email, often framed as a milestone of validation, carries a weight that goes beyond celebration. For women founders, who have already navigated a venture capital ecosystem that systematically underfunds and undervalues them, the moment of selection is both relief and the start of a relentless psychological sprint. The intense, compressed timelines and constant performance evaluation aren’t just business challenges; they begin to rewrite the nervous system itself.

In this article, we explore the complex mental health landscape female founders face inside accelerators. We’ll unpack the neurobiology of social comparison and identity threat, examine how accelerator culture intersects with systemic gender bias, and offer clinical insights into what healing and regulation look like in these high-stakes environments.

Scene: Leila, solo founder, first week at YC

Leila’s experience in her first week at Y Combinator encapsulates a reality many women founders share but seldom voice. She’s a solo founder, which means she doesn’t have the in-person buffer of a co-founder to share the emotional load or strategize through moments of doubt. Instead, her connection is digital, a quick text or emoji sent hourly just to check in. The physical space of the accelerator, the open desks, the casual meetings with partners, the buzz of other founders, feels less like a community and more like an ongoing audition.

Her internal dialogue is a mix of “I should know this by now” and “Everyone else seems so confident.” The cognitive dissonance between how she feels and how she believes she should perform is exhausting. She’s awake long before dawn, replaying her pitch, trying to anticipate questions from partners and investors who will listen with a critical ear. The pressure is not just about product-market fit or scaling; it’s about survival in a social ecosystem where every interaction is a test of competence and belonging.

Sleep disruption is common in these early accelerator days. Research on on-call work and sleep disruption highlights how unpredictability and anticipatory anxiety impact cognitive function, memory, and decision-making, skills critical for founders pitching under pressure. For Leila, this means her ability to think clearly is compromised even before she steps in front of the room.

Her story is a reminder that acceptance into an accelerator is not a finish line but the start of a neurobiological challenge. The intense visibility and compressed timelines can activate a founder’s nervous system in ways that undermine the very confidence the program hopes to build. This is especially true for women founders who often carry the invisible burden of systemic bias and underfunding, which adds layers of complexity to their experience.

Leila’s situation also underscores the importance of understanding the unique psychological terrain of accelerators, which we’ll define in the next section. For women founders navigating this landscape, the stakes are not just business success but maintaining mental health and nervous system regulation under extreme stress.

What Is Accelerator Psychological Terrain?

The accelerator psychological terrain is a unique ecosystem that reshapes how founders experience stress. Unlike traditional startup environments, accelerators condense months of work into weeks, forcing founders to sprint toward milestones that feel both urgent and ambiguous. This time compression interacts with social dynamics, founders are thrown together in close quarters, often with little prior relationship, and expected to perform at peak levels while under continuous evaluation.

For women founders, this terrain is further complicated by demographic realities. Female founders remain underrepresented in accelerators. For example, Y Combinator’s cohorts have historically included less than 20% women founders. This minority status means women often find themselves isolated or hyper-visible, navigating social dynamics where they may be the only woman or one of very few in the room.

Many women founders are solo founders, amplifying the isolation. Without a co-founder physically present, they lack an immediate emotional and strategic partner to share the stress. This absence can increase vulnerability to anxiety and burnout, as the usual coping mechanisms, venting, strategizing, mutual encouragement, are less accessible.

The accelerator environment also strips away many of the regulatory behaviors that women founders have cultivated to stay functional. Regular routines, physical spaces that feel safe, and community networks are replaced by a high-stakes, high-visibility context that demands constant performance. This shift can dysregulate the nervous system, triggering chronic stress responses that impair decision-making, creativity, and emotional resilience.

Understanding this psychological terrain is essential for anyone supporting women founders in accelerators. It’s why clinical approaches tailored for this context, such as somatic therapy, executive coaching, and peer support networks, are crucial. These interventions help founders build a private recovery architecture inside a public performance environment, an idea we’ll explore in later sections.

For women founders looking for resources to navigate these challenges, the Women in Tech Resource Hub offers curated support, including mental health services and coaching designed for the unique pressures of tech leadership and startup culture.

In the next section, we’ll look at the neurobiology behind these experiences, how social comparison and identity threat activate stress systems in ways that can feel overwhelming and isolating.

For women founders interested in clinical support tailored to their experience inside accelerators, consider exploring therapy for female tech founders or executive coaching for women founders and CEOs. These approaches provide tools to regulate nervous system activation and sustain performance without sacrificing mental health.

Neurobiology of Accelerator Pressure: Identity Threat, Social Comparison, and Regulatory Disruption

For women founders entering accelerators like Y Combinator (YC), Techstars, or a16z, the psychological terrain is shaped not only by external demands but also by deep neurobiological stressors rooted in social comparison and identity threat. The accelerator environment is a crucible of high-stakes evaluation, where the performance of confidence is not optional but expected. This dynamic activates complex stress responses that can rewrite the nervous system’s regulatory mechanisms, particularly when a woman’s usual supports and routines are stripped away.

Identity Threat and Social Comparison in Accelerators

Social comparison is a fundamental human process, but in the context of accelerators, it becomes a persistent source of distress. Women founders often find themselves in a minority, surrounded by peers who appear effortlessly confident and competent. This environment triggers what social psychologists call identity threat,the experience of feeling that one’s social identity (in this case, as a woman founder) is devalued or at risk under evaluative scrutiny.

Leon Festinger’s seminal work on Social Comparison Theory (1954) explains that people evaluate their own abilities and opinions by comparing themselves to others. In accelerator cohorts, comparisons are intensified by the compressed timeline, the constant visibility, and the implicit pressure to perform. When these comparisons activate feelings of shame or inadequacy rather than motivation, they generate what Susan Fiske, PhD, terms Social Comparison Distress.

This distress is not merely a feeling but a neurobiological event. It activates the amygdala and the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, flooding the body with cortisol and adrenaline. These stress hormones prepare the body for fight or flight but, when chronically activated, contribute to allostatic load, the wear and tear on the nervous system and body from persistent stress.

The Performance of Confidence as a Neurobiological Stressor

In accelerator contexts, women founders often feel compelled to perform a polished, confident persona. This “performance of confidence” is a survival strategy but also a neurobiological stressor. It requires constant emotional regulation, suppressing vulnerability and anxiety in favor of projecting certainty. This suppression engages the prefrontal cortex heavily to inhibit limbic system responses, which is exhausting and unsustainable over time.

The absence of usual regulatory buffers, such as established routines, familiar social supports, and private spaces, exacerbates this stress. The intense, public nature of accelerator programs disrupts circadian rhythms, sleep patterns, and self-care practices. For example, early mornings, late nights, and unpredictable schedules undermine the body’s ability to regulate stress and recover.

This neurobiological picture aligns with research on allostatic load, which varies widely depending on individual and contextual factors such as sex, gender, lifestyle, and social support networks. Women founders in accelerators are navigating a convergence of chronic stress activation without the usual safety nets.

Implications for Mental Health and Functioning

The sustained activation of stress systems can lead to anxiety, panic attacks, impaired cognitive function, and burnout. It also interacts with imposter phenomenon, a common experience among women in male-dominated tech environments, where internalized doubts about belonging and competence are magnified by external pressures.

Understanding these neurobiological dynamics is crucial for designing interventions that support women founders during and after accelerator programs. Therapy, coaching, and peer support can provide critical regulatory tools to counterbalance the relentless performance demands and social comparison distress.

For women navigating this terrain, resources like therapy for female tech founders and executive coaching for women founders and CEOs can be invaluable in rebuilding regulatory capacity and fostering resilience.

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How Accelerator Pressure Shows Up in Women Founders: Dani’s Story

Dani is a fintech founder in her third week at YC. She’s the only Black woman in her cohort, a reality that adds layers of visibility and isolation to her experience. In the brightly lit conference room, Dani sits upright, nodding confidently as partners and peers discuss milestones and metrics. Her voice is steady, her answers polished. Inside, though, she’s dissociating.

She leaves the room and feels the familiar disconnect, the detachment from her body and emotions that helps her survive the intensity but also erodes her sense of self. Dani hasn’t told her co-founder about these moments. She thinks no one else is struggling. But she’s wrong. Three of the founders she admires most are quietly wrestling with the same invisibilized stress.

This kind of dissociation is a common protective response to overwhelming stress and social threat, allowing Dani to compartmentalize the emotional toll of performing confidence under scrutiny. Yet it also signals nervous system dysregulation, a warning sign that the accelerator’s demands are exacting a psychological cost.

Dani’s experience illustrates the intersection of multiple stressors: racial minority status, gender minority status, and the solo-founder dynamic common among women in accelerators. Without a co-founder buffer, the emotional labor of managing these pressures falls squarely on her shoulders.

The Solo Founder and Minority Experience

Many women founders enter accelerators as solo founders. This means they lack an immediate internal ally to share the emotional load. While other founders can be sources of solidarity, the accelerator cohort is also a competitive environment, intensifying feelings of isolation.

Being a minority within the cohort compounds this isolation. Women founders often carry the weight of representing their gender and, for women of color like Dani, multiple marginalized identities. This visibility can trigger hypervigilance and increased stress responses, further taxing the nervous system.

The Accelerator’s Performance Culture

The accelerator’s culture demands constant visibility and rapid iteration. Weekly partner meetings, investor introductions, and Demo Day pitches are all high-stakes evaluations. For women founders, who often face different evaluative standards and social penalties for assertiveness, this environment activates a unique set of psychological challenges.

For example, research on negotiation backlash shows that women who advocate strongly for their interests may face social penalties, discouraging authentic self-expression and increasing internal conflict. This dynamic can exacerbate the dissociation and social comparison distress Dani experiences.

Supporting Women Founders in Accelerator Settings

Addressing these challenges requires intentional strategies to support regulation and mental health. Building private recovery architectures, rituals, therapy, peer support, within the public performance environment is essential. Therapy approaches that focus on nervous system regulation, identity work, and trauma-informed care are particularly effective.

Women founders can also benefit from engaging with communities and resources tailored to their experience, such as the Women in Tech Resource Hub, which offers curated support and networking opportunities.

By naming these dynamics and providing targeted support, we can help women founders like Dani not only survive but thrive in accelerator programs, preserving their mental health while pursuing ambitious entrepreneurial goals.

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For more on managing the mental health challenges unique to women founders in tech, see tech founder burnout when building something breaks you and founder burnout and childhood overfunctioning. These resources deepen the understanding of how early patterns and accelerator pressures intersect to shape founder well-being.

The Gender Gap in Accelerator Funding: A Psychological Burden Before the Program Even Begins

Women founders entering accelerators like Y Combinator, Techstars, or a16z-backed programs carry a psychological load that often goes unspoken but deeply shapes their experience. The stark reality is that female founders remain significantly underrepresented and underfunded in venture capital ecosystems. Data from multiple sources consistently shows that less than 3% of total VC funding goes to all-female founding teams. This disparity isn’t just a number, it’s a pervasive, systemic force that colors every interaction a woman founder has within an accelerator cohort.

When a woman founder walks into a room where she’s in a minority, sometimes the only woman or one of very few, the knowledge of this gender gap is not left outside the door. It seeps in, shaping expectations, self-talk, and the nervous system’s response to evaluation and performance. The accelerator’s performance culture, with its relentless focus on “founder-market fit” and rapid iteration, doesn’t just test products and pitches; it tests identity, resilience, and the capacity to withstand micro-inequities and implicit bias.

The gender gap in funding also intersects with the accelerator’s competitive environment in ways that amplify stress for women. For example, investors frequently ask female founders questions framed around risk mitigation and downside protection, while male founders are more often queried about growth potential and upside opportunity. This “prevention vs. promotion” focus reflects underlying gendered assumptions about competence and ambition, which can reinforce feelings of being scrutinized through a narrower, more critical lens.

Moreover, the accelerator environment often replicates the broader venture capital culture’s archetype of the founder: young, male, technical, and aggressive in negotiation. Women founders, especially those who are solo founders or from underrepresented racial or ethnic groups, encounter both visible and invisible gatekeeping. The pressure to perform confidence, while managing the emotional labor of navigating a space that wasn’t designed with them in mind, can lead to chronic stress and a sense of isolation.

This dynamic is compounded by social and psychological phenomena like the impostor phenomenon, which is well-documented among women in high-stakes, male-dominated fields. Pauline Rose Clance, PhD, who first identified the impostor phenomenon, described it as a feeling of intellectual fraudulence despite evident success. In accelerators, where every pitch, demo, and partner meeting is a high-stakes performance, the impostor experience can intensify, creating a feedback loop of anxiety and self-doubt.

The psychological burden of the gender gap also affects how women founders approach accelerator relationships. In my work with clients and in the broader literature on gender and entrepreneurship, women consistently report facing social penalties for assertive negotiation behaviors, which are often necessary in fundraising and deal-making. This adds another layer of complexity to the accelerator experience, where founders must advocate fiercely for resources and valuation while managing the social cost of those negotiations.

For women founders, the accelerator is not just a professional milestone; it’s a psychological crucible. It demands not only rapid business execution but also resilience to systemic inequities that shape the very architecture of the program. Recognizing this burden is essential for designing support structures that can help women founders thrive rather than merely survive.

Women founders looking for resources and community support can find tailored guidance at the Women Founders Resource Hub and therapeutic support designed for their unique challenges at Therapy for Female Tech Founders.

Both/And: The Accelerator Is a Genuine Opportunity AND It Exact Real Psychological Costs

The accelerator journey is both a breakthrough and a battleground. It offers access to capital, mentorship, and visibility that can transform a startup’s trajectory. Yet, the intensity of the program exacts real psychological costs, costs that are often invisible to the broader startup ecosystem.

Consider Leila, a solo founder who completed her YC batch three months ago. She’s successfully closed her funding round, a milestone she worked tirelessly to achieve. But alongside this achievement, Leila is also navigating new terrain: her first panic attack, which happened unexpectedly in the parking lot just before her final pitch. She hasn’t told anyone in her cohort or network. The funding was real. The panic attack was also real.

Leila’s experience highlights the “both/and” nature of accelerator participation. The external markers of success, funding, Demo Day, investor interest, can coexist with internal struggles of anxiety, dissociation, and nervous system dysregulation. The accelerator’s compressed timeline and relentless performance demands strip away the regulatory behaviors and routines that previously helped her manage stress. Without these buffers, the nervous system can become overwhelmed, triggering panic, exhaustion, or shutdown.

This dual reality is not a sign of weakness or failure; it’s a systemic consequence of the conditions accelerators create. The intense visibility and evaluation, the implicit comparisons, the relentless pressure to “perform confidence,” and the removal from familiar support systems all converge to rewrite the founder’s nervous system response.

Leila’s story is a call to acknowledge the psychological toll of accelerator culture, especially for women founders who enter these programs carrying the compounded stress of systemic gender disparities. It also underscores the importance of therapeutic and coaching interventions tailored to this context.

Therapy and executive coaching provide critical tools for founders to build what I call a “private recovery architecture” within the public, high-stakes accelerator environment. This architecture includes strategies to stay regulated, manage social comparison distress, and re-establish a sense of safety and self-worth independent of external validation.

For women founders navigating these challenges, integrating therapy with coaching can be transformative. Therapy offers a space to process the emotional and neurobiological impact of the accelerator experience, while coaching focuses on practical leadership skills, boundary-setting, and identity work. Together, they help founders internalize the truth that “I got in because I deserve to be here,” shifting the narrative from imposter to rightful belonging.

This integrated support is essential not only during the program but also after Demo Day and funding rounds, as the nervous system recalibrates and the founder transitions into new phases of growth and leadership.

For more on managing the unique psychological demands of startup acceleration, see Tech Founder Burnout: When Building Something Breaks You and explore tailored coaching options at Executive Coaching for Women Founders and CEOs.

The accelerator is a powerful opportunity for women founders, but it’s also a crucible that requires intentional care, systemic awareness, and support. Recognizing the both/and reality is the first step toward creating environments where women can thrive without sacrificing their mental health or sense of self.

The Systemic Lens: How Accelerator Culture and Venture Funding Marginalize Women Founders

The experience of women founders inside accelerators like Y Combinator, Techstars, or a16z cannot be fully understood without situating it within the broader systemic realities of venture capital and startup culture. Accelerators were designed around a founder archetype that historically aligns with a narrow demographic: predominantly male, often white or Asian, with a specific style of communication, risk-taking, and self-presentation. This archetype shapes expectations, evaluation criteria, and social dynamics in ways that frequently disadvantage women.

The Gender Gap in Venture Funding: A Persistent Barrier

Data consistently shows that female founders receive a disproportionately small share of venture capital funding. For example, less than 3% of VC dollars go to all-female founding teams, a statistic that hasn’t shifted meaningfully despite growing awareness. This disparity is not due to lack of quality or potential but is rooted in systemic biases and structural barriers. Women founders enter accelerators carrying the weight of these odds. This knowledge is not an abstract statistic; it is a psychological burden that compounds the already intense pressure of the accelerator environment.

Evaluation Biases in Pitch Settings

Research has demonstrated that female founders are evaluated differently from their male counterparts during pitches and investor meetings. Investors tend to ask women more “prevention-focused” questions, questions centered on risk mitigation, downside protection, and potential failures, while men are more often asked “promotion-focused” questions about growth, opportunity, and upside potential. This subtle but consistent difference shapes the narrative women founders must navigate, often forcing them into defensive postures rather than visionary ones.

Moreover, women who negotiate aggressively for funding or terms face a documented social cost. Studies, such as those summarized by the Harvard Kennedy School’s Gender Action Portal, show that women who initiate negotiations are penalized more than men, impacting their perceived likability and future collaboration potential. This dynamic creates a double bind: women must advocate strongly for their ventures to secure funding but risk backlash for doing so.

The Accelerator Culture and Founder-Market Fit as Gatekeeping

Accelerators emphasize “founder-market fit”,the alignment between a founder’s background, skills, and personality with the market opportunity. While this concept can be empowering, it is also a gatekeeping tool. The implicit message is that only founders who “fit” a certain mold deserve support and investment. Because the archetype is gendered, women founders often find themselves needing to overperform or mask aspects of their identity to be perceived as a good fit.

This culture also tends to valorize relentless execution and visible confidence, traits often coded as masculine, while undervaluing collaborative leadership styles or emotional intelligence, which women founders may embody more naturally. The performance expectations inside accelerators thus intersect with gendered stereotypes, exacerbating stress and anxiety.

Intersectionality: Race, Gender, and Visibility

For women founders of color, the systemic barriers multiply. Being a racial minority in a predominantly white, male-dominated cohort adds layers of isolation and hypervisibility. The pressure to perform without revealing vulnerability becomes even more intense, as seen in Dani’s vignette earlier. Intersectional invisibility and exclusion shape the accelerator experience in ways that are often invisible to the majority but profoundly real for those affected.

The Psychological Toll of Systemic Inequity

These systemic factors create an environment where women founders are not just managing the usual startup stressors but also navigating a landscape that questions their legitimacy and belonging. This chronic identity threat activates neurobiological stress responses, increases social comparison distress, and can exacerbate impostor feelings. The accelerator’s compressed timeline and public visibility amplify these dynamics, making the psychological toll heavier for women.

Understanding the systemic context is essential for both founders and those who support them. It reveals why individual resilience, while important, is insufficient. The accelerator experience is shaped by structural inequities that require systemic solutions.

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Healing and Regulation: Strategies for Women Founders Navigating Accelerator Pressure

Healing from the intense psychological impact of accelerator participation requires more than surface-level stress management. It involves cultivating a private recovery architecture within a public, high-stakes performance environment. This work is both clinical and practical, rooted in nervous system regulation, identity integration, and boundary setting.

1. Building a Private Recovery Architecture

Inside an accelerator, the external environment is designed to push founders to their limits. To maintain functionality, women founders need to create a parallel internal ecosystem that supports regulation and replenishment. This might include:

• Micro-regulation practices: Brief, intentional pauses throughout the day to check in with bodily sensations and emotional states. This can be as simple as a three-minute breathing or grounding exercise between meetings or pitches.
• Safe relational anchors: Identifying one or two trusted individuals, whether a co-founder, mentor, coach, or therapist, with whom vulnerability can be safely expressed. This is crucial for countering the isolating effects of the cohort’s competitive atmosphere.
• Environmental cues: Establishing small rituals or physical spaces (even a quiet corner or a specific chair) that signal rest and safety, creating a sensory buffer from the accelerator’s intensity.

2. Therapy and Coaching During and After the Program

Professional support tailored to the unique context of women founders in accelerators can be transformative. Therapy provides a confidential space to process identity threats, impostor feelings, and anxiety. Executive coaching can help develop strategies for communication, negotiation, and boundary setting that honor the founder’s authentic self rather than forcing conformity to a narrow archetype.

Both modalities contribute to:

• Reclaiming identity: Affirming “I got in because I deserve to be here” as a core truth, not just a mantra. This identity work is foundational to resisting the internalized messages of unworthiness that accelerators can trigger.
• Developing somatic awareness: Recognizing the body’s signals of dysregulation and learning interventions that restore balance.
• Strategic pacing: Learning to balance the accelerator’s sprint with intentional rest and recovery, preventing the accumulation of allostatic load.

3. Navigating Social Comparison and Performance Anxiety

Women founders can cultivate a mindset shift that transforms social comparison distress into a more manageable experience:

• Reframing peer comparison: Recognizing that everyone in the cohort is managing their own vulnerabilities and that visible confidence often masks internal struggle. This awareness reduces isolation and shame.
• Selective sharing: Choosing when and with whom to share challenges, creating micro-communities of support within the cohort or outside it.
• Self-compassion practices: Counteracting the internal critic that fuels impostor feelings and performance anxiety with kindness and curiosity.

4. Boundary Setting and Saying No

Accelerators demand relentless engagement, but founders must learn to set boundaries that protect their mental health:

• Prioritizing core tasks: Applying the principle of “10x is easier than 2x” by focusing energy on the few activities that truly move the company forward, rather than spreading thin across all demands.
• Scheduling buffer time: Carving out protected time daily or weekly for rest, reflection, and non-work activities.
• Negotiating realistic expectations: Using coaching or mentorship to develop communication skills that allow for assertive boundary setting without triggering social penalties.

5. using Community and Resources

Connecting with other women founders who share similar experiences can provide validation and practical advice. Engaging with resource hubs like the Women Founders Resource Hub offers curated support tailored to these challenges. Additionally, therapy and coaching services designed specifically for women in tech and startups, such as therapy for female tech founders and executive coaching for women founders and CEOs, can provide crucial scaffolding.

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For a broader map of the terrain, this piece sits inside the Women in Tech Resource Hub, alongside deeper writing on burnout for women in tech, glass-ceiling trauma responses, imposter syndrome in tech, Silicon Valley executive loneliness, the difference between impostor syndrome and a toxic workplace, and complex PTSD. If you are looking for direct support, you can also read more about therapy for women in tech, executive coaching for women in tech, and the weekly Strong & Stable newsletter.

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About the Author

Annie Wright, LMFT

LMFT · Relational Trauma Specialist · W.W. Norton Author

Helping ambitious women finally feel as good as their résumé looks.

Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven, ambitious women. Including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs. In repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in Forbes, Business Insider, Inc., NBC, and The Information. She is currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.

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