By Annie Wright, LMFT · Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (#95719)Last updated May 2026

WOMEN IN CONSULTING • May 23, 2026

Last updated: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT

Carmel Has Been Asking the Same Question for Four Annual Reviews

Carmel is in Carmel’s home office, the smaller of two bedrooms in her Toronto condo, late Friday afternoon after the year-end calibration call at Friday 4:38pm in mid-November. The yellow legal pad on her desk with two columns drawn at the top. STAY and GO. And twelve numbers down each side, half of them with question marks. The half-eaten pretzel from her dog Otto’s treat jar in her left hand (she has been giving herself one pretzel per fifteen minutes of decision-making and Otto is watching her with active resentment). During should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision, The yellow legal pad on her desk with two columns drawn at the top. STAY and GO. And twelve numbers down each side, half of them with question marks becomes an anchor for Carmel; this scene about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision follows the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision detail before naming should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision’s chest signal, should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision’s breath change, should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision’s jaw tension, should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision’s attention pattern, and should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision’s memory beneath the workday.

Her partner is on the phone in the kitchen, voice low, talking to her own mother. Carmel can hear the tone but not the words, and the not-quite-words are loud. She thinks: “I’ve asked this question at every annual review for four years and the question itself has started to feel like the actual problem.” She crosses out number 7 on the STAY side and writes nothing in its place. Otto sighs. From the outside, the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision scene gives Carmel’s should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision experience the look of should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision-polished consulting behavior rather than distress: should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision produces should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision-shaped replies, should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision-shaped silence, a should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision-trained face, and a private strain that disappears through should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision before the meeting restarts.

That’s where should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision has to begin inside should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision: not with a slogan about resilience, but with Carmel’s should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision body inside should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision trying to tell the truth before her calendar permits it. The clinical question inside should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision isn’t whether she’s strong enough for this corner of consulting, because her strength is already visible in the scene. The sharper should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question is what her strength has been required to silence here, and what would happen if that silence stopped being confused with maturity.

For Carmel, the moment is specific to should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision: Carmel’s home office, the smaller of two bedrooms in her Toronto condo, late Friday afternoon after the year-end calibration call isn’t a metaphor, and Friday 4:38pm in mid-November changes the meaning of every choice she makes next. The objects in this article’s opening. The yellow legal pad on her desk with two columns drawn at the top. STAY and GO. And twelve numbers down each side, half of them with question marks, The half-eaten pretzel from her dog Otto’s treat jar in her left hand (she has been giving herself one pretzel per fifteen minutes of decision-making and Otto is watching her with active resentment), Her partner is on the phone in the kitchen, voice low, talking to her own mother. Carmel can hear the tone but not the words, and the not-quite-words are loud. Matter because trauma-informed work begins with the body in its actual environment rather than with a polished explanation created afterward.

The article stays close to Carmel’s scene because should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision becomes clinically legible only when the personal and structural pieces are held together in that exact consulting context. Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist and pioneering researcher on complex PTSD helps name the nervous-system layer, while this particular frame for should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision explains why Carmel’s body keeps being placed back inside a demand cycle that looks prestigious from the outside and costly from the inside.

What “Should I Leave Consulting?” Actually Means When You Ask It at 4:38pm on a Friday

What “Should I Leave Consulting?” Actually Means When You Ask It at 4:38pm on a Friday isn’t an abstract idea for Carmel; it’s the way her attention narrows when the work system asks for composure at the exact moment her body needs a boundary.

One way to understand what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

There may be a practical next step for Carmel inside what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday, but it has to come after contact with the truth of should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision. Otherwise, in what “should i leave consulting?” actually means when you ask it at 4:38pm on a friday, the next move becomes another form of flight dressed as optimization. For section 2 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in complimentary 20-minute consult and should I leave BigLaw.

The Four Patterns That Lead Driven Women to This Question

By the time Carmel can name the four patterns that lead driven women to this question, she has usually spent months converting discomfort into professionalism and calling that conversion good judgment.

One way to understand the four patterns that lead driven women to this question in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on the four patterns that lead driven women to this question, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around the four patterns that lead driven women to this question can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of the four patterns that lead driven women to this question is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in the four patterns that lead driven women to this question isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside the four patterns that lead driven women to this question is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

This is why the four patterns that lead driven women to this question belongs in a clinical conversation about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision rather than in a productivity article. Strategy can help Carmel choose the next move inside the four patterns that lead driven women to this question, but strategy alone can’t metabolize the nervous-system learning created by this particular article pattern. For section 3 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in leaving BigLaw identity rebuild and the Post-Exit Founders hub.

How the Decision Plays Out in the Bodies of Women Inside MBB and Big 4

Inside consulting, how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4 often hides behind polished language: development feedback, stretch opportunity, client readiness, partner confidence, executive presence.

Kira is standing at the kitchen counter at 11:15 on a Wednesday night, a glass of water she hasn’t touched at her elbow and her Bain up-or-out timeline open in a tab she’s been refreshing for four days. (This is a composite drawn from patterns across many people. It does not describe any individual client.) She’s a senior manager with strong reviews and a sponsor who uses the word “soon” without ever saying a year. Her jaw is clenched in the way it gets when she’s trying to reason her way through something that isn’t actually a reasoning problem. She’s made three spreadsheets comparing exit options and a timeline for waiting. What she hasn’t made is room for the part of her that already knows the answer and is terrified of it.

One way to understand how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4 in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4 can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4 is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4 isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4 is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

There may be a practical next step for Carmel inside how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4, but it has to come after contact with the truth of should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision. Otherwise, in how the decision plays out in the bodies of women inside mbb and big 4, the next move becomes another form of flight dressed as optimization. For section 4 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in the consultant burnout guide (CC1) and the identity crisis of leaving MBB (CC3).

The Childhood Story That Often Runs Underneath the Stay/Go Loop

Clinically, the important detail in the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop is that Carmel’s body has been learning from repetition, not from intention. In should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision, repetition teaches faster than insight when the stakes feel relational.

One way to understand the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

This is why the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop belongs in a clinical conversation about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision rather than in a productivity article. Strategy can help Carmel choose the next move inside the childhood story that often runs underneath the stay/go loop, but strategy alone can’t metabolize the nervous-system learning created by this particular article pattern. For section 5 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in up-or-out anxiety (CS01) and the senior manager plateau (CS02).

Both/And: The Right Answer Can Be to Leave AND the Right Answer Can Be to Stay With Different Terms

A trauma-informed reading of should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision has to honor competence without romanticizing depletion. Around both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms, the system can reward brilliance and still train the body into threat.

One way to understand both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

This is why both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms belongs in a clinical conversation about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision rather than in a productivity article. Strategy can help Carmel choose the next move inside both/and: the right answer can be to leave and the right answer can be to stay with different terms, but strategy alone can’t metabolize the nervous-system learning created by this particular article pattern. For section 6 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in case team grief (CS08).

The Systemic Lens: The Firm Can’t Tell You When You Have Given Enough

The Systemic Lens: The Firm Can’t Tell You When You Have Given Enough isn’t an abstract idea for Carmel; it’s the way her attention narrows when the work system asks for composure at the exact moment her body needs a boundary.

One way to understand the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

This is why the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough belongs in a clinical conversation about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision rather than in a productivity article. Strategy can help Carmel choose the next move inside the systemic lens: the firm can’t tell you when you’ve given enough, but strategy alone can’t metabolize the nervous-system learning created by this particular article pattern. For section 7 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in Women in Consulting Hub and executive coaching for career transitions.

A Trauma-Informed Framework for Deciding Without Abandoning Yourself

By the time Carmel can name a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself, she has usually spent months converting discomfort into professionalism and calling that conversion good judgment.

One way to understand a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself in should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is through the language of Judith Herman, MD, psychiatrist, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program, Cambridge Health Alliance, pioneering researcher on complex PTSD and author of Trauma and Recovery, Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, Daniel Siegel, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and author of The Developing Mind. In Carmel’s article on a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself, their work doesn’t reduce the problem to childhood, personality, or firm culture alone; it asks what happens when this survival strategy meets a prestigious environment that can pay it, praise it, and escalate it until the strategy begins to injure the person it once protected.

For Carmel in Carmel (BCG Principal, 34, Toronto, industrials), the pattern around a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself can look entirely reasonable from the outside. In this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision context, she may prepare before dawn, monitor the room, edit the work again, absorb partner volatility, and study the client as if anticipating everyone else were the same thing as safety. What may not be visible in this particular version of a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision bracing required to make that performance look effortless.

The work in a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself isn’t to make Carmel less serious about excellence. It’s to stop outsourcing reality-testing about should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision to an institution that benefits from her over-functioning. A healthier question for Carmel inside a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself is the should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision question: what’s her body doing before this article’s calendar, promotion packet, or next flight tells her what she’s allowed to feel?

There may be a practical next step for Carmel inside a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself, but it has to come after contact with the truth of should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision. Otherwise, in a trauma-informed framework for deciding without abandoning yourself, the next move becomes another form of flight dressed as optimization. For section 8 of this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision discussion, a wider frame appears in Women in Consulting Hub and executive coaching for career transitions.

The way forward through should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision isn’t a demand that you become softer, less ambitious, or less exacting. For Carmel, the invitation inside should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision is to let the capable part stop working alone with this exact pattern. If should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision felt uncomfortably accurate, that doesn’t mean you have failed consulting or that consulting has the final word on your life. It means this should i leave consulting? a trauma therapist’s guide for women at the up-or-out decision article has named enough truth to begin making choices with your whole self present.

Warmly, Annie

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About the Author

Annie Wright, LMFT

LMFT · Relational Trauma Specialist · Author, W.W. Norton 2027

Helping driven women finally feel as good as their résumé looks.

Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven women. Including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs. In repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in USA Today, Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, and The Information. She’s currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.

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