How to Find a Trauma Therapist Who Actually Gets driven women
LAST UPDATED: APRIL 2026
Finding a trauma therapist is hard enough. Finding one who understands the specific psychological landscape of driven women. The over-functioning, the performance armor, the particular flavor of relational wound that hides beneath a polished exterior. Is genuinely difficult. This post walks you through exactly what to look for, what questions to ask, what red flags to avoid, and how to know when you’ve found someone who can actually help.
Last reviewed: June 2026 by Annie Wright, LMFT
- The Consultation That Changed Everything
- What Is Trauma-Informed Therapy?
- The Neuroscience of Why Fit Matters
- How the Search Shows Up Differently for Driven Women
- What to Actually Look For. And What to Avoid
- Both/And: Capable of Everything, Needing Support Too
- The Systemic Lens: Why Therapy Access Is Not Neutral
- How to Begin. A Practical Path Forward
- Frequently Asked Questions
Finding a trauma therapist who’s actually a good fit for driven women requires more than credentials and availability. It requires a clinician who understands the specific psychological architecture of over-functioning, performance armor, and relational wounds that present beneath a polished exterior, and who won’t collude with high productivity as evidence of health. Good fit means the therapist can track both the achievement narrative and the wound beneath it without conflating the two. In my work with driven women, the wrong therapeutic fit often delays healing by years because the client keeps performing okayness for the very person who’s supposed to see past it.
In short: Finding the right trauma therapist for driven women means finding someone who understands performance armor and won’t mistake professional success for psychological health.
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Over more than 15,000 clinical hours, I’ve seen firsthand how the wrong therapeutic fit compounds the isolation that drives women to seek help in the first place, while the right fit accelerates change significantly. Research on therapeutic alliance as a predictor of outcomes supports the clinical importance of match quality over modality alone (Johnson 2008).
The Consultation That Changed Everything
Rachel is sitting in a sleek glass-walled office. Not hers, though it could be. She’s a principal engineer at a fintech company, mid-thirties, twelve years into a career she built from nothing. On the outside, she’s doing everything right. On the inside, she’s been running on fumes for so long that she’s forgotten what it felt like not to.
She’s on her third therapist in four years. The first one wanted to process her childhood. The second one kept suggesting she practice gratitude. Neither of them asked about the hypervigilance she carries into every performance review, the way her body braces before her phone rings, or why she can negotiate a ten-million-dollar contract but can’t ask her partner for help with the dishes without feeling like she’s imposing.
She doesn’t want another therapist who looks at her resume and assumes she’s fine. She wants someone who understands what it actually means to have built your entire life on a nervous system that learned, very early, that your value was contingent on what you produced. She wants someone who gets it. Not just intellectually, but clinically.
What Rachel is describing isn’t a preference. It’s a clinical need. And it’s one of the most common questions I hear from the women I work with: How do I find a trauma therapist who actually gets driven women? This post is my attempt to answer that thoroughly, practically, and without the usual vague advice to “look for someone who specializes in trauma.”
What Is Trauma-Informed Therapy?
“Trauma-informed therapy” has become something of a buzzword. And like most buzzwords, it’s used with a range of specificity that can make it hard to know what you’re actually looking for. So let’s start with what the term actually means.
A clinical orientation. Not a single modality. In which the therapist understands that trauma fundamentally alters the nervous system, cognition, identity, and relational patterning, and structures their approach accordingly. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), trauma-informed care is built on six principles: safety, trustworthiness, peer support, collaboration, empowerment, and cultural sensitivity. It differs from trauma-specific treatment in that it’s a lens applied across any modality, rather than a particular set of techniques.
In plain terms: A trauma-informed therapist doesn’t just know that bad things happened to you. They understand how those experiences got wired into your body, your relationships, and your sense of self. And they design the entire therapeutic relationship with that in mind, from how they handle silences to how they talk about your childhood.
The distinction matters enormously for driven women, because a therapist who isn’t trauma-informed may see your functioning and assume your wounds aren’t that deep. They may spend sessions focused on symptom management or cognitive restructuring without ever touching the underlying relational injuries that childhood emotional neglect or chronic relational stress left behind.
Trauma-informed therapy looks different depending on the modality. It might be EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), somatic therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), or relational psychodynamic therapy. What matters isn’t which approach your therapist uses. It’s whether they understand trauma at a physiological and relational level, and whether they apply that understanding consistently to how they show up with you.
Psychological injury arising from chronic disruptions in early attachment relationships. Not necessarily a single event, but a pattern of caregiving that was unpredictable, dismissive, frightening, or enmeshed. Diana Fosha, PhD, psychologist and developer of Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), describes relational trauma as the cumulative impact of experiences where a child could not find adequate co-regulation with a caregiver, leaving the nervous system in a state of chronic dysregulation.
In plain terms: Relational trauma doesn’t always look like obvious abuse. It’s what happens when you grew up in an environment where you had to manage your own nervous system alone. Where you learned to be capable, self-sufficient, and very, very careful about what you needed from other people. That pattern doesn’t disappear when you become a successful adult. It just gets more sophisticated.
This is the kind of trauma that lives inside many of the most accomplished women I know. It doesn’t show up as obvious dysfunction. It shows up as never feeling good enough no matter what you accomplish, as a low hum of anxiety that doesn’t resolve even when things are going well, as difficulty trusting people in positions of authority, and as a deep, private exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much sleep you got.
The Neuroscience of Why Fit Matters
Here’s something that doesn’t get said enough in the world of therapist-finding advice: the research on what actually makes therapy work is overwhelmingly clear, and it has very little to do with the therapist’s credentials or modality. What it has everything to do with is the therapeutic alliance.
Bessel van der Kolk, MD, psychiatrist and trauma researcher, author of The Body Keeps the Score, has written extensively about how trauma healing is fundamentally a relational process. The nervous system doesn’t heal in isolation. It heals in the presence of another nervous system that can help it find its way back to regulation. This is why you can read every book on trauma, understand your own psychology intellectually with extraordinary sophistication, and still not feel any better. The reading helps you understand. The relationship is what actually rewires things. (PMID: 9384857)
This means that finding a therapist who gets you. Who understands the particular world you inhabit and doesn’t pathologize your ambition or romanticize your resilience. Isn’t a nicety. It’s the mechanism of change.
The quality of the collaborative relationship between therapist and client, including agreement on therapeutic goals, agreement on the tasks of therapy, and the affective bond between them. Zac Imel, PhD, psychologist and psychotherapy researcher at the University of Utah, and Bruce Wampold, PhD, professor emeritus of counseling psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, have demonstrated through meta-analyses that the therapeutic alliance accounts for a greater proportion of outcome variance than the specific treatment technique used. Suggesting that who your therapist is matters more than what method they practice.
In plain terms: The most evidence-based thing you can do to make therapy work is find a therapist you genuinely connect with. Someone who makes you feel understood, not analyzed. The modality is secondary. The relationship is primary.
What does this mean practically? It means that the search for a good therapist is also a relational act. And for women who’ve spent years managing themselves in relationship, who’ve learned to perform competence and minimize needs, the search itself can activate old wounds. You may find yourself catastrophizing when a therapist doesn’t respond quickly, or dismissing a genuinely good fit because they said something slightly off in the first session, or staying with someone who isn’t helping because you don’t want to be “difficult.”
All of that is data. And we’ll come back to it.
RESEARCH EVIDENCE
Peer-reviewed findings that inform this clinical framework:
- 13 RCTs showed Cohen's d = 0.72 for service providers and d = 1.03 for service recipients (PMID: 40994399)
- 13 RCTs, n=850 women, depression and anxiety significantly improved post-treatment and at 3/6 months (PMID: 37697899)
- 15 studies, SMD = 0.47 (95% CI 0.27-0.67) for child wellbeing (PMID: 34478999)
How the Search Shows Up Differently for Driven Women
In my work with clients, I’ve noticed a specific set of complications that arise when driven women try to find a trauma therapist. The search doesn’t happen in a neutral field. It happens against a backdrop of particular wounds, particular defenses, and a particular cultural context that shapes the whole process.
The first complication is the competence trap. Many of the women I work with are extraordinarily good at research. They can evaluate a therapist’s training, read their Psychology Today profile, scan their published work, and assess their clinical approach with the same analytical precision they bring to due diligence on a business deal. But the criteria that matter most for therapy fit. Do I feel safe with this person? Do they understand my specific world? Does my nervous system actually settle in their presence?. Can’t be evaluated from a profile. They can only be felt. And for women who’ve learned to trust their analytical mind over their felt sense, this is genuinely hard.
The second complication is the help-seeking shame. There’s a particular kind of shame that many driven women carry around needing support. Especially psychological support. It’s not logical, but it’s real. Asking for help can feel like evidence of a flaw in the architecture, proof that the capable, together person you’ve worked so hard to become is actually a performance. This shame can make the therapist search feel urgent and embarrassing at the same time, which sometimes leads to impulsive choices (picking the first available person) or avoidant ones (spending months on the search without actually booking a consultation).
The third complication is the mismatch risk. Not every skilled therapist has experience working with women whose lives look the way yours does. A therapist who primarily works with people in acute crisis may inadvertently minimize your suffering because you’re still showing up, still functioning, still delivering. A therapist who hasn’t thought carefully about ambition, perfectionism, and over-functioning as trauma responses may pathologize your drive or fail to see that the fawning that looks like being a team player at work is actually a survival strategy from childhood.
Rachel found this out the hard way with her second therapist. The one who suggested gratitude. “She kept telling me I was ‘so resilient,’” Rachel told me in a session once. “And I wanted to say: I know. But I’m exhausted from being resilient. That’s why I’m here.” Resilience, reframed as a wound rather than a superpower, is something a trauma-informed therapist who gets driven women will understand immediately.
What to Actually Look For. And What to Avoid
Let’s get specific. After years of working with driven women who’ve been through multiple rounds of therapist searching, here’s what I’ve learned about what actually signals a good fit. And what should give you pause.
Green flags in a trauma therapist for driven women:
They ask about your body, not just your thoughts. A therapist who only works at the cognitive level. Helping you reframe thoughts, challenge cognitive distortions. Is doing something useful, but they’re missing the layer where trauma actually lives. Your nervous system doesn’t care about your insights. It needs something different. Look for a therapist who is curious about how you experience stress physically: where you hold tension, what happens in your body before a difficult conversation, how you recognize when you’re dysregulated.
They don’t romanticize your functionality. A therapist who is impressed by your accomplishments, or who treats your capacity to function under pressure as evidence that you’re basically okay, is missing the point. The most dangerous thing about being a functional trauma survivor is that you can look fine. And be not fine at all. For years. Your therapist needs to be able to hold both truths simultaneously, without collapsing into either pity or admiration. If you’d like to read more about this particular dynamic, I’ve written about depression that coexists with high performance in a post that a lot of my clients have found useful.
They understand over-functioning as a trauma response. The driven woman’s tendency to do more, take on more, manage more. This isn’t ambition in a pure sense. For many of us, it’s a survival strategy. It’s what happened when we learned that being useful was the safest way to be loved, or that falling apart wasn’t an option, or that our value was contingent on our output. A therapist who gets this won’t tell you to slow down without also helping you understand why slowing down feels dangerous.
They have a framework for the therapeutic relationship itself. Trauma-informed therapists understand that the therapeutic relationship will be colored by your relational history. That you may find yourself performing for your therapist, managing their emotional state, or testing them in subtle ways to see if they’ll prove as unreliable as the attachment figures who came before. They expect this, name it when it’s useful, and don’t take it personally.
Red flags to watch for:
They make you feel judged for your ambition. If a therapist. Even subtly. Frames your drive, your career focus, or your high standards as the problem, rather than as something to understand more deeply, that’s a mismatch. Your ambition isn’t the wound. It may be organized around a wound. That’s a different thing entirely.
They’re uncomfortable with your success. This sounds unlikely, but it happens. Some therapists, consciously or not, have complicated feelings about clients whose professional lives look very different from their own. You shouldn’t have to manage your therapist’s discomfort with your compensation package or your title.
They focus exclusively on the past without helping you understand the present. Trauma therapy requires going to difficult places. But the goal isn’t to live there. If sessions consistently leave you more flooded and dysregulated than when you arrived, without a felt sense of movement or integration, something may be off. Good trauma therapy should, over time, leave you feeling more capable of navigating your present, not less.
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do / with your one wild and precious life?”
Mary Oliver, Poet, from “The Summer Day”
That question. The one Mary Oliver puts so directly. Is the question underneath every woman who reaches out to me asking how to find a therapist. She’s not just looking for symptom relief. She’s looking for someone who can help her figure out who she actually is beneath the performing, the achieving, the managing. That’s the real ask. And it requires a therapist who can hold that question seriously.
Both/And: Capable of Everything, Needing Support Too
Here’s the Both/And at the heart of this conversation: you can be extraordinarily capable and genuinely in need of significant support at the same time. These two things don’t cancel each other out. But the culture of driven women. And sometimes the culture of therapy itself. Wants to collapse them.
Naomi is a 41-year-old cardiologist. She runs a department, publishes research, serves on three nonprofit boards, and is raising two children with her wife. She came to me after months of trying to find a therapist who didn’t treat her like she needed to be saved, or alternatively, like she was so functional that there wasn’t anything to save. “Everyone either thought I was too much or too fine,” she told me in our second session. “I couldn’t find anyone who thought I was both at the same time.”
What Naomi was describing is the Both/And that I believe is central to working with driven women: you’re too much and you’re fine. You’re exhausted and you’re thriving. You’re deeply wounded and you’re deeply capable. The wound and the competence don’t live in different people. They live in you, simultaneously, and a good therapist can hold that complexity without needing to resolve it into something simpler.
In the therapist search, this Both/And shows up practically. You need someone who will take your suffering seriously without pathologizing your strength. You need someone who respects your intelligence without deferring to it. Because sometimes your intellectual sophistication is the very thing that keeps you defended. You need someone who can say: yes, you’re handling it. And also: something is wrong. And hold both those things without blinking.
If you want to understand this pattern more deeply. The way capable women are often both praised and abandoned in their pain. I’ve written about finding your authentic self after years of performing, which gets at some of the same territory from a different angle.
The Systemic Lens: Why Therapy Access Is Not Neutral
It would be incomplete to write a post about finding a trauma therapist without naming some of the systemic realities that shape who gets to access quality care. And what kind of care they get.
Access to trauma-informed therapy for driven women is not a level playing field. The geography of your life matters: trauma-informed therapists who specialize in relational work and understand the psychological landscape of professional women tend to cluster in specific cities and specific economic brackets. If you live somewhere other than a major metropolitan area, or if your income is more modest than the women I’m primarily describing here, the search is genuinely harder. And the suggestion to “just find a good trauma therapist” lands differently.
Race and ethnicity shape the search in layered ways. Research by Helen Neville, PhD, psychologist and professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, has documented the ways that racial microaggressions in therapeutic settings. Including therapist assumptions about a client’s experience, unexamined racial biases, and failure to acknowledge the psychological toll of racism. Can compound the very relational trauma that clients come to therapy to heal. For women of color, finding a therapist who genuinely understands the intersection of racial identity, ambition, and relational trauma isn’t a bonus. It’s a prerequisite for the therapy to work.
The model of therapy itself was not designed with driven women in mind. Traditional psychoanalytic models were built on a dynamic where the patient was positioned as passive and the expert as active. A power structure that can replicate, rather than heal, the relational dynamics that many driven women are trying to move beyond. Good trauma-informed therapy disrupts that dynamic consciously and deliberately. The best therapists I know talk openly with their clients about the power differential in the room, and work to make the therapeutic relationship genuinely collaborative.
If you’re a woman of color, if you’re queer, if you’re neurodivergent, if you hold any identity that the mainstream therapy world has historically underserved. I want to name explicitly that your search may require more intentional filtering. Therapist directories like Inclusive Therapists, the Melanin and Mental Health directory, and Psychology Today’s identity-filter search can help narrow the field toward clinicians who’ve done the work to understand your specific context. You deserve a therapist who doesn’t make you translate your life before the real work can begin.
How to Begin. A Practical Path Forward
Okay. Let’s get practical. If you’re reading this and you’re ready to actually begin the search. Or begin it again after a discouraging previous round. Here’s how I’d approach it.
Step 1: Get clear on what you actually need.
Before you open a single directory, spend time with this question: What specifically are you struggling with? Not “I’m stressed” or “I’m unhappy”. Be more precise. Are you dealing with the aftermath of a specific relationship or experience? Are you noticing patterns that you recognize intellectually but can’t seem to change? Are you struggling with dissociation or shutting down in high-pressure moments? Are you watching yourself avoid conflict at home while navigating conflict at work with ease? The more specific you can get, the more useful your search will be. And the better your consultations will go.
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Step 2: Look for trauma-specific training, not just “trauma-informed” self-description.
Many therapists describe themselves as trauma-informed on their profiles. Fewer have specific training in evidence-based trauma modalities. Look for credentials that include: EMDR certification (through the EMDR International Association), IFS Level 1 or 2 training, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy training, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner training, or advanced training in AEDP. These aren’t the only valid credentials. But they’re markers that the therapist has gone beyond the basics.
Step 3: Pay attention to how they describe their work with women like you.
A therapist’s Psychology Today or website language will tell you a lot. Do they mention working with perfectionism, over-functioning, or relational trauma? Do they mention the specific challenges of ambitious or professional women? Do they use language that feels accurate to your experience, or does it feel generic? You’re not looking for someone who simply lists “anxiety and depression”. You’re looking for someone who has thought carefully about the specific intersection of wounds and strengths that you inhabit.
Step 4: Conduct a real consultation. And notice how you feel in your body.
Most therapists offer a free 15-20 minute phone consultation. Use it. Come prepared with two or three specific things you’re dealing with, and pay less attention to what the therapist says than to how you feel while they’re saying it. Does your nervous system settle slightly? Do you feel more curious or more defended? Do you feel like you could eventually tell this person the true version of what’s going on. Not the polished summary, but the actual thing?
You’re also entitled to ask direct questions in a consultation. “How do you work with high-functioning women who are struggling?” is a completely reasonable question. “What’s your approach to the therapeutic relationship itself?” is reasonable. “Have you worked with women in tech, medicine, or leadership?” is reasonable. A good therapist won’t be thrown by direct questions. They’ll welcome them.
Step 5: Give it three sessions before deciding.
The first session with a new therapist is almost always awkward. You’re delivering context, they’re orienting, and neither of you knows each other yet. It takes about three sessions for a clearer picture to emerge of whether there’s genuine fit. That said. If you feel distinctly unsafe, dismissively handled, or fundamentally misunderstood in the first session, trust that. You don’t have to finish the session, and you don’t owe a second one.
Step 6: Know what to do when it’s not working.
One of the hardest things for driven women is ending a therapeutic relationship that isn’t helping. The same patterns that make it hard to leave a job that’s no longer right, or exit a relationship that’s run its course, apply here: the loyalty, the not wanting to hurt the therapist’s feelings, the sense that you should be able to make this work if you just try harder. You don’t have to try harder. You’re allowed to say. To the therapist’s face, or in a letter, or just by stopping. That this isn’t the right fit and you’re moving on.
If you want support in taking the first step toward working with me directly, the best starting point is to reach out through my connect page for a consultation. I work with driven women in individual therapy and executive coaching, and I’m licensed in 11 jurisdictions. The work I do is explicitly designed for women whose external lives look impressive and whose internal lives feel heavy. Which is to say, women who’ve been waiting for a long time for a therapist who actually gets it.
If you’re not sure where to start, taking Annie’s free quiz can help you identify the specific childhood wound that’s been shaping your adult patterns. And give you clearer language for what you’re looking for in a therapist. And if you’d prefer a broader foundation before diving into therapy, my Fixing the Foundations™ course offers a self-paced way to begin understanding your relational patterns and what drives them.
You’ve spent years being good at everything. You’re allowed to be in process when it comes to this. The search for the right therapist isn’t a measure of how broken you are. It’s a measure of how seriously you’re taking your own interior life. And that, finally, is something worth taking seriously.
I see so many women who’ve spent years helping others heal, leading teams, holding space for colleagues and partners and children, while quietly waiting to find someone who could hold space for them. If that’s you. You’re not alone, and you’re not asking for too much. The right therapist is out there. And you deserve one who actually, genuinely, clinically gets you. If you’d like to stay connected while you’re searching, my Strong & Stable newsletter goes out every Sunday with writing designed specifically for driven women doing this kind of interior work. It’s free, and it might be good company while you figure out your next step.
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Q: How do I know if a therapist truly specializes in trauma or is just using the term loosely?
A: Ask them directly about their specific training. A clinician with genuine trauma expertise will be able to name the modalities they’re trained in (EMDR, IFS, Somatic Experiencing, AEDP, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, etc.), describe where and when they completed that training, and explain how they apply it in their work. They should also be able to speak to the difference between processing trauma and working with a client who’s actively in crisis. Which requires different clinical skills. Vague language like “I use a holistic approach” or “I’m trauma-sensitive” without specifics warrants follow-up questions.
Q: I’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t help. How do I know this time will be different?
A: Past therapy not working is information about the fit or the approach, not about whether therapy can work for you. The most common reasons therapy doesn’t help driven women: the therapist didn’t understand over-functioning as a trauma response, the work stayed too cognitive and didn’t reach the nervous system, or the therapeutic relationship wasn’t safe enough for real vulnerability to emerge. When you consult with a new therapist, it’s worth naming exactly what didn’t work before. A good therapist will receive that information without defensiveness and will be curious about how to do things differently.
Q: What’s the difference between trauma therapy and regular therapy. And do I actually need the former?
A: General therapy often focuses on current functioning, coping strategies, and behavioral change. Trauma therapy specifically addresses how past experiences got encoded in the nervous system and continue to shape present-day responses. Often outside of conscious awareness. If you notice patterns in your relationships, your emotional responses, or your body that you can understand intellectually but can’t seem to change through willpower or insight alone, that’s a strong indicator that trauma-informed work is what you actually need. The fact that you’re functioning well doesn’t mean you don’t have trauma. It often just means your defenses are well-developed.
Q: How do I find a trauma therapist who understands my professional world without having to explain it constantly?
A: Look for therapists whose profile language references working with professional women, executives, entrepreneurs, or women in leadership. In a consultation, describe your professional context briefly and pay attention to whether the therapist seems comfortable with it or seems to need you to simplify or translate. Some therapists explicitly focus their practice on driven women. And while that’s not the only path to good fit, it does mean you’re less likely to spend your sessions educating your clinician about how your world works. That energy belongs in the healing, not the explaining.
Q: What do I actually say in a consultation call. Especially if I’m not sure how to describe what’s wrong?
A: Start with the most honest sentence you can manage. It might be: “I’ve been functioning well externally, but internally I feel like I’m barely holding it together.” Or: “I keep repeating patterns in my relationships that I don’t fully understand.” Or: “I think something happened in my childhood that I’ve never really processed, and I think it’s affecting my life now more than I’ve admitted.” You don’t need a clinical explanation. You need one true thing. A good trauma therapist will know how to work with that. And if the therapist makes you feel like you need to have it more organized before you show up, that’s already useful information about the fit.
Q: Is it normal to feel worse before I feel better in trauma therapy?
A: It’s not uncommon to feel more emotionally activated in the early stages of trauma therapy, as you begin to open material that you’ve been keeping managed. However, feeling genuinely destabilized. Unable to function, significantly more symptomatic. Is not a necessary part of the process, and it’s worth flagging with your therapist directly if it happens. Good trauma therapy is paced deliberately, with careful attention to your window of tolerance. You should feel like you’re going into difficult territory with support, not like you’re being pushed off a ledge. If it consistently feels like the latter, say so.
References
Peer-Reviewed Research (Vancouver)
- van der Kolk BA, Wang JB, Yehuda R, Bedrosian L, Coker AR, Harrison C, et al. Effects of MDMA-assisted therapy for PTSD on self-experience. PLoS One. 2024;19(1):e0295926. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0295926. PMID: 38198456.
- Iwakabe S, Edlin J, Fosha D, Thoma NC, Gretton H, Joseph AJ, et al. The long-term outcome of accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy: 6- and 12-month follow-up results. Psychotherapy (Chic). 2022;59(3):431-446. doi:10.1037/pst0000441. PMID: 35653751.
Books & Cultural Sources (Chicago Author-Date)
- Oliver, Mary. Devotions. Little, Brown Book Group Limited, 2017.
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Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven women. Including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs. In repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in USA Today, Forbes, Business Insider, Inc., NBC, and The Information. She is currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.
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