THERAPY TOPICS • March 21, 2026

The Good Daughter Syndrome: Why You Can’t Stop Over-Functioning

Annie Wright, LMFT. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

By Annie Wright, LMFT · Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (#95719)

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Annie Wright is a licensed psychotherapist (LMFT #95719) and trauma-informed executive coach with over 15,000 clinical hours. She works with driven women , including Silicon Valley leaders, physicians, and entrepreneurs , in repairing the psychological foundations beneath their impressive lives. Annie is the founder and former CEO of Evergreen Counseling, a multimillion-dollar trauma-informed therapy center she built, scaled, and successfully exited. A regular contributor to Psychology Today, her expert commentary has appeared in USA Today, Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, and The Information. She is currently writing her first book with W.W. Norton.

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Written by Annie Wright, LMFT (CA LMFT #95719, EMDRIA-certified, 15,000+ clinical hours). Elizabeth Anne Wright, LMFT (California LMFT95719; New Jersey license 37FI00254800; Maryland LCMFT LCM1206), actively licensed in 14 U.S. jurisdictions and registered to provide telehealth in Florida and accountable for all content published under her name.

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Wright, A. (2026, March 21). The Good Daughter Syndrome: Why You Can’t Stop Over-Functioning. Annie Wright, LMFT. https://anniewright.com/good-daughter-syndrome-over-functioning/

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Annie Wright is licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist in 14 U.S. jurisdictions, including Colorado for telehealth only, and holds an out-of-state telehealth provider registration in Florida under Fla. Stat. 456.47, which is a registration and not a Florida license. Annie Wright LLC, which publishes this site, is not a clinical practice and does not provide therapy. Psychotherapy is provided only by Annie Wright Marriage and Family Therapy, P.A., under separate written agreements.

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