You’ve got that meeting coming up. The one where you need to speak up, hold your ground, or deliver difficult feedback. Just thinking about it makes your chest tight and your hands shake.
You know what you need to say. You’ve prepared thoroughly. You’re objectively competent. But your body seems to have other plans—flooding you with old fear at exactly the wrong moment.
Maybe it’s the salary negotiation where you freeze when it’s time to name your number. Or the boardroom where your voice gets thin and you immediately regret how you showed up. Perhaps it’s the boundary conversation you’ve been avoiding because your nervous system treats it like a threat to your survival.
Sound familiar?
Here’s what I’ve learned working with hundreds of driven women: your body isn’t betraying you in these moments. It’s actually reading the room accurately. Your nervous system carries wisdom—sometimes generations of it—about when it was safe to speak and when it was safer to stay small.
The real, lasting strength comes from deep foundation work. The healing of old wounds. The building of secure attachment. That work matters profoundly—it’s the bedrock of everything.
But in the meantime, while you’re doing that deeper work, you still have to show up. You still have meetings to lead, boundaries to set, difficult conversations that can’t wait for you to finish healing every old hurt.
This week’s workbook offers seven immediate tools for exactly those moments.




