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How is relational trauma different from complex PTSD?

How is relational trauma different from complex PTSD? | Annie Wright, LMFT | www.anniewright.com

I received an email from someone online this past week:

“Dear Annie,

Thank you for your website and all the essays you put on it. I’ve read a few pieces so far but I have a question: Can you help me understand what the difference between relational trauma and Complex PTSD is?

Thank you.”

I thought this was a great question, and while it’s one I’ve answered in ways across the years in my nearly 200 essays on the site, I thought it would be helpful to write an essay explicitly dedicated to explaining the answer to this question (as I understand it).

If you, like this individual who emailed me, have ever wondered what the difference between relational trauma and Complex PTSD is, keep reading.

How is relational trauma different from complex PTSD? | Annie Wright, LMFT | www.anniewright.com

How is relational trauma different from complex PTSD?

How is relational trauma different from Complex PTSD?

First, let me say that trauma of any type is a complex and multifaceted experience that can manifest in various forms. 

Two concepts that often surface when discussing trauma are relational trauma and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). 

Both have significant implications for an individual’s mental and emotional well-being, but they differ in several key aspects and the crux of this essay hinges on the differences between an experience and a result

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Relational trauma is an experience.

Relational trauma, also known as interpersonal trauma, refers to traumatic experiences that occur within the context of relationships

As I define it and focus on in my work, relational trauma, specifically childhood relational trauma, is the kind of trauma that results over the course of time in the context of a power-imbalanced and dysfunctional relationship (usually between a child and caregiver) that results in a host of complex and lingering biopsychosocial impacts for the individual who endured the trauma.

The key characteristics of relational trauma include:

  • Repeated Exposure: Relational trauma usually results from ongoing exposure to unhealthy dynamics, betrayal, manipulation, or other harmful behaviors within relationships. Relational trauma survivors may experience a sense of perpetuity, as the trauma tends to be recurrent.
  • Relationship-Centered: As the name suggests, relational trauma is inherently tied to the dynamics of personal relationships. This trauma typically arises from within family units, romantic partnerships, close friendships, or other interpersonal connections.
  • Emotional Impact: The emotional toll of relational trauma can be profound. Relational trauma survivors may struggle with issues like trust, self-esteem, self-worth, and attachment difficulties, which are often deeply rooted in their traumatic experiences.
  • Complexity: Relational trauma can be intricate, as it often involves multiple traumatic events and varied forms of abuse or neglect within a single relationship or across several relationships.

Seen through this lens, we can understand that relational trauma is an experience (or set of experiences) that someone might move through, whether this is in childhood, adolescence, or adulthood.

However, Complex PTSD is an outcome that can sometimes (but not always) result from the experience of relational trauma.

Complex PTSD is a result, an outcome that someone can experience.

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is a result, a condition that often develops as a consequence of prolonged and repeated exposure to trauma, especially (but not necessarily always) of an interpersonal or relational nature. 

Note: C-PTSD is not a term in the current Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM – the clinical bedrock textbook of the mental health field).

However, the 11th revision to the World Health Organization’s International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11) now includes complex PTSD (CPTSD), under a general parent category of ‘Disorders specifically associated with stress.’

I say this because while the term Complex PTSD is widely known, what you’re more likely to see on your actual medical chart is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), PTSD dissociative subtype, or Other Specified Trauma and Stressor-Related Disorders because the American mental health community relies on the DSM.

So, bearing this in mind, what does Complex PTSD as a result look and feel like?

As the ICD-11 defines it, Complex PTSD has multiple, essential and required features to diagnose it as such:

  • Exposure to an event or series of events of an extremely threatening or horrific nature, most commonly prolonged or repetitive events from which escape is difficult or impossible.
  • Following the traumatic event, the development of all three core elements of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, lasting for at least several weeks.
  • Severe and pervasive problems in affect regulation. 
  • Persistent beliefs about oneself as diminished, defeated or worthless, accompanied by deep and pervasive feelings of shame, guilt or failure related to the stressor. 
  • Persistent difficulties in sustaining relationships and in feeling close to others. 
  • The disturbance results in significant impairment in personal, family, social, educational, occupational or other important areas of functioning. 
  • And suicidal ideation and behavior, substance abuse, depressive symptoms, psychotic symptoms, and somatic complaints may be present.

(Note: For a full, clinical list of the diagnostic criteria of PTSD and tangential diagnoses included in the DSM, please see here.)

Will anyone who lives through relational trauma experience Complex PTSD as a result?

So, the million dollar question is, if Complex PTSD is a result, an outcome that might occur to someone who lives through the experience of relational trauma, does that mean that everyone will experience Complex PTSD if they have experienced relational trauma?

No, not necessarily.

How and what symptoms manifest for someone after they move through the experience of relational trauma can vary.

I’ve written about this before, but, essentially, that’s because two individuals who live through a nearly identical set of circumstances can manifest impact (eg: symptomology) differently from each other.

I like to think of it analogously to raindrops passing through a cold front, coming out the other side shaped into snowflakes. 

The crystalline structures of the snowflakes are utterly different from each other after moving through that experience versus having more closely remembered each other before.

When it comes to our human experience, how and what the impact of moving through a relational trauma experience may differ from person to person depending on a wide variety of variables such as the individual’s age at the time the trauma occurred, their gender, their inherent temperament, any external and internal coping mechanisms, whether or not they were the focus of or witness to the abuse or not old enough to remember, that individual’s inherent resilience, and much more.

So while Complex PTSD is one metaphorical crystalline structure a raindrop can manifest into (and indeed, many of us who endure relational trauma backgrounds crystalize into this structure so to speak), it’s not the only shape a snowflake can take after passive through the proverbial cold front of relational trauma experiences. 

Other examples of snowflake structures that might manifest are wide, varied, complex, and, to be frank, clinically and diagnostically organized in manuals such as the DSM-5 or ICD-11 (though I’ve also certainly detailed out what manifestations can look and feel like here on this blog, too). 

How do I begin to heal from relational trauma and/or Complex PTSD?

However, the experience of relational trauma may manifest itself for you – Complex PTSD as a result or not – please know recovery from relational trauma is and will be, for many, multi-dimensional work as the wounding itself is multi-dimensional.

There’s the relational wounding component and the need for relational healing, which, I believe, can happen in the context of a safe, supportive, attuned, and reparative experience with a trained professional (like a trauma therapist) or with a dear friend or securely attached romantic partner.

There is the stabilization phase of the work, reducing the acuity of any symptoms and behavioral choices at play to numb intolerable feeling states and integrate any fractured ego states that may have resulted from early experiences.

There is the somatic level of the work, the need to regulate and retrain the nervous system and body that the world is safe and to help it calm down and respond appropriately versus in default.

There is the cognitive level of the work, which includes recalling, narrating, and making meaning and sense of memories and history, as well as forming and internalizing newer, more constructive beliefs about oneself, others, and the world.

There is the emotional level of the work, learning or relearning emotional regulation, emotional expression, and even being able to identify emotions in the body.

And there is, I believe, life skills work that may have been missed or impeded by the complexity of the relational trauma. Work like managing money wisely, seeking out and nurturing a fulfilling career, practicing self-supporting hygiene and personal care habits, and learning the myriad complex logistical skills that can lead to a whole and fulfilled adult life.

The best way, I truly believe, to begin recovering from relational trauma (however it has manifested for you) is to seek out professional support, ideally with a clinician who is well-versed in relational trauma.

I also believe that psychoeducation can be a wonderful and helpful tool in the recovery process and so, to that end, I have included some curated essays/resources for you at the end of this essay if you’d like to explore more on relational trauma, C-PTSD, childhood trauma, and recovery (you can also explore the vast category on my blog “Healing from Childhood Trauma” for even more resources).

But, for now, I’d love to hear from you in the comments:

Did this essay clarify for you the difference between relational trauma and Complex PTSD? Did you see yourself in this essay? If so, what has been one of the most helpful tools you’ve found on your relational trauma trauma recovery journey?

If you feel so inclined, please leave a comment below so our community of 30,000 blog readers can benefit from your wisdom.

And, very importantly, if you would like personal support on your relational trauma recovery journey and you live in California or Florida, please feel free to reach out to me directly to explore therapy together.

Or if you live outside of these states, please consider enrolling in my signature online course, Hard Families, Good Boundaries, designed to support you in healing your adverse early beginnings and creating a beautiful adulthood for yourself, no matter where you started out in life and no matter who is in your life.

And until next time, please take very good care of yourself. You’re so worth it.

Warmly, Annie


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