Emotional Intimacy: Why It Terrifies You and How to Build It Anyway

RELATIONSHIP MASTERY & COMMUNICATION • April 10, 2026

The illusion of intimacy: A composite portrait

Maya is a 41-year-old emergency medicine physician in Chicago who, by every external measure, has her life together. She runs a trauma bay with the quiet authority of someone who has seen everything and lost the ability to be rattled. Her marriage of eight years to Daniel, a software architect, is what she privately calls “stable” — a word she has come to use the way other people use “good enough.” They have two children, a mortgage in Lincoln Square, and a shared Google Calendar that is the real architecture of their relationship.

They have not had a fight in four years. Maya considers this an achievement. Daniel has stopped considering it anything at all.

In the evenings after the kids are in bed, Maya opens her laptop. Daniel watches TV in the other room. They are good at parallel living. They share a bed, a joke about the neighbor’s dog, an occasional vacation. What they do not share — what Maya has not shared with anyone in longer than she can remember — is what is actually happening inside her.

It is not that she lacks self-awareness. Maya has been in therapy twice, read every attachment book recommended to her, and can articulate her avoidant tendencies with clinical precision. She knows, intellectually, that her emotional walls trace back to a mother who treated her children’s feelings as inconveniences and a father who solved every problem with a solution rather than a presence. She knows the vocabulary. She has done the reading. What she cannot do — what genuinely terrifies her — is feel her feelings in front of another human being without immediately wanting to manage the situation, explain herself, or disappear into her phone.

Last winter, Daniel sat across from her at the kitchen table after the kids were asleep and said, quietly, “I feel like I’m living with someone who is very kind and very far away.” Maya’s chest seized. She said, “I’m tired, let’s talk about this another time.” She was not tired. She was terrified. And she knew it, which made it worse.

If you recognize any part of Maya’s story — the competence that coexists with a profound inner distance, the relationship that functions beautifully on every logistical level but feels, in quiet moments, like two strangers sharing a lease — you are not broken. You are a person whose early environment taught you that emotional exposure was not safe. Your walls were not a character flaw. They were engineering. Brilliant, adaptive, life-saving engineering that has long since outlived its usefulness.

This article is not about convincing you that vulnerability is worth it. You already know that, somewhere. This is about understanding why your nervous system disagrees with you — and what to do about it in increments small enough not to trigger a full system shutdown.

This is also not about dismantling everything at once. The goal is not to become a different person. It is to become more of yourself — the self that existed before the fortress was built.

Why emotional intimacy feels like a threat: The clinical framework

The reason emotional intimacy feels like danger — not just discomfort, but genuine biological danger — is that for many driven women, it once was. To understand why your nervous system responds the way it does, it helps to understand what was happening in your brain long before you were old enough to make conscious choices about it.

The neuroscience of vulnerability and threat detection

Your amygdala — the almond-shaped structure deep in your brain’s limbic system — is your threat detection center. It is fast, automatic, and operates entirely beneath conscious awareness. It was designed for survival: scan the environment, detect danger, sound the alarm before the thinking brain has time to weigh in. In healthy early environments, the amygdala learns to distinguish between genuine threats (a raised fist, an approaching predator) and social connection, which it comes to associate with safety and regulation.

But if your early environment was emotionally unpredictable — if a parent’s mood shifted without warning, if your emotional needs were met with contempt or dismissal, if the people who were supposed to be safe were also sources of fear — your amygdala learned something different. It learned that other people’s emotional proximity was, itself, a threat signal. It learned to treat intimacy the way a fire alarm treats smoke: regardless of whether the fire is real.

Neuroscientific research confirms that affect labeling — the act of putting feelings into words — reduces amygdala activation while increasing activity in the prefrontal cortex, the region associated with reasoning and emotional regulation. In other words, naming your emotions is literally calming to the brain. But here is the catch: that regulatory effect is only available when the nervous system feels safe enough to attempt the naming. When the amygdala is already in threat mode — which it is, for many women, the moment a partner initiates emotional closeness — access to that prefrontal cortex regulation is compromised. Your thinking brain goes offline precisely when you need it most.

This is why you can be in a perfectly safe relationship, with a genuinely trustworthy partner, and still feel a surge of panic when they ask how you really are. It is not a rational response to a rational situation. It is a nervous system that has been running the same protective program since childhood — and has never received the update.

Brené Brown’s research: The armor we build

Brené Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston who spent more than a decade studying vulnerability, shame, and human connection, conducted more than 1,200 in-depth interviews and coded approximately 11,000 phrases from her field notes to understand how people navigate the terror of being seen. What she found was not that some people were simply more courageous than others. What she found was that people who experienced deep connection had made a specific, countercultural choice: they had decided that vulnerability was worth the risk.

In her research, Brown identified what she called “vulnerability shields” — the emotional armor we deploy to protect ourselves from the pain of exposure. For high-achieving women in particular, the most common shields are numbing (staying perpetually busy so there is no quiet in which feelings might surface), perfectionism (performing competence so flawlessly that no one has reason to look beneath the surface), and foreboding joy (preemptively catastrophizing to avoid the terrifying exposure of actually hoping for something).

What Brown’s research made clear is that these shields are paradoxical. They protect you from pain, yes — but they also, by definition, protect you from connection. You cannot selectively numb. When you build walls around vulnerability, you build walls around joy, around love, around the kind of being-known that makes life feel worth living. For driven women who have spent decades being exceptional at their careers while feeling secretly hollow in their closest relationships, this paradox is not theoretical. It is the texture of daily life. It may be what brought you to couples therapy, or to this article, or to the quiet 3 a.m. recognition that something important is missing.

Attachment theory and the internal working model

Attachment theory, developed by British psychiatrist John Bowlby and elaborated by developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth, offers perhaps the most clinically precise framework for understanding why emotional intimacy is so difficult for women with relational trauma histories. Bowlby proposed that every child builds what he called an “internal working model” of relationships — a set of beliefs, expectations, and behavioral scripts derived from early interactions with caregivers that then operate as a template for all subsequent intimate relationships.

If your early caregivers were emotionally available, responsive, and attuned — if they could be reached when you needed them and could hold your emotional states without becoming overwhelmed or dismissive — your internal working model encoded something like: I am worthy of care. Other people can be trusted. Showing need is safe.

If, instead, your caregivers were emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, critical, or frightening, your internal working model encoded something very different: My needs are too much. Showing vulnerability leads to abandonment or punishment. I am safest when I need nothing from anyone.

Adults who developed avoidant attachment styles in response to emotionally unavailable caregivers become exceptionally skilled at self-regulation — at managing their own emotional states without external support — because they had to. But this hard-won skill comes at a cost: it also makes genuine emotional interdependence feel unnecessary at best and terrifying at worst. Research on adult attachment consistently shows that avoidantly attached adults, when distressed, show the same physiological arousal as anxiously attached adults — elevated heart rate, cortisol spikes — but demonstrate far less of it behaviorally. They have learned to suppress the outward signal of need so effectively that even they sometimes lose access to it.

This is the clinical reality beneath Maya’s “I’m fine.” It is not dishonesty. It is a deeply conditioned, neurologically encoded survival response that has been running so long it feels like personality.

Understanding the neuroscience and attachment roots of your emotional avoidance matters because it removes the most corrosive layer of difficulty: self-blame. If you have ever berated yourself for being “cold,” “closed off,” or “incapable of real intimacy,” you were wrong about the nature of the problem. You are not defective. You are adaptive. Those are very different things, and the path forward from each is radically different.

How avoidance of emotional intimacy manifests

Emotional avoidance in high-achieving women rarely looks like what most people imagine. It does not look like stonewalling or coldness or obvious withdrawal. It is far more sophisticated than that — because driven women are, by definition, good at managing impressions and meeting expectations. The avoidance is woven into the fabric of daily interaction so seamlessly that it often goes unrecognized, even by the woman herself, for years.

Intellectualizing feelings

The most common and culturally rewarded form of emotional avoidance in educated, high-achieving women is intellectualization — the unconscious process of converting emotional experience into cognitive analysis. When Daniel told Maya he felt like she was far away, she did not feel the impact of his words in her body. She assessed them. She categorized his statement as “feedback about relational distance,” identified “exhaustion” as a plausible contributing variable, and filed it away for later processing that never came.

Intellectualization is a defense mechanism that is particularly seductive for women who built their identities around intelligence and analytical capability — because it feels like engagement. You are talking about your feelings. You are using the right words. You are, in some sense, present in the conversation. But you are present the way a documentary filmmaker is present at a disaster: observing, categorizing, narrating, but never standing in the wreckage yourself.

The clinical tell is in the body. When you are intellectualizing, your voice stays level, your posture remains controlled, and you can maintain eye contact with the composed equanimity of someone discussing a business problem. There is no lump in the throat, no flush of heat in the chest, no moment where you lose your train of thought because the emotion broke through the syntax. You are reporting on the weather, not standing in the rain.

This is closely connected to what can develop into patterns of conflict avoidance — where the intellectual frame is used not just to process but to preempt. If you can analyze a feeling before your partner can ask about it, you never have to be caught in the unmanaged moment. If you can explain the developmental roots of your avoidance in clinical language, you have successfully turned the conversation into a seminar rather than a reckoning.

Deflecting with humor, competence, and caretaking

A second signature pattern is deflection — the rapid pivot away from emotional exposure toward something safer. For driven women, deflection most often takes three forms:

Humor. A well-timed joke is one of the most effective vulnerability shields in existence. It signals warmth and connection while simultaneously ensuring that neither person has to sit in the discomfort of actual emotional contact. If you are the funny one in your relationship — the one who can always lighten the mood — notice how often that gift is deployed in moments when a more direct emotional response would have required you to be seen.

Competence. High-achieving women frequently deflect from emotional intimacy by becoming extraordinarily useful. If your partner is struggling, you research solutions. If there is a conflict, you create a framework for addressing it. You bring the same project-management energy to your relationship that you bring to your career — because execution is safe, and feeling is not. This is the hallmark of what many clients describe as running their marriage like a logistics operation, a dynamic that over-functioning research illuminates clearly.

Caretaking. Perhaps the most invisible form of deflection is turning toward your partner’s needs the moment your own emotional exposure becomes imminent. You ask them how they are feeling. You notice they seem tired and make them tea. You redirect the conversation toward their world. This is not generosity — or rather, it is generosity weaponized as escape. It keeps you relational without requiring you to be vulnerable.

The “I’m fine” reflex and emotional bypassing

Perhaps the most universal pattern is the reflexive deployment of “fine” — not as a conscious lie, but as an automatic regulatory response. “I’m fine” is what comes out of your mouth in the half-second before your nervous system has had time to check in with your actual internal state. It is a conditioned response, learned in environments where the honest answer — I’m scared, I’m sad, I need something from you — was met with dismissal, ridicule, or the much more disorienting response of your parent becoming dysregulated themselves.

Closely related to this is what trauma therapists call emotional bypassing — a pattern in which spiritual or psychological frameworks are used to skip over emotional processing rather than move through it. You meditate. You journal. You have done significant personal development work. But if that work has produced insight without the capacity for genuine emotional presence with another person, it may be serving a bypass function rather than a healing one. Knowing why you avoid intimacy is not the same as becoming capable of intimacy. Insight is necessary but not sufficient.

The pursuer-distancer dynamic that develops in many relationships — where one partner chases emotional connection and the other retreats — is often the direct consequence of these avoidance patterns. What feels to you like “needing space” registers to your partner as abandonment. What feels to your partner like “wanting connection” registers to your nervous system as an incursion. Both experiences are real. Neither person is the villain. But without understanding the mechanism, the pattern simply calcifies.

Somatic dissociation: When the body goes offline

A fourth and often unrecognized pattern is somatic dissociation — a disconnection from physical sensation that leaves women unable to access embodied emotional experience. As Bessel van der Kolk documents in The Body Keeps the Score, trauma is not stored primarily in narrative memory. It is stored in the body — in the chronic tension in the shoulders, the restricted breathing, the hypervigilant scanning that never fully resolves. For women who experienced childhood emotional neglect, the body learned to go quiet. Feelings that were not allowed to be expressed were not allowed to be felt, and eventually, many women lost access to the somatic signals entirely.

This is why, in the clinical work of building emotional intimacy, starting with the body is not optional — it is foundational. You cannot share what you cannot feel. And you cannot feel what your nervous system has learned to suppress before it reaches conscious awareness. The path back to emotional intimacy runs directly through the body, and it begins with learning to notice physical sensation as a data source rather than something to be managed or overridden.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you might be dealing with the long-term effects of enmeshment trauma or emotional flashbacks that surface during intimate moments, these somatic patterns are often the clearest diagnostic signal.

The Both/And reality of vulnerability

Before moving into the practical work of building emotional intimacy, there is a reframe that is not just helpful but clinically necessary — because without it, the work of change tends to collapse under the weight of self-judgment.

The walls you built around your emotional life were not a mistake. They were not a character flaw, a weakness, or evidence of some fundamental incapacity for connection. They were the most intelligent response available to the child you were, in the relational environment you were in. When emotional exposure was unsafe — when your sadness was dismissed, your anger was punished, your needs were treated as burdens — building a fortress was not pathology. It was survival. You protected the most tender parts of yourself in the only way you knew how.

The Both/And truth of this moment is:

Your walls protected you then — AND — they are limiting you now.

Your self-reliance was necessary — AND — it has become a ceiling on your capacity for connection.

Your avoidance makes complete developmental sense — AND — it is costing you and the people you love something real.

This Both/And framing is not therapy-speak designed to make you feel better. It is a clinical necessity, because shame is the single greatest obstacle to change. Research on behavior change consistently demonstrates that self-compassion — not self-criticism — is what creates the neurological safety required for genuine transformation. When you approach your avoidance with contempt, you activate the same threat response that makes intimacy impossible in the first place. You cannot shame yourself into openness. The math does not work.

What this also means is that the partner who feels shut out — Daniel, sitting across the kitchen table with his quiet, devastating observation — is not wrong about their experience. And you are not wrong about yours. The pursuer-distancer dynamic creates two people who are both, in their own way, right and both, in their own way, suffering. This is not a conflict to win. It is a system to understand and, gradually, to change.

There is also a Both/And truth about what emotional intimacy requires of you now: it requires risk. Not reckless risk — not opening yourself completely to someone who has not demonstrated they can hold what you give them — but graduated, intentional risk. The kind that is taken in the direction of connection rather than away from it. If you have experienced betrayal trauma or relational wounding in previous partnerships, this calibration matters enormously. Vulnerability that exceeds the actual safety of the container is not intimacy — it is re-enactment. Part of the work is learning to assess relational safety accurately, rather than defaulting to either the assumption that everyone is safe or the assumption that no one is.

The goal is not to dismantle your capacity for self-protection. It is to give yourself conscious choice about when and with whom you deploy it — so that the walls become doors you can open from the inside, rather than fortresses you are trapped within.

This Both/And orientation is also what makes it possible to look honestly at your relationship without catastrophizing. You may have built significant distance with a partner who is genuinely good and genuinely safe. You may have, without intending to, starved your relationship of the emotional nourishment it needed. That is a painful recognition. And — it is also a recoverable one. Many couples have rebuilt genuine emotional intimacy from exactly this starting point, particularly with the support of a skilled couples therapist.

How to build emotional intimacy without flooding your nervous system

The most important thing to understand about building emotional intimacy is that it is not a project you complete. It is a practice you develop. And like any practice — like surgical skill, like a meditation habit, like the ability to run distance — it is built through consistent, graduated repetition, not through a single breakthrough moment of courage.

For women whose nervous systems have been running protective programs for decades, the path to emotional intimacy must be slow enough to avoid triggering the very defenses you are trying to retrain. This is not a failure of commitment. It is neurological reality. The goal is to build new neural pathways — to teach your amygdala, through repeated experience, that emotional exposure in this relationship, with this person, does not end in abandonment, punishment, or annihilation. That kind of learning happens through incremental experience, not through declarations of intent.

Step 1: Develop emotional literacy before you need it

One of the most concrete barriers to emotional intimacy is a limited emotional vocabulary — not because driven women are emotionally unintelligent, but because many were never given language for the full spectrum of internal experience. When your emotional environment as a child was “fine” or “not fine,” “good” or “bad,” you may have arrived at adulthood without the granular vocabulary to distinguish between, say, disappointed and betrayed, or between anxious and afraid. This is not a minor distinction. Each of those words points to a different relational need and a different path toward resolution.

The feeling wheel — most commonly associated with American psychologist Robert Plutchik, who identified eight primary emotions that combine to form the full range of human feeling — is one of the most practically useful tools in this work. Plutchik’s model identifies eight core emotions: joy, sadness, acceptance, disgust, fear, anger, surprise, and anticipation. From these, secondary emotions emerge as combinations — love (joy + acceptance), remorse (sadness + disgust), awe (fear + surprise). Using the wheel as a daily check-in practice — spending two minutes each morning or evening asking “what am I actually feeling right now, and how intense is it” — builds emotional literacy the way vocabulary flashcards build language fluency: slowly, and then all at once.

A practical protocol: Before a conversation with your partner that you anticipate being emotionally significant, sit for five minutes with the feeling wheel and identify three emotions that are present in your body. Name them. Note where you feel them physically. Notice the intensity. This brief preparation dramatically reduces the likelihood of going blank in the moment — because you have already begun the process of naming, and naming reduces amygdala activation.

Step 2: Practice graduated emotional disclosure

Graduated emotional disclosure is the clinical term for what it sounds like: sharing emotionally vulnerable content in small, incremental steps rather than expecting yourself to leap from surface-level to profound in a single conversation. It is the therapeutic equivalent of progressive muscle relaxation — you work with what your nervous system can tolerate today, expand the window slightly, and return tomorrow.

A framework for graduated disclosure, from least to most vulnerable:

Level 1 — Observational. Naming what is happening in your environment or body without interpreting it. “I notice I’ve been quieter than usual this week.” “I felt something shift in my chest when you said that.” This level requires minimal exposure and is accessible even in early nervous-system retraining.

Level 2 — Feeling identification. Using an emotion word, with minimal explanation. “I’ve been feeling lonely lately.” “I’m more anxious than I’ve let on.” This level requires tolerating the slight vulnerability of being named — the risk that your partner will react in a way that confirms your old story about what emotional exposure produces.

Level 3 — Need identification. Naming not just the feeling but what it points toward relationally. “I’ve been feeling lonely, and I think I need more time where we’re just together without our phones.” This level requires the most courage of all three — because stating a need is the most direct form of vulnerability. It is a direct acknowledgment that you are not self-sufficient, that you require something from another person, and that you are trusting them not to weaponize that admission.

The practice of working through these levels gradually — starting at Level 1 consistently until it feels accessible, then moving to Level 2 — is what allows the nervous system to update its threat assessment without being overwhelmed. Growth edges in intimate relationships are, almost always, found in the space between what you can currently do and what is one step beyond it.

Step 3: Somatic check-ins as a daily practice

Because emotional intimacy is, at its core, a body-based experience — felt in the chest, the throat, the belly — the most effective preparation for it is a practice that reacquaints you with your body’s signals. Many driven women operate almost entirely from the neck up. The body is a vehicle for executing the mind’s agenda, not a source of information in its own right. Rebuilding that connection is not optional for women whose somatic dissociation is significant.

A two-minute somatic check-in practice, done daily:

Sit or lie comfortably. Take three slow breaths, extending the exhale. Beginning at the top of your head, move your attention slowly down through your body — scalp, jaw (notice whether it is clenched), throat, chest, belly, hands. At each location, simply ask: What is here? Tension, ease, heat, pressure, nothing? Do not try to change what you find. The goal is observation, not correction.

Over time, this practice rebuilds what somatic therapists call interoceptive awareness — the capacity to notice internal physical states. Research on this practice, derived from work in the fields of somatic experiencing and body-based trauma therapy, shows that regular interoceptive attention not only improves emotional regulation but also increases the ability to identify and articulate emotional states to others. You cannot share what you cannot feel. This practice is how you begin to feel it again.

For those navigating the somatic aftermath of relational trauma, the work of EMDR and somatic therapy may be particularly relevant — these modalities work directly at the level of the nervous system rather than relying solely on cognitive processing.

Step 4: Create a relational container before the conversation

One practical skill that dramatically reduces the threat response during emotionally significant conversations is what Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) practitioners call “setting the container” — explicitly negotiating what the conversation needs to look and feel like before it begins.

This means, in practice, saying something like: “I want to share something with you that is hard for me to say. I don’t need you to fix it or have an answer. I just need you to listen and stay with me while I figure out how to say it.”

This is not weakness or over-explanation. It is a sophisticated relational skill. It tells your nervous system that you have some control over the shape of the encounter — which reduces threat activation. It also gives your partner critical information about what you need from them, which prevents the well-meaning but intimacy-undermining “fixing” response that many driven women’s partners default to.

Sue Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy and author of Hold Me Tight, describes emotionally intimate relationships as ones in which partners can serve as a “secure base” for each other — a place of safety from which each person can explore the world and to which they can return when distressed. Building that secure base requires, first, that you learn to ask for it — which is its own act of radical vulnerability for women who have spent their lives being the secure base for everyone else.

Step 5: Journal prompts to bridge the inner-to-outer gap

For many emotionally avoidant women, writing is the bridge between the internal experience that is too large or too unformed to speak and the spoken vulnerability that feels too exposed to attempt. These prompts are designed to be used privately first — as preparation for eventual disclosure, or simply as practice in naming:

• “The feeling I most consistently hide from my partner is _____________, because I learned that showing it would _____________.”
• “If I could say anything to my partner without consequences, I would tell them _____________.”
• “The moment I most wish someone had seen through my ‘I’m fine’ was _____________.”
• “What I actually need from my closest relationship right now is _____________.”
• “The version of me that existed before I built my walls would describe herself as _____________.”

These prompts work because they bypass the intellectualizing defense — they ask you not for analysis but for disclosure, and they do so in the relative safety of a page that will not react, judge, or need anything from you in return. The goal is not to stay in the journal. The goal is to use the journal as a rehearsal space for what, over time, you can begin to bring into your actual relationships.

If you are also navigating the complex terrain of physical intimacy alongside emotional intimacy, it is worth noting that these two forms of closeness are deeply interconnected. Many women find that as emotional barriers begin to soften, their relationship to physical intimacy shifts as well — sometimes becoming richer, sometimes becoming more complicated. Both responses are valid and worth exploring.

When to seek professional support

Everything in this article is designed to be practically useful on its own. But there are circumstances in which the work of building emotional intimacy is beyond what self-guided practice can address — and recognizing those circumstances is itself a form of emotional intelligence.

Consider seeking professional support when:

The avoidance has a history of trauma behind it. If your emotional walls were built in response to genuinely traumatic experiences — abuse, neglect, narcissistic abuse, betrayal trauma, or growing up with a borderline or emotionally immature parent — the nervous system retraining involved typically requires more than journaling and graduated disclosure. Trauma-informed modalities such as EMDR, somatic experiencing, or Internal Family Systems (IFS) work directly at the level of the nervous system where the wounding occurred, rather than relying solely on cognitive or behavioral intervention.

Your relationship is in active distress. If the emotional distance in your partnership has created a pursuer-distancer dynamic that has become entrenched, or if your partner has expressed that they feel emotionally starved in the relationship, couples therapy is often the most effective next step — not because you cannot do individual work, but because relational patterns change most efficiently in the relational context in which they are embedded. A skilled couples therapist can hold the container for both partners’ nervous systems simultaneously, which is something no individual session can replicate.

You are not sure whether your relationship is safe enough for vulnerability. One of the most important clinical questions in this work — and one of the most frequently avoided — is whether the relationship you are trying to open up in is actually safe. Not all partnerships can hold emotional vulnerability. If there is a history of contempt, gaslighting, or emotional manipulation in your relationship, the answer to your avoidance may not be “be more vulnerable.” It may be more complex than that, and it deserves individual clinical support to sort through.

The numbness or disconnection feels pervasive. If the inability to access your emotional experience extends beyond your intimate relationship — if you feel dissociated or chronically numb across most areas of life — this warrants attention as a clinical matter in its own right. Dissociation is not a personality trait. It is a nervous system response to overwhelm, and it is treatable.

Maya, from our opening, eventually made a call to a therapist — not because Daniel gave her an ultimatum, but because she sat with his words for three months and slowly understood that the loneliness he named was the same loneliness she had been carrying alone for thirty years. She was not broken. She was, at last, ready to stop pretending she was not also in the rain.

The courage to be seen does not arrive fully formed. It is assembled, slowly, from a hundred small moments of choosing to reach toward connection rather than away from it. Each one matters. Each one is practice. And each one is, in its own way, the beginning of something the fortress was built to prevent — and the thing it was always, underneath all that stone, trying to protect.

If you are ready to explore this work with professional support, working with a trauma-informed therapist who specializes in relational patterns for high-achieving women may be the most direct path forward.

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