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I hope the remaining 84 emotional intimacy questions below feel helpful to you as a starting point to generate interesting and rich questions between you and your partner.
Emotional intimacy doesn’t happen by accident. It’s something we nurture through curiosity, reflection, and the courage to be seen. May these questions offer a meaningful starting point.
99 Questions to Strengthen the Emotional Intimacy of Your Relationship: Part Two
- Is there anything you’ve been longing for that might spice up our love life?
- What’s your favorite non-sexual way of being touched by me?
- When was the last time you daydreamed about us and our relationship? What was the daydream about?
- What are three strengths or gifts or skills that you think you bring to our relationship?
- What character qualities are you most proud of in yourself?
- Where do you think you came by those character traits? Do you attribute any of it to your mom or dad?
- What’s the biggest lesson your father (or father-figure) ever taught you?
- What’s the biggest lesson your mother (or mother-figure) ever taught you?
- When you were younger, did you trust your parents?
- What was your favorite meal as a kid? Is it still your favorite meal as an adult?
- What three adjectives would you use to describe your childhood?
- Who was your childhood best friend? What did you guys like to do together?
- When you were younger and you got scared or overwhelmed, what would you do to take care of yourself?
- Did you have any special or secret spaces you loved to play in as a child?
- What was the first album/cd/mp3 you ever bought? Why that one?
- What’s your favorite song of all time? Why that one?
- If there was a soundtrack of your life, what songs might be on it and why?
- Do you ever think about what song you’d like played at your funeral? What do the lyrics of that song mean to you?
- What do you think about death? What do you believe happens after we die?
- What was your first experience with death? Was it a relative? A pet? How did this impact you?
- If you knew you only had a year to live, what would you do in that year?
- Who were some of your childhood heroes? The people who made you feel like things were going to be okay and that you were special?
- What was your favorite TV show as a kid?
- What movie made the biggest impression on you as a teenager? As an adult?
- What book made the biggest impression on you as a teenager? As an adult?
- If you were stranded on a deserted island, what three books would you take and why?
- If you were stranded on a deserted island, what three tools would you take and why?
- If you could only eat five foods (plus water) for the rest of your life, what would they be?
- If you could make a travel bucket list, what are the top five countries you’re most longing to visit?
