Is Your Nervous System Running Your Career? A Self-Assessment

By Annie Wright, LMFT

URL: https://anniewright.com/nervous-system-running-career-self-assessment/

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The Hidden Cost of High Achievement

You are successful. You have the title, the salary, and the respect of your peers. But if you are honest with yourself, you are also exhausted.

You might be wondering if this exhaustion is just the normal cost of doing business at your level, or if it is something deeper.

For many high-achieving women, the drive that propelled them to the top is not just ambition; it is a trauma response. It is a nervous system that is stuck in a chronic state of hyper-vigilance, constantly scanning for threats and using over-work, perfectionism, or people-pleasing as a survival strategy.

This self-assessment is designed to help you determine if your career is being driven by your prefrontal cortex (your strategic, regulated self) or your brainstem (your traumatized, survival-oriented self).

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The Assessment

Read through the following statements. Be brutally honest with yourself. Check the box next to any statement that feels true for you most of the time.

Section 1: The Hyper-Independence Response (Fight/Flight)

• [ ] I find it physically uncomfortable to delegate important tasks, even when I am overwhelmed.
• [ ] When a team member makes a mistake, my immediate internal reaction is panic or rage, followed by the thought, “I just have to do it myself.”
• [ ] I frequently rewrite or heavily edit my direct reports’ work late at night or on weekends.
• [ ] I believe that if I drop the ball on even one minor detail, the entire project (or company) will fail.
• [ ] I feel a constant, low-grade sense of urgency, even when there is no actual crisis.

Section 2: The Perfectionism Response (Fawn/Flight)

• [ ] I spend an unreasonable amount of time preparing for routine meetings because I am terrified of being asked a question I cannot answer.
• [ ] I view feedback or constructive criticism not as data, but as a devastating indictment of my worth.
• [ ] I cannot celebrate a win; I immediately move the goalpost to the next, harder target.
• [ ] I often feel like an imposter who is one mistake away from being exposed and fired.
• [ ] I will sacrifice my sleep, my health, and my relationships to ensure a deliverable is “flawless.”

Section 3: The People-Pleasing Response (Fawn)

• [ ] I have a very difficult time holding my peers or my boss accountable, even when their behavior is toxic or detrimental to the business.
• [ ] I frequently absorb the emotional tension in the boardroom, acting as the unofficial “peacemaker” at the expense of my own strategic goals.
• [ ] I say “yes” to projects or committees that I do not have time for because I am afraid of disappointing people.
• [ ] I modulate my tone, my appearance, and my opinions to ensure that the men in the room feel comfortable and unthreatened by my power.
• [ ] I feel responsible for the emotional well-being of my team, to the point where I cannot deliver necessary critical feedback.

Section 4: The Functional Freeze Response (Dorsal Vagal)

• [ ] I look highly functional on the outside (I am still hitting my targets), but inside I feel completely numb and disconnected from my work.
• [ ] I procrastinate on critical, high-stakes decisions until the very last minute, paralyzing my team in the process.
• [ ] I frequently fantasize about quitting my job, moving to a cabin in the woods, and never looking at a screen again.
• [ ] I use alcohol, scrolling, or online shopping to “numb out” at the end of the workday because I cannot tolerate the silence of my own mind.
• [ ] I feel a profound sense of emptiness, even when I achieve a major career milestone.

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Scoring Your Results

Count the number of boxes you checked.

0–3 Checks: The Regulated Leader

Your nervous system is generally well-regulated. You experience stress, but you have the somatic resilience to return to a baseline of safety. You are likely leading from your prefrontal cortex, making strategic decisions based on data rather than fear. Traditional executive coaching or strategic consulting may be highly effective for you if you are looking to scale your impact.

4–8 Checks: The Strained Foundation

Your “proverbial house of life” is standing, but the foundation is showing significant cracks. You are using survival strategies (like perfectionism or hyper-independence) to manage the pressure of your role. You are likely experiencing early signs of burnout. This is the ideal time to intervene with trauma-informed coaching, before your nervous system forces you into a full collapse.

9+ Checks: The Trauma-Driven Career

Your nervous system is running the show. You are operating in a chronic state of dysregulation (fight, flight, freeze, or fawn). Your career success is being fueled by the adrenaline of unresolved relational trauma, and the biological cost is becoming unsustainable. You are at high risk for severe executive burnout, physical illness, or a crisis in your personal life.

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What Do I Do Now?

If you scored 4 or higher, you are not broken. You are simply running a brilliant childhood survival strategy in an adult corporate environment.

But you cannot mindset-hack your way out of a dysregulated nervous system. You cannot fix a biological problem with a time-management app.

You need to heal the foundation.

The Next Step: Trauma-Informed Executive Coaching

I specialize in helping high-achieving women rewire their nervous systems so they can lead from a place of grounded power, rather than a place of panic.

In my 1:1 executive coaching container, we do not just talk about strategy. We map your nervous system. We translate your trauma blueprint. And we use titrated, somatic interventions to help you build the physiological capacity to handle the immense pressure of the C-suite without sacrificing your health or your joy.

If you are ready to stop surviving your career and start actually leading it, I invite you to apply for coaching.

[Apply for 1:1 Executive Coaching with Annie Wright] (Link to application form)

Please note: I take on a strictly limited number of 1:1 clients at a time to ensure the highest level of clinical and strategic support.

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